NSFW Anyone else a virgin?

[Amile]

kant and newton = died virgins.
chris chan = not virgin.
it makes you think.

 

[ForsakenEcho]

Looking back, I wish I had waited for someone special. When I turned 18, I was already living on my own and decided it was time. I just wanted to get it over with.

I met a girl on tinder, and eventually we went out and ended up doing it on the first date. There wasn't much emotion involved or anything like that. Thinking back on it now, I didn't really feel anything beyond a moment of physical pleasure.

A few years later, when I was with someone who truly meant a lot to me, it was a completely different experience.

So these days, I only really feel the desire to be with someone I truly love.

 

[EmptyBottle]

I'm 21, and besides self-love, have also never 'mated' before.

 

[Linda]

I'm incredibly embarrassed that as a 29 gay man I'm still a virgin. I consider it a massive mark of failure. I'm thinking of hiring an escort, someone who would probably be kinder to virgins/non experienced men so that I can get over this insecurity of mine. It's the root of many of my insecurities about my body, my behaviour etc.

I think hiring an escort is a good idea for someone in your circumstances. I suggest you look for one who has his own place and works from there. If you are in a large city, it shouldn't be difficult to find someone like that. You might pay a bit more, but, as with everything, you get what you pay for. Explain exactly why you have come, and what you want. Don't be embarrassed. Escorts have heard more kinds of requests than you can even imagine.

With sex, a lot depends on personal chemistry, so try to find an escort who you actually like, both physcially and as a person. If the first one you try is not satisfactory, try again with someone else.

It goes without saying that you should use proper protection. And if you use a lubricant, it should be a water-based one. Other kinds - I remember some gay men back in the 1970s used vaseline - can weaken condoms.

Good luck.