Any self-hating gays on here?

[Nymph]

It's not easier to get relationships. It is easier to get sex though

Yeah, I agree:( but no one wants to stay. It's just sex and done..

 

[CTB-London]

I wish I was gay tbh. Would be easier to get realtionships (or at least better than literally nothing) and by now nobody hates them anymore

Being gay makes it harder, not easier, to find a relationship

 

[ixkitty]

Ohai, bi person here . I hate me but not because I'm bi. Or pan since I'm not limiting myself to cis male/female .... anyway! My childhood was full of "You're going to hell because ..." but again... anyway ! I don't like myself nor my body type more my inability to be androgynous.

The number of girls in my area that are either taken or ... very ... not my type I guess... are massive...

The number of guys that only want me as another tally mark on their sex score is even higher than that...

The generally decent people are randomly on tiktok and a whole ocean away.. so.... there's that.

Also it's literally just the surface of the iceberg as to why jumping off of a cliff or hanging oneself sounds like a great first date ...

I'm not gay, but I am a bisexual woman who is more sexually attracted to women and it's just recently started to become a problem. I've never felt part of the lgbtq+ community because no one really takes bisexuality seriously, especially the gay community. I've dated more men for a few reasons. The biggest one is simple math. There are more heterosexual men than women interested in women. It's nearly impossible to find a woman I'm attracted to, that is attracted to me and be aware of it. Also, I'm more nervous around women that I'm attracted to than men I'm attracted to. Lately, the only kind of relationship I'd be interested in is one with a woman and there are just no options for me where I'm at. When I looked online, being bisexual, I just spent an hour swiping left on headless couples looking for threesomes, a few women looking to be "serviced" (seriously, that word was used twice), a couple of "lesbians only" lesbians, and very few others not all compatible or nearby. That's another huge problem with dating women when you're bisexual. A lot of lesbians don't want a bisexual partner and a lot of bisexual women don't want to seriously date me. So anyway, I've stopped searching altogether and honestly, I don't even know why I tried. I don't really have the energy for a relationship right now anyway. So no, I'm not a self hating gay and my problems are not at all as bad as many gay people, and especially not as bad as transgender people have it but I do understand it a little. I'm still not very open about my bisexuality, and I do hide it occasionally. But man, I do want a girlfriend.

Freaking preach ! Yes! I feel you on all the accounts stated

 

[Bauhaus]

Yes, definitely, it's the starting point for all my other problems.

 

[ZardozOmega]

Yes, definitely, it's the starting point for all other problems.

where are you from?

 

[Bauhaus]

Belgium, why ?

 

[ZardozOmega]

Belgium, why ?

i thought you might have been from a homophobic country, but i was wrong

 

[Bauhaus]

No, but never got out the closet.
Also remember I'm from a different time period (born '71)

 

[bobjohn420911]

I would not want to say it... but i guess i have or can have gay sexual thoughts. I guess that makes me bi sexual. I don't want to be attracted to men or want to be gay though. When i was growing up i would have gay thoughts and would watch gay stuff like cuckold porn. It really made me hate myself and i would be so confused.

I am really attracted to girls though. When i see a hot girl. I am literally drooling over her. Although other times I have extremely gay thoughts. Although I am beginning to learn how to think differently and only about women.

I also struggled with believing that i needed or feeling like i wanted to be submissive. That is also what i was experiencing when i thought about gay stuff. the feeling of wanting to be submissive. I struggled with being addicted to femdom and humiliation porn.
Although i learned that it feels good to watch that stuff however AFTERWARDS i feel like shit about myself.

So i quit that stuff. Hopefully i have rid it from my mind for good. Watching normal videos of girls and pics of girls that are more natural feels good and afterwards i can actually live with myself afterwards.

I blame these problems on my poor upbringing. I never had a good dad and my mom verbally abused me my whole life constantly putting me down.

I feel straight now. Although I know I could do some extremely submissive homo simp stuff at will any moment. Although I prefer to choose to be alpha and dominant because that feels better in the long run.

 

[Pony]

and would watch gay stuff like cuckold porn.

cuck porn doesn't have to be gay..

 

[Meditation guide]

I'm pansexual and not self hating at all but I wanted to make that announcement somewhere.

Sexuality changes over time in some of us.

Someone above was talking about wanting a girlfriend since she is bisexual and the difficulty of finding one. I'm in that category. I could be bisexual but it's so impossible to act on that.

 

[bobjohn420911]

cuck porn doesn't have to be gay..

dude.... unless its 1 guy fucking a girl infront a girl that aint gay.....

if its a guy watching a guy fuck a girl.... that is gay.

if its a guy fucking a girl infront of a guy... that is also gay.

any sex with any other men involved is gay.

 

[Pony]

dude.... unless its 1 guy fucking a girl infront a girl that aint gay.....

if its a guy watching a guy fuck a girl.... that is gay.

if its a guy fucking a girl infront of a guy... that is also gay.

any sex with any other men involved is gay.

watching anything other than lesbian porn must be gay then :) since theres 2 guys you and the guy fucking the girl

 

[Nexey]

dude.... unless its 1 guy fucking a girl infront a girl that aint gay.....

if its a guy watching a guy fuck a girl.... that is gay.

if its a guy fucking a girl infront of a guy... that is also gay.

any sex with any other men involved is gay.

I can relate to you a lot about the whole "being bi but not really" part, albeit my circumstances are much different.

I don't agree with your view on this, though. I agree that male cuckolds likely have "gay tendencies." But the same could be said about cuckqueans... There's a double standard here.

 

[bobjohn420911]

watching anything other than lesbian porn must be gay then :) since theres 2 guys you and the guy fucking the girl

exactly. 90% of porn hub is gay. Your right. That is why i do not watch any porn with any guys in it. I only watch videos with girls. Or solo girl in it. What you see on your computer screen is exactly like what you would see in real life.

You wouldnt be jerking your dick in real life to a guy fucking a girl would you? well mabye if your gay and don't care....

however i want to be straight so i don't

i used too but seriously i think that creates unhealthy patterns and habits.

I feel much better about myself just watching videos a of solo girl twerking or showing boobs .... or pics of hot girls..... way more of a pure feeling.

 

[Pony]

You wouldnt be jerking your dick in real life to a guy fucking a girl would you? well mabye if your gay and don't care....

gay guys dont usually jerk off to straight porn..

 

[bobjohn420911]

I can relate to you a lot about the whole "being bi but not really" part, albeit my circumstances are much different.

I don't agree with your view on this, though. I agree that male cuckolds likely have "gay tendencies." But the same could be said about cuckqueans... There's a double standard here.

a cuckqueen..... well yeah a cuckqueen would be lesbian. There is no double standard.

You can be straight guy if your having sex with 2 gay females. However you can't be straight having sex with a girl and a guy around. vice versa. same sex sex is gay bro no ifs or buts

you can change what you watch or do. You are in control..... that is... if you have the will *laughs maniacally"

no but seriously i recommend to anyone to be straight. It is the purest feeling. Nature wants us to be straight to make a future. Gay is just a side effect. No problem though do what you want. However I am much more happy with trying to be alpha and not give a girl a penny because i want to be pimp not a simp... and no not literally selling girls i am just stating i want to be the boss.

 

[Pony]

simping for girls does not make you gay

 

[bobjohn420911]

gay guys dont usually jerk off to straight porn..

well i meant gay as in bisexual i guess. sorry for not detailing my explanation.

gay = bisexual = gay

fully gay guys with no attraction to girls of course would not want to be anywhere near a girl. i honestly just can't believe how some people don't like girls. i mean i have talked to gay guys before about this. Like girls are soooo hot specially on the shorter side... skinny young..... oooooooooo like just to die for

simping for girls does not make you gay

it really does. anything submissive is gay. your giving the girl the power. simping is just the first step to letting another guy fuck your girl... next step is drinking the jizz out of his condom after he fucked her..... its a downward spiral to abyss of darkness and low self esteem.

dont simp

biggie smalls in 1996 said in free style "i rather beat my dick then trick"

trick = a man who pays a female prostitute for sex

trick can also mean a girl who is a prostitute.... just for disclosure.

so i am like biggie i rather beat my dick then pay a girl... i rather find a play boy magazine in a dumpster then pay for porn...

although that depends how good that porn would be......... but foreal i aint giving a girl a penny. not after my last experience with girls... and seeing how ignorant some woman are. i rather jerk off to my imagination. you can give youself a boner if you focus your mind and day dream your wildest fantasy's try it for 30 minutes atleast.... it is pretty epic.. there is no limit to what your imagination can do. anyways i am rambling....

 

[whywere]

I am bi, and I NEVER hate anyone or anything. "Hate" is NOT in my vocabulary at all. We are ALL the same period. My "parents" kicked me out when they found out and I will NEVER treat someone like that ever.

 

[Pony]

anything submissive is gay. your giving the girl the power.

you have a very limited view of human sexuality. unironically toxic masculinity applies in this situation.

 

[bobjohn420911]

you have a very limited view of human sexuality. unironically toxic masculinity applies in this situation.

how do i have a limited view. If man has sex with a girl and there is a man around. both the men are doing bi sexual / gay acts.... its pretty straight forward.

being straight is when you are a guy that has sex with women.

being bisexual is having sex with woman and guys.

being gay is having sex with guys...

for woman it is vice versa.....

its pretty basic 1 + 1 = 2

guy + guy = gay

guy + girl = straight

guy + girl + guy = bisexual/gay

i mean do what ever you want. but.... it is what it is.

 

[Pony]

you think being submissive towards a woman is gay

 

[bobjohn420911]

you think being submissive towards a woman is gay

I mean..... I know what you are saying... its you and a girl however. Being submissive is gay. It really is. A man should not obey a woman.

Obviously i am hoping no feminists read this or they will attack me. It true though. I mean showing attraction to a girl or lusting for a girl is one thing. But bending over backwards or getting on your hands and knees for a woman.... that is gay dude. she is now taking the place of the man.

You got to be a man. Strong. Because that woman cannot be the boss of you? you know why? because she can only have kids limited amount of times. If your stuck with her and she is the boss that means your selling yourself short holding yourself back. You need to be strong dominant so you can make that girl submit. Then move on to the next female and make her submit. Then the next 100,000 females and make them submit.

now do you see?

*puts on morpheus sunglasses while sitting back in chair*

 

[Pony]

*puts on morpheus sunglasses while sitting back in chair*

epic bro
I totally get it now, if someone is being submissive towards a woman that obviously means they want to have sex with men.

just to be clear that was sarcasm.

 

[summers]

@bobjohn420911 maybe you don't know this, but a lot of ss members are victims of abuse, both physical and sexual. I'm sure they appreciate your misogynistic views...

 

[bobjohn420911]

epic bro
I totally get it now, if someone is being submissive towards a woman that obviously means they want to have sex with men.

just to be clear that was sarcasm.

hahahha. your funny dude.

Seriously man don't you see submission is the first step to being gay. It is not 100% gay. Although it is going in the direction.

This is just judging from my exposure to submission to females... seeing films of guys getting feet shoved in there mouths and wearing dog collars and leashes...... i mean.... its pretty gay i don't know how you could possibly say your straight letting a woman boss you around.

@bobjohn420911 maybe you don't know this, but a lot of ss members are victims of abuse, both physical and sexual. I'm sure they appreciate your misogynistic views...

@bobjohn420911 maybe you don't know this, but a lot of ss members are victims of abuse, both physical and sexual. I'm sure they appreciate your misogynistic views...

I have nothing against woman. And i said nothing derogatory against woman. I am just stating that men should should have an equal say to woman and that being submissive to a woman is basically gay because men should not be submissive.

 

[summers]

@bobjohn420911 you probably have VERY limited experience in this, but what you see in porn doesn't really happen when two people have sex most of the time. For someone to be submissive, the other party must be dominant. Most of the time, when two people have sex, they just want to connect and make one another feel good. Dominance and submission don't play into it at all.

 

[bobjohn420911]

@bobjohn420911 you probably have VERY limited experience in this, but what you see in porn doesn't really happen when two people have sex most of the time. For someone to be submissive, the other party must be dominant. Most of the time, when two people have sex, they just want to connect and make one another feel good. Dominance and submission don't play into it at all.

well exactly. However the dude was saying that being submissive is not gay. Which uhhhh it basically is or is leading to it.

 

[Pony]

well exactly. However the dude was saying that being submissive is not gay. Which uhhhh it basically is or is leading to it.

how can having sex with a woman as a man be gay