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SmallKoy

SmallKoy

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Jan 18, 2024
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If anyone has any coping strategies for severe anxiety/stress I would love to hear them. What do you when you're anxious or stressed? Unhealthy or not. I struggle with sh, but mainly it's due to bottling up my emotions. I normally can't talk about what I'm stressed about, ever. It's hard to find a release. Sometimes I get so anxious that I lay in bed and that's all I can bare to do. I feel lazy, is that laziness?
 
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leavingthesoultrap

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Nov 25, 2023
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When I am about to have a panic attack I take a shower. Then I try to distract myself with some videos while vaping cbd
 
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cgrtt.brns

cgrtt.brns

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Apr 19, 2023
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laziness is choosing not to do something even if your capable of doing it, so you're definitely not lazy, just struggling.
as far as "healthy" coping mechanisms go i tried progressive muscle relaxation recently and it helped quite a bit. i used a guided audio thing i got from a therapist but im sure theres good ones online. u just sit/lie down and gradually tense and let go of each muscle group. it helped me feel a bit less tense n just calmer for a bit.
unhealthy coping mechanisms are drinking, smoking, sh, hiding in my room, distracting myself constantly with music or youtube etc. just like generally avoiding everything bc im too scared or worried ill just have a panic attack. i dont rly have any coping mechanisms for when im about to have a panic attack, ive never figured out how to stop them once theyre already on the way.
 
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Argo

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May 19, 2018
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If anyone has any coping strategies for severe anxiety/stress I would love to hear them. What do you when you're anxious or stressed? Unhealthy or not. I struggle with sh, but mainly it's due to bottling up my emotions. I normally can't talk about what I'm stressed about, ever. It's hard to find a release. Sometimes I get so anxious that I lay in bed and that's all I can bare to do. I feel lazy, is that laziness?

You're talking about the kind of anxiety that only harms us, right? Since anxiety and fear are emotions that have a purpose-- to show us danger and modify our behavior to get away from danger.

If we grew up with a constant alarm that said: "Threat! Threat!" all the time, then our anxiety is probably ingrained(among other things like ADHD, depression, these are just strategies that get ingrained to try to survive).

It helps just to realize the way that works, even if you already had a bit of an intuition, just know that we're just expressing these emotions automatically and reactively, so the first part is having that knowledge. Emotions can connect to reality, but they can also horribly mislead, and cause us to suffer pointlessly(and cause people around us to suffer pointlessly too). Your suffering is always real, but the emotions aren't always right. But that doesn't solve it, right? That alone hasn't magically made it so you'll never suffer from anxiety again. What's the problem then, if it's not knowledge?. It's partly knowledge, but it has to be realized at the moment it's needed through awareness.

When we're having something like an anxiety attack, we're actually not aware or examining things. Isn't it that we're just totally lost in the emotion? It's holding us hostage from doing the thing we want in the way we'd want to. Compare the you right now, who isn't having an anxiety attack, who is more free to reflect calmly, to the you who is at peak anxiety. See how different that is? This may sound confusing but the main point is: the calm and reflective you right now, is accessible in the moment where you're lost in anxiety, through awareness.

It's being sensitive to that difference that can free you from any negative emotion. One of the simplest ways to start that is just to take a deep breath. Maybe it sounds unsatisfying because of how simple it is, but it really works. And you can condition yourself to do this the same way that your anxiety was conditioned, the more you repeat something, whether it's positive or negative, the more ignrained it gets. Close your eyes if you can, take some of the slowest, most careful breaths you can, see if you notice that this causes you to relax, and then from there just be curious and ask gently: "What is this anxiety? Where is it? What happens to it when it's observed? Does it stay? Does it change, or vanish?" You can even do this when you're not particularly anxious
 
SmallKoy

SmallKoy

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Jan 18, 2024
99
I have social anxiety and my coping mechanism is avoidance. I'm a hiki who stays in my room all day
What is a hiki?
You're talking about the kind of anxiety that only harms us, right? Since anxiety and fear are emotions that have a purpose-- to show us danger and modify our behavior to get away from danger.

If we grew up with a constant alarm that said: "Threat! Threat!" all the time, then our anxiety is probably ingrained(among other things like ADHD, depression, these are just strategies that get ingrained to try to survive).

It helps just to realize the way that works, even if you already had a bit of an intuition, just know that we're just expressing these emotions automatically and reactively, so the first part is having that knowledge. Emotions can connect to reality, but they can also horribly mislead, and cause us to suffer pointlessly(and cause people around us to suffer pointlessly too). Your suffering is always real, but the emotions aren't always right. But that doesn't solve it, right? That alone hasn't magically made it so you'll never suffer from anxiety again. What's the problem then, if it's not knowledge?. It's partly knowledge, but it has to be realized at the moment it's needed through awareness.

When we're having something like an anxiety attack, we're actually not aware or examining things. Isn't it that we're just totally lost in the emotion? It's holding us hostage from doing the thing we want in the way we'd want to. Compare the you right now, who isn't having an anxiety attack, who is more free to reflect calmly, to the you who is at peak anxiety. See how different that is? This may sound confusing but the main point is: the calm and reflective you right now, is accessible in the moment where you're lost in anxiety, through awareness.

It's being sensitive to that difference that can free you from any negative emotion. One of the simplest ways to start that is just to take a deep breath. Maybe it sounds unsatisfying because of how simple it is, but it really works. And you can condition yourself to do this the same way that your anxiety was conditioned, the more you repeat something, whether it's positive or negative, the more ignrained it gets. Close your eyes if you can, take some of the slowest, most careful breaths you can, see if you notice that this causes you to relax, and then from there just be curious and ask gently: "What is this anxiety? Where is it? What happens to it when it's observed? Does it stay? Does it change, or vanish?" You can even do this when you're not particularly anxious
I appreciate your well thought out advice. Thank you. I'll try my best to apply this.
laziness is choosing not to do something even if your capable of doing it, so you're definitely not lazy, just struggling.
as far as "healthy" coping mechanisms go i tried progressive muscle relaxation recently and it helped quite a bit. i used a guided audio thing i got from a therapist but im sure theres good ones online. u just sit/lie down and gradually tense and let go of each muscle group. it helped me feel a bit less tense n just calmer for a bit.
unhealthy coping mechanisms are drinking, smoking, sh, hiding in my room, distracting myself constantly with music or youtube etc. just like generally avoiding everything bc im too scared or worried ill just have a panic attack. i dont rly have any coping mechanisms for when im about to have a panic attack, ive never figured out how to stop them once theyre already on the way.
I've never heard of progressive muscle relaxation. I'll look into it.
 
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sserafim

sserafim

they say it’s darkest of all before the dawn
Sep 13, 2023
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What is a hiki?

I appreciate your well thought out advice. Thank you. I'll try my best to apply this.

I've never heard of progressive muscle relaxation. I'll look into it.
Hikikomori aka a shut-in. Basically someone who stays home all day and doesn't go outside into the real world. I'm one because people make me anxious and give me anxiety, so I avoid them. Lol
 
SmallKoy

SmallKoy

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Jan 18, 2024
99
Hikikomori aka a shut-in. Basically someone who stays home all day and doesn't go outside into the real world. I'm one because people make me anxious and give me anxiety, so I avoid them. Lol
Maybe that applies to me as well. Lol.
 
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Ambivalent1

Ambivalent1

Spunky
Apr 17, 2023
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If anyone has any coping strategies for severe anxiety/stress I would love to hear them. What do you when you're anxious or stressed? Unhealthy or not. I struggle with sh, but mainly it's due to bottling up my emotions. I normally can't talk about what I'm stressed about, ever. It's hard to find a release. Sometimes I get so anxious that I lay in bed and that's all I can bare to do. I feel lazy, is that laziness?
Meditation. Close eyes and go from your head to your feet. Ask what x body part feels like and hone in on it. Do this with the rest of your body. It helps.
 
MatrixPrisoner

MatrixPrisoner

Enlightened
Jul 8, 2023
1,044
It's not laziness at all. It's real somatic debilitation. Mechanical tensing of the muscles and overhypeventilaton of the respiratory organs. More than not panic attacks. I am seeing many accounts of magnesium supplements helping. I take magnesium glycinate myself. Athough i haven't had life changing results with it yet, I do notice that my sleep and dreams have improved immensely. I am hoping that eventually pays dividends in the form of my body being more able to stave of any fatigue aspects of my anxiety.
 
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iloverachel

Mage
Mar 7, 2024
531
Hikikomori aka a shut-in. Basically someone who stays home all day and doesn't go outside into the real world. I'm one because people make me anxious and give me anxiety, so I avoid them. Lol
Same here! I hate and absolutely dread leaving the house. Strangers give me anxiety, and make me feel isolated and depressed so i see no point in leaving the house
 
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