anti-therapy people, post your cringe moments with therapy

[asian.neet]

 

[Adûnâi]

Nobody has posted anything? Sad. I'm not sure whether my Ukrainian experience is of any relevance because we're a barbaric, useless country, but my mom paid 15 EUR for 50 min, and during the online session, the dud outright said "we're speaking freely right now" (referring to my lack of experience talking to people), and I compared him to an escort (and he understood the word, haha).

Imagine wasting 15 EUR on this, I could have bought another sex toy or something.

 

[gethsemane]

Where I am, people get overprescribed medication all the time because the insurance and the provider benefit from it. I dislike how instead of actually trying to do their job, they'd rather just medicate you and just leave you to deal with all the consequences yourself. And the therapists are the ones making that judgement call!

 

[silentcicada]

I paid $200 out of pocket weekly for a therapist I eventually stopped seeing. When I reached out months later I did not hear anything back from her.

I have so many stories

 

[ggetout33]

It's been a few years but when I talked to one of my therapists about how much I struggle with social situations as an autistic person, my therapist made the brilliant suggestion that I should keep going outside more and keep interacting with neurotypicals. I literally told her I stay in my room to decompress since throughout my life that was my safe space from the NT world. Ugh.

 

[loopdaloop]

I was cringing hard during all my experiences I had with therapists. It's difficult to pinpoint a single moment I felt more uncomfortable than usual when the whole experience is uncomfortable.

 

[Orange Cat]

When I was a teenager, I had an eating disorder and my doctor recommended that I go to therapy so that I would have someone to talk to. I didn't like the therapist from the moment that I met him. He just made me uncomfortable. My father forced me to go to him and wouldn't let me switch therapists because my doctor recommended him..
pist
One day I was sitting in the waiting room, when the receptionist told me that he had an emergency and had to leave the office and rescheduled an appoint for next week. The next week at the beginning of the session, he apologized for the missed session the week before saying he had an emergency with another patient. He told me that this other patient had threatened to kill herself. Then he told me that she was a pain in the ass who kept threatening to kill herself for the last 2 years. He said that she would often threaten to kill herself after he went home for the day, and he would get a call from the answering service saying there was an emergency. He was mad because he said that he had to make a lot of phone calls and fill out a ton of paperwork every time that she did this or else he would lose his license if she did something. Then he told me that she was just wasting his time and being a drama queen because she has been saying this for 2 years. He spent half of the session venting about this.

I really didn't want to continue to go to therapy with this jerk. My father forced me to continue going to therapy with him for months even after I told him what happened. Then to top it off, he told my father who was waiting for me in the waiting room that he couldn't get anywhere with me because I wouldn't open up to him during the sessions even after months of therapy and probably had trust issues. When we got home, my father yelled at me and wanted to know why I wouldn't talk to the therapist about what was bothering me. Gee I wonder if it had anything to do with the fact that he was trashing and making fun of another of his patients in front of me?

 

[passivethought121]

I was once told by a therapist "The fact that you're alive is evidence you want to keep living!!' Which really fucked with me. Was in panic for a week straight because I felt an urgency to die

 

[kermudgeon]

It's been a few years but when I talked to one of my therapists about how much I struggle with social situations as an autistic person, my therapist made the brilliant suggestion that I should keep going outside more and keep interacting with neurotypicals. I literally told her I stay in my room to decompress since throughout my life that was my safe space from the NT world. Ugh.

It's so enfuriating when people who should be knowledgeable about autism are very much fucking not

 

[Ambivalent1]

She asked me why I don't believe in Christianity. I refuted the religion and she was never friendly again

 

[SoulofSteel]

Nobody has posted anything? Sad. I'm not sure whether my Ukrainian experience is of any relevance because we're a barbaric, useless country, but my mom paid 15 EUR for 50 min, and during the online session, the dud outright said "we're speaking freely right now" (referring to my lack of experience talking to people), and I compared him to an escort (and he understood the word, haha).

Imagine wasting 15 EUR on this, I could have bought another sex toy or something.

Had to waste about $50 an hour for some online appointments to get told some textbook tier advice and suggestions, and I mean venting feels good but like, if I wanted that I could have just spoken to a friend. I'm convinced therapy is a meme.

When I was a teenager, I had an eating disorder and my doctor recommended that I go to therapy so that I would have someone to talk to. I didn't like the therapist from the moment that I met him. He just made me uncomfortable. My father forced me to go to him and wouldn't let me switch therapists because my doctor recommended him..
pist
One day I was sitting in the waiting room, when the receptionist told me that he had an emergency and had to leave the office and rescheduled an appoint for next week. The next week at the beginning of the session, he apologized for the missed session the week before saying he had an emergency with another patient. He told me that this other patient had threatened to kill herself. Then he told me that she was a pain in the ass who kept threatening to kill herself for the last 2 years. He said that she would often threaten to kill herself after he went home for the day, and he would get a call from the answering service saying there was an emergency. He was mad because he said that he had to make a lot of phone calls and fill out a ton of paperwork every time that she did this or else he would lose his license if she did something. Then he told me that she was just wasting his time and being a drama queen because she has been saying this for 2 years. He spent half of the session venting about this.

I really didn't want to continue to go to therapy with this jerk. My father forced me to continue going to therapy with him for months even after I told him what happened. Then to top it off, he told my father who was waiting for me in the waiting room that he couldn't get anywhere with me because I wouldn't open up to him during the sessions even after months of therapy and probably had trust issues. When we got home, my father yelled at me and wanted to know why I wouldn't talk to the therapist about what was bothering me. Gee I wonder if it had anything to do with the fact that he was trashing and making fun of another of his patients in front of me?

This guy was just a total jackass but it makes me think about what therapists in general REALLY think about their patients.

 

[hikikomorizombie]

i view therapy/the entire mental health system as a scam, & as a placebo effect for those it's helped. or they weren't doing that badly in the 1st place. i've seen therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, & counselors. they all tell u the same thing. journal, exercise, take vitamins/supplements, meditate, go on walks, be present, get sunshine, practice mindfulness, don't kys it's v v bad & awful, etc. all they're rlly good for is venting, & tbh, not even that.

you're basically paying some1 to be ur friend/listen to u & give u the most asinine, bare minimum advice in return. 99% of the time i'd leave a session feeling worse, bc all i did was rehash shit i didn't wanna rehash, & left with nothinglmfao. so much $ wasted, it actually aggravates me to think abt.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

My last therapist tried to convince me I wasn't evil, that I do deserve love. That in and of itself is quite cringe. She also tried to say I'm not racist, that I was just personally traumatized by rejection. What an idiot. Just because the particular country I hate isn't commonly a target of hate doesn't mean I'm not still an evil bigot for hating them. I'm not gonna say who they are since I don't think that's relevant; all that matters is that I hold all this hatred in my rotten soul and therefore deserve to die.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

i view therapy/the entire mental health system as a scam, & as a placebo effect for those it's helped. or they weren't doing that badly in the 1st place. i've seen therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, & counselors. they all tell u the same thing. journal, exercise, take vitamins/supplements, meditate, go on walks, be present, get sunshine, practice mindfulness, don't kys it's v v bad & awful, etc. all they're rlly good for is venting, & tbh, not even that.

you're basically paying some1 to be ur friend/listen to u & give u the most asinine, bare minimum advice in return. 99% of the time i'd leave a session feeling worse, bc all i did was rehash shit i didn't wanna rehash, & left with nothinglmfao. so much $ wasted, it actually aggravates me to think abt.

I believe all of this too, especially the reasons as to why therapy worked for someone. I think the more likely explanation is that they weren't bad off to begin with. I actually think that most of them remind me of those people in those peaceful music youtube videos who get extremely happy and motivated when a random commentor says "we all love you" or "better times will come" and so forth. Basically just people who get easily excited over words that are meaningless from the perspective of the one saying them. I think this is why most suicidal people who recover from therapy immediately turn pro life as they always had the mindset of a pro lifer but was just suicidal

I don't think that therapy works on those who it advertises for though there could be some exceptions. That said, if anybody want to go down the recovery route, I personally believe that they should try to recover using the resources available on the internet. Therapists don't preach anything that's magical or something that can only be found in therapy. All of their teachings can be found online and I honestly think that, if anybody does want to try some of the things that therapy teaches, they're better off doing it by themselves. It sounds far nicer to do things at your own pace without getting gaslighted by a therapist. I just can't help but see talk therapy in the same way that people right now see medival techniques used to cure the black plague

Of course this is all just my opinion and it only applies to common talk therapy. I wonder what you think of the therapy methods such as MDMA and ketamine infusion therapy @hikikomorizombie? They seem different from the common talk therapy in which you describe. It's different enough to where that pro life youtuber first hated it yet subsequently changed their mind on it after seeing that a couple of people from this site recovered from MDMA therapy. I'm not preaching these therapy methods btw, I'm just merely curious

 

[Adûnâi]

all that matters is that I hold all this hatred in my rotten soul and therefore deserve to die.

I dunno, self-hatred is kinda cringe. Why would you judge yourself by not your own metric? And how can hate be evil if it doesn't lead to concrete actions?

I for one could be described as a being of infinite hatred, but here I'm rather civil, and can even exchange mutually beneficial ideas for a time. (Although my greatest hatred is of hygiene, of time, and of Jesus, not exactly of people.)

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I dunno, self-hatred is kinda cringe. Why would you judge yourself by not your own metric? And how can hate be evil if it doesn't lead to concrete actions?

I for one could be described as a being of infinite hatred, but here I'm rather civil, and can even exchange mutually beneficial ideas for a time. (Although my greatest hatred is of hygiene, of time, and of Jesus, not exactly of people.)

I am aware I'm cringe as well which is why I don't recommend therapists to get sucked into the cringe pit of despair I am.

I think just because I'm too lazy to turn my hate into actions that doesn't make me any less of a terrible person and my therapist just couldn't see that.

 

[hikikomorizombie]

I believe all of this too, especially the reasons as to why therapy worked for someone. I think the more likely explanation is that they weren't bad off to begin with.

yeah. if all it took for them to 'recover' were daily walks, yoga, & a planner, of course they're gonna think therapy's some miraculous cure all :p

as for ketamine therapy, i'm not sure. i almost did it once but didn't have enough of a desire to. i haven't researched it much so i don't rlly have any knowledge abt it, but it seems like a silly concept. idk how microdosing drugs is going to make some1 more mentally stable & happy in the long run. i do drugs now & it obviously helps, lol, but i don't see how it's a viable solution by any means.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

yeah. if all it took for them to 'recover' were daily walks, yoga, & a planner, of course they're gonna think therapy's some miraculous cure all :p

I can't even comprehend what sort of problems people would even have for basic things like this to work on them. At first I thought that a lot of people just simply disliked how cruel working can as well as adult life being difficult itself but it can't be that as stuff like walking and yoga won't magically make those in power make the system less harsh

as for ketamine therapy, i'm not sure. i almost did it once but didn't have enough of a desire to. i haven't researched it much so i don't rlly have any knowledge abt it, but it seems like a silly concept. idk how microdosing drugs is going to make some1 more mentally stable & happy in the long run. i do drugs now & it obviously helps, lol, but i don't see how it's a viable solution by any means.

I don't have a desire to do it either. I honestly just want to be dead as that would give me peace, nothing else. Nonetheless, I'm intrigued by your answer, I think that I've come to the conclusion though I still think that ketamine sounds far better than just talking about your issues

 

[Adûnâi]

ketamine sounds far better than just talking about your issues

Joe Rogan talked about DMT.

that doesn't make me any less of a terrible person and my therapist just couldn't see that.

Eh, why is that terrible at all? You might hate them for actual reasons - you know how the Aztecs were skinning their own children alive? That's a good reason to hate their venerable civilisation, even though that barbarity is now celebrated.

 

[ResilientAF]

First quack was creepy. Would pull his chair up real close and like go to touch me in certain areas but not do it. Sat in one session with a boner and had his hands over it and his eyes were closed and he was kind of moaning a bit. I didn't know what to think, as first time experience seeing a psych Dr. He would make comments about my appearance, like I looked really good and you look so fresh. . Saw him for several months and he was pulled suddenly, called about my appointment and they said he no longer worked at the hospital. I did mention his strange behavior to GP one time and I think she reported him as it was no longer after he was pulled. Oh, the creepy lingering handshakes too, would shake hand as usual but as I took my hand away he would continue to grip my hand, not shake and let go but I had to pull my hand out of his. I was so up on meds I didn't know what to do. The ADs made me manic as fuck, was wrongly diagnosed at time with dysthymia and wasn't til several years later I get bipolar 1 mixed tag.

 

[HereTomorrow]

They brought my parent in the room mid-session (was a minor at the time and school contacted therapist saying I was passively suicidal? Can't remember full context) and asked them "How would you feel if HereTomorrow killed herself?" and my parent went on about how the whole family would live in despair and would have to move away and probably hide my death and I ended up crying real hard. While I was crying my therapist said "see, that's why you shouldn't kill yourself, people will miss you".

 

[divinemistress36]

I came to her for trauma therapy from an assault that caused a stroke from a man I met online and she kept pushing how I need to get In a meaningful relationship and meet new people online..cringe

 

[Scythe]

I don't even have a bad experience, I'm just against the idea. Therapy would never help me if I hate all of society due to its many flaws. I hate how people just recommend therapy as THE SOLUTION when it really is not. I also hate the idea of paying this random human who I have never met before and have no relations aside from business to listen to my personal struggles and problems. Those are my secrets, strangers do not deserve to know my secrets, if anything they should pay me to tell them my secrets. I don't care they won't tell anyone, a secret is a secret and I don't trust that they don't tell anyone even if their lisence is on the line.
Therapists are also all pro-life, a part of their job is literally to be pro-life and abduct people who have plans to die. I don't want to talk to anyone who would consider me dying as acceptable about my problems due to the difference in fundemental beliefs.

 

[bridgegirl]

After being told by a therapist that it's okay to walk away from a situation if I ever felt unsafe or just needed time to cool down or not escalate the situation, I went into therapy one day and told her about an incident at work. A manager from another department had become aggressive about an alleged error that my entire department was supposedly making (spoiler: we weren't), and he began screaming at the top of his lungs at my group. He wasn't even someone that any of us answered to, he was just being a jerk, and it was terrifying. Honestly it triggered me due to my history with abuse, so I slipped out of the department and went to go sit in the break room for a bit. I told my therapist about this, and despite having said that this was what I should do in this type of situation, she told me that what I did was not normal, and then she tried to get me to take a leave of absence so I could be committed to a psych ward for an entire month. I literally felt stunned and betrayed by this. And that was my last-ever therapy session.

 

[ResilientAF]

I honestly think quacks/therapists/psychs, whatever you want to call them are probably more messed up than the people they treat. Sadistic streaks in some. Had a discussion with quack re meds and it was one that would cause deformities in baby if you became pregnant whilst taking it. I said I wanted to take it but refused contraception due to my age. I discussed highly personal information and it was thrown in my face, she scoffed and in a derisory tone sneered at the fact I'd been celibate, mainly down to SA/DV history. I could barely contain my anger, caused me to go into a severe depression. I changed after that to someone else who ended up being just as fucking bad. I feel she was envious at the fact we were the same age but she looked like a fucking gargoyle with horrific dress sense. I'm often told I don't look my age and look way younger and I take care of myself despite my many labels. She was a total fucking cunt. She's one of the reasons I'm refused access to an ADHD assessment also. She's a fugly fucking cunt. Glad I'm me and not her despite my labels.

 

[Green Destiny]

This experience was with a school therapist so it only half counts, but I remember one time when I told her how much I hated to class presentations after a very bad panic attack on front of my class she suggested some kind of physical self-chest tapping exercise while repeating phrases to get me to relax. I honestly had never felt more uncomfortable than I did at that moment and never went to them again.

 

[Adûnâi]

I was so up on meds I didn't know what to do.

Why do people in the West get psychotropic drugs so easily? I'd rather kill myself than swallow poison (xd).

First quack was creepy. Would pull his chair up real close and like go to touch me in certain areas but not do it. Sat in one session with a boner and had his hands over it and his eyes were closed and he was kind of moaning a bit.

That one time I had a meeting with 3 shrinks to produce a paper about my Asperger's in 2023, one of them was a hot lady who unironically suggested me to _move away_ from her if I was uncomfortable with the distance. That was super nice, and I did. I respected her ever since (probably will never see her ever again though).

 

[cold_severance]

most if not all of them shit on each other when they heard of my previous experinces with drugs/therapy. like public healthcare sucks/private healthcare is shit, drugs are useless/therapy is placebo and so on. and of course only therapist №76 can Save™ you. this profession attracts the worst fucking people there is.

 

[FieCher]

I'm not anti, but still can cringe about some things that happened during therapy.
Like saying to the group "There's no right or wrong".. but at the same time saying you are doing/thinking wrong (really saying it like that).
Or saying "you have to learn to not criticize".. and at the same time they will do. Like, what do you want?

I can understand they have to stop you from some behavior (in doing and thinking).. but the way they did I didn't/don't understand. Don't know if someone recognize it

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

A therapist smirked, started to laugh and proceeded to make an uncouth joking remark about it when I told her that I had been molested by a doctor as a child.