Angry..but maybe its me

[22yearsbroken]

Had a really good day to today... until about 2 hours ago...
Heard my paetner fuckin arou d in the bedroom ..i mean just moving sruff around am used to going out and the whole house being re-arranged thats ok im used to it .. but she put up a temporary sbelf and needed like a wedge to support one end... yeah im cool with that..

What im Fuckin cool with is that she used a book..
A 1930s print of ..Peter and wendy gold leaf.. it survided a world war and is in near mint condition i want to pass it down to my nieces... collect rare books and well just books i love to read so i keep every book and she used as a fuckin wedge.. to prop up a shelf ... goes to say the night has not gone well .. so fucki g angry ..am i silly

 

[fedup1982]

Try not to let it upset you. I'm going to say one thing to sympathise, and another that might make you feel angry a bit more but it's not my intention if that happens!

My dad is a fking nightmare for ruining stuff of other people's, so I totally get it. My mum always ended up locking even basic stuff away from him like pens so he wouldn't use it for stupid shit like opening tin cans or getting dog do do off his shoes. He's ruined plenty of stuff of mine too.

You might not want to hear this but personally I wouldn't be hugely attached to such a book, at least once you get past the idea that it just boils down to money at the end of the day. It's replaceable. What is not replaceable is the time and effort you put into preserving it.

I get it! So yeah I suggest just remind yourself it's just a bit of money, and the relationship is more important! I guess!

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

That's a nice and irreplaceable book. A piece of history from another time which can be seen and held. I would be upset too and would rescue the book and ask them "wtf were you thinking".

 

[22yearsbroken]

Try not to let it upset you. I'm going to say one thing to sympathise, and another that might make you feel angry a bit more but it's not my intention if that happens!

My dad is a fking nightmare for ruining stuff of other people's, so I totally get it. My mum always ended up locking even basic stuff away from him like pens so he wouldn't use it for stupid shit like opening tin cans or getting dog do do off his shoes. He's ruined plenty of stuff of mine too.

You might not want to hear this but personally I wouldn't be hugely attached to such a book, at least once you get past the idea that it just boils down to money at the end of the day. It's replaceable. What is not replaceable is the time and effort you put into preserving it.

I get it! So yeah I suggest just remind yourself it's just a bit of money, and the relationship is more important! I guess!

The value of the book iant whats important the book has history and value thats its still around it going to passed down to my neice for ger to then pass down and so forth thats the value to me it was also i gift and its about the lack of respect

 

[fedup1982]

The value of the book iant whats important the book has history and value thats its still around it going to passed down to my neice for ger to then pass down and so forth thats the value to me it was also i gift and its about the lack of respect

Well if your partner doesn't respect you then yeah I'd say that's a serious problem then.
And apologies then for saying it was just the value of the book. If it has sentimental value and your partner knew it then that's also a serious issue