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Whenever I play a game or do anything, I want to win. I can't stand losing. I always felt so defeated when my character fainted in dungeons in Pokémon Mystery Dungeon. It felt like a personal humiliation. I also debate and argue with people to win. Criticism also feels like a personal attack me. I can't stand being criticized tbh
Usually I feel bored or empty, but I get really angry, annoyed and frustrated sometimes. Honestly, I want to be successful without having to put in any effort
As chu8 once wisely said, to get better one has to hate sucking.
My b. I know I give you a hard time. You can always tell me to fuck off. I'll take no offense.
For me, it's better to never have tried than to have lost or failed
I also care about other what people think of me. Actually, I think I might even care too much. You exist in other people's perceptions of you. I want people to view me positively. Honestly, your whole life depends on it. To be successful, you need to be liked by other people
There's a lot of pathways to this kind of feeling and just because I identify with all of this very strongly doesn't mean you also have BPD.
If I had to describe what I think it's like, being naturally talented is like playing for fun. This is when you're so good at something you don't feel like you're consciously *trying*. You're just playing and winning naturally, and don't feel like a try-hard. I can't speak for how it feels with everything, but that's how it feels if you're good enough at a game, or some other hobby or niche.
Very relatable answer, and accurate.
Same. I'd rather not have tried than to have failed. I think that I have a fear of failure
I was hard working in school and college
There's a difference to wanting it all and trying to get better to get that "thing" or whatever it is. I got really good at golf (never played before) in the space of 3 years but I looked around and saw people coaching who played as a kid - the struggle and comparison aspect was extreme. I think it's more down to the autism, OCD, perfectionism side to try and constantly get better and excel - we'd have a machine that measures ball speed, swing speed, angle of attack, point of contact, smash factor, etc. Anyways it's was too time consuming and the money ran out (business dead).
Only read OP. The problem is that this sort of thinking leads to procrastination. How to counter that? Think "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." The task/job probably does not have to be done perfectly, so just doing it satisfactory is sufficient. (Anything beyond that is actually wasteful.)
