Would you make a goodbye post or tell anyone? Including here on Sasu.

[ABadPerson]

I wouldn't.

It felt too attention seeking, like I was trying to validate my own attempt through the acknowledgement and worry of others before I exit this world when I told the one person I cared for about it; but I think I'll just be gone this time, no real warnings, method thread or anything as I'd rather have people on here remember me in a specific way and forget me the same way, leaving it 'unresolved' on my whereabouts.

I'm wondering if the opinions of others might differ? And why?

 

[CaptainSunshine!]

I feel that. But I wanna be useful and bring reassurance to others, so I'll post or show whether I have succeeded in the hanging megathread. I feel like if I posted an independent goodbye post I'd be just looking for temporary attention, but the megathread will remain useful for years.

 

[Macedonian1987]

I will not say my goodbyes to anybody I know in real life, but I will most likely say my goodbyes here on this forum. I also don't plan to leave any suicide letter either, and I will stage my death to look like I died from some illegal drug overdose. In actuality it will be a SN induced death.

 

[jatty]

I dont think i will. I post a lot on my private page with goodbye threads and venting, but i know my page is privated so no one can see them.
I feel like if i ever ctb it will be on impulse and i would not be in the mental state to compose a goodbye thread.
I would love to make a timed post but my paranoia gets to the best of me.

 

[mysticatedwine]

i would and it would be attention seeking. i will want to feel loved one last time before i leave this world. to have my friends worry about me one last time. the only time i felt that they truly loved me was when they were worrying about me. i'm not a very good friend as all this might suggest, but i will want a last bit of warmth.

 

[Nadienobody]

If I wrote the truth I'd only make them feel worse and I'm not going to lie in my last message, so right now I wouldn't write anything.

 

[Forveleth]

I probably will not. I want to keep the preparation for my method very simple, and writing a goodbye thread on here is just one more step that could possibly interfere with me getting it done. I will let you all know if I leave the site for any other reasons, however, so if I spontaneously stop posting, you can assume I am probably dead.

 

[TheWorstLife]

I couldn't. If I tell people and they become worried, I now have a chance of someone trying to be a savior even though there is no point.

 

[itsgone2]

I said no, even though I like when others do them even if they don't follow through. It's honest.

 

[-Link-]

Imagine being so consumed with guilt and shame so as to adopt the label of "attention-seeking" just for the idea of wanting the company of other human beings in those final hours and moments.

Oh wait a minute, many of us don't actually have to imagine this; we're already living it.

 

[Greyhawk]

Definitely not beforehand in case I fail. I would leave two letters on my desk. One for my family and one for my close friends. I don't think anyone would notice my disappearance from here.

 

[death or death]

I wouldn't tell anyone until its done, if I really did want to tell someone I'd use a scheduled message just incase the attempt fails so I can cancel the message before they see it.

 

[itsgone2]

. I don't think anyone would notice my disappearance from here.

This is always sad to me; how quickly goodbye posts are forgotten. Or barely even replied to. It's someone at their lowest moment and this site, the world, just moves on.

 

[UserFromNowhere]

I don't want this site being seen as an accomplice in my death, so I doubt I'll make a post on here. As for elsewhere, they'll know when they read my suicide note, by which time it'll be too late to do anything.

 

[Greyhawk]

This is always sad to me; how quickly goodbye posts are forgotten. Or barely even replied to. It's someone at their lowest moment and this site, the world, just moves on.

I agree but I don't want anyone to suffer because of me. Pretty much the only reason I'm leaving the letters to people close to me is to explain in detail the reasons for my suicide and emphasize that it's not their fault.

Edit: Actually, if I took SN for example I might document the process either here or to someone who will share it with this community. Firstly, I'm thankful for everything this community has given me and also because I have weird fascination with documenting the final moments of one's life.

 

[Forever Sleep]

No one in real life. I'd like the support of having a live goodbye thread here but then, what can we really say to one another that hasn't been repeated hundreds of times over? 'I hope you find peace etc.' I'm more likely to make a scheduled goodbye message here. It has been saddening when regular members just vanished. I've appreciated the closure of at least knowing.

 

[Dejected 55]

I posted here on the night I tried... I had a letter in the mailbox for one person. I failed in my attempt... I had to get the letter back from the mailbox, I updated here to note the failure of the method... and I panic texted a few people... one of which called and reported my attempt and I landed in a hospital for a few weeks as a result.

I don't feel at the moment like ending things... combination of failure and feeling lost and not having a backup and not knowing what to do... but I do feel like if I ever get that urge again in the future, to try again, I'll just keep it to myself and not tell anyone and let someone find me sometime after that. Telling people didn't help and caused me more grief.

 

[TAW122]

A goodbye post or thread on SaSu, yes, and mainly since I really cherish and appreciate this community. I don't do it out of necessity or guilt, but out of appreciation. As for having a 'note' as in for IRL people outside of SaSu, no I wouldn't. This is because the amount of effort, trouble, and extra burdens on top of actually attempting (if and when I get to that point) only makes things more difficult and also people (the survivors) would already have their minds made up (not that it is relevant as by then I'd be long dead), so it becomes moot anyhow to 'explain' only for them to ignore it.

 

[Spite]

I've envisioned that if I ever did reach the point where I actually did go through with it and (attempt to) end my life, that I would like to leave behind one final, very important message.

 

[Kitsune_BCN]

I am a person that seeks attention but i dont think receiving warmth from ppl in ur final moments is seeking for attention, on the opposite, is a much needed help everybody deserves.

I would do it for 2 reasons, ppl criticizing my plan for the good, and leaving a useful testimony for others. At the end we are here to see what methods work and what dont.

 

[TheFalseWidow]

No one in real life. I'd like the support of having a live goodbye thread here but then, what can we really say to one another that hasn't been repeated hundreds of times over? 'I hope you find peace etc.' I'm more likely to make a scheduled goodbye message here. It has been saddening when regular members just vanished. I've appreciated the closure of at least knowing.

How do you make a scheduled message?

 

[Leonard_Bangley39]

when i ctb, i plan on livestreaming it online

 

[itsgone2]

How do you make a scheduled message?

Scroll down to options when making a thread. It lets you pick a future date.

 

[corpse]

I'm already writing my goodbye thread.

 

[unluckysadness]

In real life : no. And here : I don't think so. If I don't post anymore or if I don't answer to DM, just consider I'll be dead.

 

[ABadPerson]

In real life : no. And here : I don't think so. If I don't post anymore or if I don't answer to DM, just consider I'll be dead.

Personally it's less that I want people to assume I'm dead, I just don't want anyone to know and won't be mentioning any attempts either. I don't know, I might just be a bit weird in that regards based on all the replies.

I hope all of you who replied well.

 

[Forever Sleep]

How do you make a scheduled message?

As @itsgone2 mentioned, when you create a post, under 'post' is the option to choose a later date.

 

[qewpie]

i wouldnt make a post in the forums, would post to my profile page with my SN protocol timing, and my age and the coroner's office I'd be sent to so people can confirm if I succeeded
edit: i actually have no idea how coroner's work so i guess i'd have to leave some better irl identity evidence behind

 

[MissAbyss]

I think I'll let a few people I was close to know, the ones I really connected with.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I've wondered that myself. SI is such that I wouldn't want to strengthen it. If it were to go down like last time maybe. I say maybe because I couldn't even type to find a death song as I remember it. Say for instance I was going to jump off a bridge. Would that pause to shoot out a message then stop me from jumping?

All I can say is that If I could tell all of youse my intimate ones whom I have shared my heart with I would want to tell you. I would want you to know what happened to me.