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depressionkills

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Jul 14, 2020
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I know it's a weird question.

My other thread "How are you financially" showed fhat majority are under some form of financial stress.

So, do you consider yourself good looking. Do you get a lot of attention from the other sex? Do people notice you walking in the streets etc?

Personally, I would say im average. I get some attention, but no use when your mind is so destroyed...
 
Life_and_Death

Life_and_Death

hey life! 🖕 🖕 right back at ya!
Jul 1, 2020
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how i personally feel about myself? depends on my mood that day. however im surprised the males in my city are still alive. i f*cking hate the way they look at me. id wouldnt mind being treated like a damn human. (sorry males are a touchy subject with me. as long as you treat me with respect though we're cool. its just.....the other kind of males i dont like)
 
oneess

oneess

Die in my sleep
May 5, 2019
46
Hmmm
It's a bit complicated for me, I am planning on starting my MTF transition sometime in the future, I don't really think that I'm a good looking fellow but a lot of my friends do, I rarely believe to other people's opinions about me, but I mean, they probably not lying and all that crap so I just take the compliment.

Until the transition, full on dysphoria since a young age, even before I knew what genders and all those topics were.

So from, 6yr until this very moment, I think I look the opposite of how I imagine my looks, I'd say that I hate every part of my body.
The clothing I have to wear.
Just everything body related.

When I had manic episodes in the past I would be super super SUPER hyped about my looks, but hey, that's the illusion of a manic episode lol.

I'm growing my hair long right now and going at one point to get it straightened, maybe it will help with my viewing of myself.

I can say that after I did a beard shave not long ago(after having a beard for more than 4 years) I feel a lot better about my looks, but not strongly enough to accept myself just yet.

Only gotta hope for the best.
 
Sarahlynn

Sarahlynn

Deep breath, stand back, it's time.
Aug 19, 2020
127
No. I have always been the ugly one in the group, either I don't get attention from guys at all, or the guys giving me attention are total creeps who have no other choice.

Some normal guys see me as an easy target for casual sex, even though they are not really attracted to me.
 
LenkaX

LenkaX

Maybe there is a hope!
Aug 14, 2020
366
I'm below average looking and have a mental illness. I live in a small town and people usually completely ignore me or sometimes somebody calls me 'crazy' directly on the street. My life is a Hell.
 
Tabbyql

Tabbyql

Chronic people pleaser
Mar 13, 2019
284
I'm ugly af, even worse now my psych meds have made me put a massive amount of weight on. I really dunno how I've had so many relationships. I guess my looks are the reason my bf thinks he can get away wiv disrespecting me, cuz he knows no one will want me.
 
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Worthless_nobody

Enlightened
Feb 14, 2019
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I don't consider myself attractive at all. I hate myself and have the worst self esteem. By society standards apparently I'm "pretty" or attractive but it got me no where except used and abused. I don't consider myself attractive but whatever attractiveness others saw in me only got me negative attention from abusive narcissistic guys. I hate the stupid cat calls and lewd comments from strangers and former co-workers I have gone well out of my way to make sure I hide myself and try to not accidentally appear pretty.
 
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Onomotopoeia

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Feb 8, 2019
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Honestly, I do not put a lot of though into it. Nor do i feel i've ever had someone to give an objective opinion. I'm on the lower end of the scale for sure. I"m slightly overweight, but other than that I wouldn't even really know how to judge my own looks. Except to say nobody is reaching out to me, but as a guy no girls are really paying any of us attention unless your a 9 or 10 anyway.

Guys have to make more of an effort, and even then women have the option of being way pickier in most cases, because most guys really are not. I can find attractive physical qualities in most women, even those on the lower end of the "scale" so to speak.

But it's a moot point. I don't know how to engage with people in front of me, forget trying random hookup dating sites primarily geared toward exactly looks
 
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Onomotopoeia

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Feb 8, 2019
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This is interesting. I never dated guys that were more attractive than me. I’d be afraid they’d always be looking to “upgrade”.

I'm sure that is true for some to be honest. However, after your sort of honeymoon phase if they are looking for an upgrade, it's probably more than looks anyway. Even compatible people, may not be willing to put in the work when it's easier to find a new honeymoon.

My point really was though, most women, will get some kind of attention especially if they put themselves out there (say dating apps) a guy who is not inherently above average is basically invisible.

Sure, you could say it's just me but I feel there's enough of the same sentiment from others (and even studies) that say i'm right.
 
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bravotess

bravotess

I'ma jump ship now before I sink slow
Aug 8, 2020
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I'm sure that is true for some to be honest. However, after your sort of honeymoon phase if they are looking for an upgrade, it's probably more than looks anyway. Even compatible people, may not be willing to put in the work when it's easier to find a new honeymoon.

My point really was though, most women, will get some kind of attention especially if they put themselves out there (say dating apps) a guy who is not inherently above average is basically invisible.

Sure, you could say it's just me but I feel there's enough of the same sentiment from others (and even studies) that say i'm right.
I agree with you. Guys are not as picky so most girls will get a fair amount of attention. Also, from my experience on dating apps, the guys are overly confident.
 
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Dookieshoes

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Aug 15, 2020
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I think there's alot of people out there far worse off than myself... I'm very good at striking up conversations with strangers, and I am decently confident. I get along with lots of people. No clue if I get noticed.
 
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Onomotopoeia

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Feb 8, 2019
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I agree with you. Guys are not as picky so most girls will get a fair amount of attention. Also, from my experience on dating apps, the guys are overly confident.

If i had to guess i'd say it's because if your on a dating in this day and age as a guy (especially something like tinder) you are overly confident because i'd imagine that's awful for most mens self esteem
 
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Infinite Conscious

Infinite Conscious

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Aug 18, 2020
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Yes, definitely above average, I've always had "those looks" and approaches from both sexes, but have enjoyed it only in my early twenties.
Later I became indifferent to all that, for some time even enjoyed turning down women, as I became disgusted by other guys' desperate attempts to get some puss*, I never could understand or accept their loss of human dignity in such acts of desperation.

When I found out I have HIV, I stopped altogether looking at other people, had a long-term relationship with a woman who already had a child.

I am 45 now, look like 35, feel like 25, and I still get (unwanted) attention but never respond, even to the top girls, since I cannot have any meaningful relationship due to my physical and mental states. Became almost asexual. But back in the days I had enough for 3 lifetimes (and paid the price for it).
 
TheSoundofTime

TheSoundofTime

In time you will find peace...
Aug 9, 2020
71
I don't consider myself ugly -no, I don't consider myself unattractive - no. Now my question: would I be attractive if I hanged myself? would I be considered ugly hanging from a ceiling?
what kind of question is this? I don't mind you expressing your opinion or asking questions - don't get me wrong. It's a suicide "club" - who the fuck cares how a dead people look.
Take a break my friend (with all the politness possible -honestly).
 
MorningstarMornings

MorningstarMornings

leave a beautiful corpse
Aug 20, 2020
38
Its a weird answer.
I have a hard time getting a girl. Idk if I just come across wrong or something. But with girls it difficult. Girls who have no interest in dating me say im cute.
To get a guy, they love me. Go to gay bar, get drunk for free. I dont have to try.
My perception of myself though. I'd go with a yes.