Will news of your suicide be expected?

[eternalmelancholy]

Do the people around you know you are suicidal? Will this come as a shock to them?

No one has a clue that I am actively suicidal. I told my parents once a long time ago but they brushed it off. How do people usually respond to news of suicide? Will people talk about us?

 

[Shadowplay]

Complete shock.

 

[bed]

It won't come as a shock to my family.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I'm pretty sure people are surprised whenever they get any news about me and it's not saying i was found dead.

 

[Pattonman42]

I'm sure it will come as a surprise but not out of nowhere. My parents likely suspect that I'm depressed, if not suicidal. I've told a couple of people who used to be in my life (exs and some old friends I'm no longer in contact with) so I suspect it will shock them more that I actually went through with it - I feel like several of them suspect my suicidal ideations to be threats rather than intention.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Would be a massive shock but not entirely surprising. Never happens among people I know. But friends are aware I am troubled.

 

[PeacefulTonic]

Some know, and some will be shocked that I actually went through with it. In my specific situation, there would probably be a lot of people talking about it, unfortunately

 

[Deleted member 8579]

It will be completely unexpected.

 

[nerve]

I don't think it'll be a "wow I never expected this person would end their life" kind of shock. More like "wow she actually went through with it after all this time." This has been going on for so long that people don't really take me seriously when I talk about suicide. I get the sense that after all this time of me begging for help and barely treading water, people think I don't have the guts to attempt because if I did, I would have tried already. I guess that's what I get for hanging on this long :v

 

[OnlyTheWind]

Mom knows and I've told her to be ready when the day comes. It will still be a shock, but I've even asked her if she would prefer me to tell her "I'm going to kill myself now" or just do it and let her find out. She requested the latter.

 

[Wrennie]

I mean, I jumped out of a window so... no, there'd likely not be much surprise there. They'd be shocked and baffled by the method I used, though.

 

[anthos pal]

completely shock, only three friends and my parents suspect its a suicide

 

[Insomniac]

my family will try to hide/deny that it was a suicide but everyone will know.

and yes, like with most people here, it'll first be a surprise/shock but not surprising at the same time.

 

[Someone123]

I don't think anyone who knows me will be surprised at all.

 

[Maaizr]

my family will try to hide/deny that it was a suicide...

sounds like some shit my parents would do haha, gonna make waves thru my entire family for sure. . no one knows or even remotely expects it

 

[BlazingBob]

Not really. Anybody that knows me knows it's coming. My friends know I'm miserable. An older woman friend of mine offered to help me. My suicide is about as rational as they get. I think there might be some initial shock followed shortly by relief that I'm finally not suffering anymore.

 

[ClownMe]

My co-workers and people I socialise with in everyday life have no idea, I put on a mask in public.

I would like to think that my family would expect it, because ive literally told them many times that I want to kill myself.... but then again, they're pretty dense.

 

[Darkover]

hit the 1080p setting

 

[wCvML2]

I told my immediate family several times that I'm actively suicidal. I don't think it will come off as a surprise for them to find me dead after I killed myself.

 

[StarryStarry]

Quite honestly, no one will give a shit. Some might even be happy.

 

[inabsentia]

Most people wouldn't expect it at all… feeling like I have to put on a front contributes hugely to my pain and exhaustion.

There's only one person who would sort of be able to see it coming.

 

[Dot]

Mom knows and I've told her to be ready when the day comes. It will still be a shock, but I've even asked her if she would prefer me to tell her "I'm going to kill myself now" or just do it and let her find out. She requested the latter.

Wld guss tht b/ nt tllng ur mthr tht sh wlndt hve 2 fl respnsble 4 feelng tht sh shld jve stppd u if sh knw wht ws happng..
Thnk ppl wld b devst8d bt am in m.h. housng s/ wld nt b unxpctd.

 

[Silenos]

Literally everyone I know knows I'm suicidal, though it might still come as a shock to some because I've been talking about it for so long they probably don't take me serious anymore.

 

[BloodyNobody]

People around me know I'm suicidal, I've been vocal about having thoughts since the age of 10 and had number ours attempts in my teen years. So I would say it will be no shock but nobody believes that I will actually go through with it so I guess it may come as. Even though I've been screaming about my suffering for a decade lol

 

[Shadowplay]

My co-workers and people I socialise with in everyday life have no idea, I put on a mask in public.

I would like to think that my family would expect it, because ive literally told them many times that I want to kill myself.... but then again, they're pretty dense.

Just watching the 'Dexter' reboot; the mask thing is a huge part of the original show, though doesn't seem as big a part as in the original.

 

[VoidDesirer22]

It will be utter shock for many people. I truely wonder how far the word would spread. Like, do old primary school classmates hear about it through the grapevine? I have no idea and won't be around to find out.

At least 3 lives will be totally ruined. It is super bizarre to me that parents have kids and just assume their's won't be the ones to take their death into their own hands.

 

[BeautifulMosaics]

Mine will be completely unexpected and I have envisioned subtely warning my mother in advance but I know that could never work. I have been a practical shut-in since 18 save a few jobs/courses. I haven't made any progress since 16 but I still think my family still would be shocked.

We're not the "type of people" that do that stuff. My race is also one of the lowest for suicide and my culture is meant to breed strong people. I believe even old friends I haven't talked to in years would be shocked as I appeared to have the brightest prospects out of the group, but how well do people really know us? Someone said "each person is like their own universe", and I agree.

I don't think it'll be a "wow I never expected this person would end their life" kind of shock. More like "wow she actually went through with it after all this time." This has been going on for so long that people don't really take me seriously when I talk about suicide. I get the sense that after all this time of me begging for help and barely treading water, people think I don't have the guts to attempt because if I did, I would have tried already. I guess that's what I get for hanging on this long :v

No, it's not "what you get". Staying alive and "hanging on" is hard, especially when you're barely treading water. Suicide is also hard mentally and physically. Give yourself the credit you deserve x

I just hope that people don't hate or criticize me for killing myself.

A person has every right to take their destiny into their own hands. Screw anyone small-minded enough to be hateful or critical towards someone who has suffered and feels trapped enough to end their own life.

 

[RappyMaster]

Some close friends know I tried to kill myself recently, pretty sure they haven't told anyone else about that situation. If I did ended up killing myself I guess it would be pretty unexpected, not that many people know the shit I go through, the only person that I opened up with and told them exactly how I was feeling kinda dumped me into the trash, so it made me feel very sick with myself.

I think lot of people would know about my death, I'm someone who's very shy and I don't really talk that much, but for some reason a lot of people know who I am. I just hope that people don't hate or criticize me for killing myself.

 

[Deleted member 8579]

It is super bizarre to me that parents have kids and just assume their's won't be the ones to take their death into their own hands.

Everyone is gambling his way through life, but unfortunately in the case of procreation it is the life of somebody else that is at stake.

 

[FuneralCry]

Nobody knows that I am suicidal, there is no point in telling people as they will not accept and understand my decision. They would selfishly expect me to suffer for decades. I do not care how others react after I am gone as by that point I will no longer be alive, it does not mean anything to me. I will be at peace and free from all suffering.