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- Sep 13, 2023
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A guy on here stopped talking to me, and this made me sad. He told me why, but I guess I'm still hurt over this. Was I not good enough to be his friend?
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I'm just sad that he doesn't want to be my friendSome people lose interest in others. It's normal and happens to everyone. It's just a part of life and it's nothing to feel bad about.
I know that it must hurt, but time's arrow keeps on marching forward. Eventually it'll just be a distant memory.I'm just sad that he doesn't want to be my friend
You're good enough! Some people are just dicks. Remember, they're directly responsible for making you feel like you weren't good enough. It's not true.A guy on here stopped talking to me, and this made me sad. He told me why, but I guess I'm still hurt over this. Was I not good enough to be his friend?
He said that I was repetitive and didn't say anything that impressed himYou're good enough! Some people are just dicks. Remember, they're directly responsible for making you feel like you weren't good enough. It's not true.
He said that I was repetitive and didn't say anything that impressed him
I feel that. I lose all of my friends because they always find someone better. My ex wife and best friend ditched me too, that's why I'm on here xDI'm just sad that he doesn't want to be my friend
I noticed that it's in general difficult to build a connection with people here, so I gave up on that idea. It's not your fault!A guy on here stopped talking to me, and this made me sad. He told me why, but I guess I'm still hurt over this. Was I not good enough to be his friend?
Sorry to hear thisHe said that I was repetitive and didn't say anything that impressed him
This is what he saidModern friendships has turned into transactional relationships, if they don't see any potential gains, they just stop communicating with you. I lost a friend because of this.
People are always changing, you two may have vibed well at first but grown distant over time. I had a friend who I met over our common interest in Minecraft (video game), but I got bored of the game and we stopped playing together. We didn't manage to reconnect over a new game or interest. People might also feel interested at you at first but find out later you don't fulfill their expectations of you. It's time to move on, forget about the time you've sunk in a failed friendship.This is what he said
"You just haven't said something insightful or anything that impressed me."
"I just don't see any need to talk to you
it was fine at first but your topics are very repetitive and you don't say anything very interesting or funny"
we dont exist just to impress other people or keep them continually entertained, that person may have thought you were not interesting, but that doesn't dictate your worth, mind or depth. i understand how it hurts a lot to hear though or leaves a bad taste in your mouth.He said that I was repetitive and didn't say anything that impressed him
He wasn't a normie thoughI can't keep up the conversation with normies. I had two serious relationships with men and both times we shared similar non normie interests. (Esoterics, conspiracies, philosophy, etc...)
If he wants to reject you as a friend, then fine. Rejection sucks but it's part of life and friendships aren't something that can or should be forced onto others. However, he sounds like a complete asshole and, to be honest with you, you dodged a bullet big time.This is what he said
"You just haven't said something insightful or anything that impressed me."
"I just don't see any need to talk to you
it was fine at first but your topics are very repetitive and you don't say anything very interesting or funny"
I don't think it's accurate to say you weren't 'good enough' to be his friend. It's not solely about you but also about the dynamics between both parties. (unless you said something completely inappropriate, like I did under the spoiler...).Was I not good enough to be his friend?
You don't have to enjoy the conversation with everyone on the planet; similarly, others may not always find your conversations entertaining.I can't keep up the conversation with normies. I had two serious relationships with men and both times we shared similar non normie interests. (Esoterics, conspiracies, philosophy, etc...)
we dont exist just to impress other people or keep them continually entertained, that person may have thought you were not interesting, but that doesn't dictate your worth, mind or depth.
While I do agree with him/her, I do not discard the possibility of you being clingy/needy.You may be experiencing what's known as "negging" – a manipulative tactic often employed by individuals with toxic or insecure attitudes toward women. Was this other person perhaps a misogynist or incel? In this case, the guy who was talking negatively to you likely utilized this tactic as a means of asserting power and control over you.