Why do people go into suicide pacts?

[everydayiloveyou]

On both sides, there's so much risk. You could end up being the (dead) victim to some asshole suicide fetishist, like that one dude who got arrested. Or you could be traumatized watching someone die and becoming responsible for it, if you chicken out and get caught by the other person's vengeful family.

I know people don't want to die alone, but at what cost? What's the appeal in trusting a complete stranger with each other's final moments? Why only do it if someone else is gonna do it, when thousands of other strangers commit suicide each day?

 

[Pluto]

It's definitely a dubious proposition. We've seen horrible examples of what can go wrong. Even in their most desperate moments, people can be taken advantage of in unspeakable ways if they are not very careful.

But admittedly, I can also see the other side of it. Having a partner would help overcome SI, as well as the fear of dying alone. Heck, many of us here know that just having other humans who allow us to express what we actually feel without the risk of being locked up is a huge relief.

 

[again_noidea]

the longing for connection. also, if you find someone, with whom you can enjoy something unique and beautiful before you go because you give each other strength to go through with something you wanted to do for a long time, like a journey or a certain ritual. Being with someone you trust and with whom you share the same goal is such a wonderful feeling.

 

[LadyAlastor]

I've always viewed suicide packs as very ritualistically passionate because you have two individuals who have nothing to live for but at the same time don't want to die alone they're longing for some form of connection but the connection that they want to hold has to have the same view and in goal and when you're suicidal and you're ready to die but you don't want to die alone and you do make a pact like that, the bond immediately becomes special even if it's for a short time.

because you have to understand there's more that goes on in a suicide pact then just okay let's offer selves and be done with it these are two or more people who have either known each other or are just getting to know each other and they're probably going to give it a couple of days so they can prepare and make their final goodbye maybe they need to write a will or what not but during that time while they're preparing and saying their final goodbyes and making sure everything else is finished and done with before they pass together they're also getting to know each other they're bonding with everyday that passes may be through text messages or going out everyday for coffee it's different for everyone.

 

[Sra_TZ]

As mentioned in previous replies, I suppose suicide pacts are a form of connecting over a common goal. Personally, I'd rather not tie my suicide to anyone else's. I like being in charge. Not to mention the risk and the plethora of things that can go wrong.

As for the part about "not dying alone", I can see where it's coming from. There's strength to be drawn from each other's pain. Everyone has a different opinion on suicide pacts. Some may find comfort in doing it with someone, others may want to do it by themselves.
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[superbad]

I don't want to die alone, but I wouldn't take pact on a suicide pact. In an ideal world, I'll die peacefully, holding my dad's and boyfriend's hands. They'll see me go knowing I died happy and loved.

 

[destiny]

To add onto a that's been said, here's a different perspective. I have discussed the idea of forming a pact with a good friend who is also suicidal. For me it could be something that saves me. I don't want her to go just because I've decided it's my time. I hope she can keep on fighting and get to a better place in life. So that thought could be something that pulls me through on the most difficult times. In the end we decided not to make the pact though. We're each in our own.

 

[FuneralCry]

I agree with what the others have been saying, about it being a connection. I think many people do not want to die alone and it might make it less scary for the person if someone else was there. I do think that it carries risks though and I do not like the sound of it. I cannot comprehend it personally, I want to die far away from other people. Having somebody else near me when I am about to ctb would put me off.

 

[seeker]

I do it, I know it's my fault but I need to since I don't want to hurt anybody when I ctb.

 

[Jumping_realms]

Seems you may be looking at it mostly with things going wrong with the pact and such.

There are many that do partners and everything goes as they planned. Exactly how they wanted it to.

 

[LadyAlastor]

I mean I'm going to say it if I had someone who was of the same religion as me (satanic) and we made a suicide pact that Bond would be probably indestructible,and it'd be a for sure death that is for sure.

However I always wondered what if two people who were opposite of each other ones satanic and one's Christian and they both want to die I just what I think about that for some reason it Sparks beauty and compassion on both ends.

Makes me want to write a short story about that I think I might.

 

[DarkNearDeath]

the idea of it makes it easier

 

[phoenixx]

Although I would never participate in a suicide pact, ctb with someone seems pretty comforting to me. I guess some people do it or want to do it with someone else because it helps with the whole dying process in some way.

 

[Jblack]

I have discussed exiting with a partner on several occasions. I find that for me there is a feeling of comfort exiting with someone and not dying alone. That being said, it is not that simple to partner with a person. I have had people become very aggressive when you don't want to exit on their timeline. And then there is a matter of the method. I am very set on my means of exit and don't wish to change it. Lastly there are the legal issues, if one of you survive, you may be prosecuted for numerous crimes.
All that being said, I still think about finding someone to exit along with, but doubt that I will find someone to exit with me.

 

[patheticpartner]

Personally, I'd prefer something like a suicide pact. It'd enable me to ctb with less anxiety.

For example, after SN preparations, I'd pretend a buddy and I are just drinking socially, and we/I drink SN as if it's not some lethal poison, tricking the SI.