Yes, that's the crux of the matter. Although the politically incorrect thing is that women can never be incel, so that's why you only see hateful males, not hateful females. So whenever a female doesn't understand the male's plight, it's effectively like a French nobleman laughing and mocking a sanculotte.
Logically speaking thats impossible, I can definitely imagine how a woman could be an incel. If there's many of them? Probably not, I think they have just as much trouble finding love as guys, but they probably have an easier time getting tail if they so chose. Again I presume both guys and girls have some standards so you're going to preselect away some more desperate individuals who you may not want to associate with. Doubly so if you're looking for a relationship.
And a girl can empathise with the male's plight I think, the incel plight is a very specific sell though, it'd take a very good salesman to frame it in such a way that it gets accepted in it's entirety. I personally think it's a slightly illogical way of explaining the hand life dealt them, but I have my own experiences to go off of.
People have been incelphobic in this thread, so not sure who started it first. Virgins are mocked and derided all the time undeservedly so.
I don't recall any mocking of virgins, I've seen some misandry but it was in jest and relatively light. But that could be just because there's more misogyny to pull from.
Though I do believe there is a double standard for misandristic jokes and misogynistic jokes. Some of those misandristic jokes would've never flown the other way around.