Why Are People So Mean?

[CannotAnymore]

So 4 years ago life really took a turn for the worst. It's been rough and with that came quite a significant weight gain. I know it, I just mentally am not in a place mentally to fix it. I'm the biggest I've been in 20 years. (Ironically, I think my weight/food issues is what caused my SN attempt to fail)

Anyway, I've really been trying to just function, I think one day at a time, one minute at time. Anyway I have a new job offer that is on the way. It won't fix everything but hey I've been too depressed to work for a year.

So we are on the zoom call and it's myself, my boss, and then our clients. A girl who I worked with 15 years ago and so my boss makes the joke, well you guys know each other but do you like each other (the meeting was going well so it was tongue in cheek) and she goes... well she was MUCH smaller back then... I was so fucking humiliated (these guys didn't know me then). Everyone froze. I just kinda said. Yeah back then I was really in the gym all the time.

I am so embarrassed, I'm supposed to share an office space with her. I can't.. like WHY would you say that, you think I don't fucking know? You think you need to point out to the room that my once size 6 pants are now a very tight size 16? Shall I tell them that I am so gross that my partner and I basically have no intimacy because even if we try I just end up crying.

Shall I tell you about the nightmare the last 4 years have been? Or that I'm stressed as shit cause I have $100 in my bank account?

Why do people have to be so mean? Some of us are hanging on by a freaking thread. Some of us just want to have one day where we wake up and not want to die. Some of us have had the people we love the most show us the most cruelty and so we don't need your fucking high school bully shit.

I am just so tired.

 

[DukeDestroyer]

People do not care these days. Humans are easily the most aggressive and destructive species on this planet. Humans have little tolerance to those that are different. It no wonder why the other species of human are extinct.

 

[LastFlowers]

Thoughtlessness. That's why.
Utter thoughtlessness and inconsiderate apathy toward your predicament.
It's not their life, not their body, so they aren't hurt by the words that shame you.
This person was cruel because they could be, perhaps because they have never had to think on what's it's like to be in your shoes.
And they can get away with it too, for the most part.
Prejudicial comments against general appearance have very little backlash or open criticism in this society, it's not treated the same way as other "-isms" even though it absolutely destroys people and is incredibly pervasive.

 

[Huntfish34]

Ahhh damnt, Fck. I'm sorry that happened to you, what a bitch. I'm sure she has her own insecurities for whatever reason and she took them out on you. I guess ? Who knows...

Just try your best to forget about it if possible, I know it's easier said than done though. You deserve better and are not alone... . I've got a couple guys at my job that have Extremely pissed me off lately while they are trying to " joke around "... well I don't see it that way and I'm trying to take everything 1 day, hour, minute at a time too. I get it, for sure.

Thoughts and prayers to you always, take care.

 

[FuneralCry]

I believe that many people often act in such a cruel way towards others as it makes them feel better about themselves by looking down upon others. But the truth is that, this is simply just the way that so many people are and nowhere really offers relief from the hostility of humans. It's awful how people can create so much harm, I really do believe that humans are responsible for so much of the suffering that sadly exists here and of course many people just make this world a more hellish place.

 

[UpandDownPrincess]

So 4 years ago life really took a turn for the worst. It's been rough and with that came quite a significant weight gain. I know it, I just mentally am not in a place mentally to fix it. I'm the biggest I've been in 20 years. (Ironically, I think my weight/food issues is what caused my SN attempt to fail)

Anyway, I've really been trying to just function, I think one day at a time, one minute at time. Anyway I have a new job offer that is on the way. It won't fix everything but hey I've been too depressed to work for a year.

So we are on the zoom call and it's myself, my boss, and then our clients. A girl who I worked with 15 years ago and so my boss makes the joke, well you guys know each other but do you like each other (the meeting was going well so it was tongue in cheek) and she goes... well she was MUCH smaller back then... I was so fucking humiliated (these guys didn't know me then). Everyone froze. I just kinda said. Yeah back then I was really in the gym all the time.

I am so embarrassed, I'm supposed to share an office space with her. I can't.. like WHY would you say that, you think I don't fucking know? You think you need to point out to the room that my once size 6 pants are now a very tight size 16? Shall I tell them that I am so gross that my partner and I basically have no intimacy because even if we try I just end up crying.

Shall I tell you about the nightmare the last 4 years have been? Or that I'm stressed as shit cause I have $100 in my bank account?

Why do people have to be so mean? Some of us are hanging on by a freaking thread. Some of us just want to have one day where we wake up and not want to die. Some of us have had the people we love the most show us the most cruelty and so we don't need your fucking high school bully shit.

I am just so tired.

Because they're assholes. And stupid.

She has made an ass of herself and everybody there heard it. Don't say a thing. Your silence will kill her if she has any sense. If she doesn't have the sense to shut the hell up, just avoid her as much as you can. It won't take long before people realize she's - to put it in second-grade terms - a stupid butthead.

You're surviving, and that's one hell of an accomplishment. I relate to your story, as my meds have made me gain so much weight I'm now buying a second seat on an airplane. It sucks. The thing is to hang on, even as we are surrounded by the worst kinds of people. And feel free to vent here as much as you need to. There are caring people here and our ears are set on listening mode.

 

[Bluebunnysky]

So they can feel superior to others