killerwhale
New Member
- Jan 31, 2026
- 2
why can't i make friends? i'm trying so hard. i don't know what i keep doing wrong.
it feels like everyone else is so vibrant and bubbly and great at talking to people, or at least quiet in a nonchalant cool way, and everyone already has a group of friends. i've been trying so hard to make plans and talk to people and it just feels flat every time i have a conversation, to the point where i've realised i'm the problem.
now i feel so anxious before any kind of socialising.
i just want connection and community and i just want girls to hang out with. i want someone to text me because they're bored or because they found an activity they wanted to do and need someone to do it with.
i used to think i liked being alone because every day was so overwhelming. but now i actually live alone, don't play any sport, ive graduated so no more school, and suddenly i'm really genuinely lonely.
it was a gradual change, i stopped being invited but kept inviting myself at first. then i realised i was ignored or annoying every time, so i stopped going, and i haven't been invited anywhere since. i don't talk to anyone anymore - i tried for a year.
now it hurts every time i hear people talk about their plans with their friends. i fucking hate living life without being surrounded by people. i have no support system. i only feel alive when i'm with people who MAKE me feel alive, and now there is no one
it feels like everyone else is so vibrant and bubbly and great at talking to people, or at least quiet in a nonchalant cool way, and everyone already has a group of friends. i've been trying so hard to make plans and talk to people and it just feels flat every time i have a conversation, to the point where i've realised i'm the problem.
now i feel so anxious before any kind of socialising.
i just want connection and community and i just want girls to hang out with. i want someone to text me because they're bored or because they found an activity they wanted to do and need someone to do it with.
i used to think i liked being alone because every day was so overwhelming. but now i actually live alone, don't play any sport, ive graduated so no more school, and suddenly i'm really genuinely lonely.
it was a gradual change, i stopped being invited but kept inviting myself at first. then i realised i was ignored or annoying every time, so i stopped going, and i haven't been invited anywhere since. i don't talk to anyone anymore - i tried for a year.
now it hurts every time i hear people talk about their plans with their friends. i fucking hate living life without being surrounded by people. i have no support system. i only feel alive when i'm with people who MAKE me feel alive, and now there is no one
