Discussion who else starts to back off in dating

[Foreversad]

Well theres a guy who made huge efforts to meet me and wants a relationship with me .im scared dont have the energy im sick and really afraid .try to ditch him .why are we sabotaging our lives ? I feel like its way better for me to stay alone and really feel bad even about to go out with anyone

 

[Dystopia]

Yeah, I don't date. Nothing to offer and too negative. Don't see the point if I'm gonna ctb soon either

 

[xLosthopex]

I don't date either, well I should say I don't 'normal date' or do relationships anymore. I only do sugar dating, I don't see any point in wasting my time 'normal dating' when I can do the same thing AND get paid for it.

 

[Makko]

I don't date either, well I should say I don't 'normal date' or do relationships anymore. I only do sugar dating, I don't see any point in wasting my time 'normal dating' when I can do the same thing AND get paid for it.

This should really be the only allowed form of dating. Then everyone would be clear on who's getting what.

 

[Risperdead]

Yeah, I don't date. Nothing to offer and too negative. Don't see the point if I'm gonna ctb soon either

The exact same is true for me.

 

[filthyrottendirty]

I don't even want people to form friendships with me

 

[NothingElseMatters]

I don't date either, well I should say I don't 'normal date' or do relationships anymore. I only do sugar dating, I don't see any point in wasting my time 'normal dating' when I can do the same thing AND get paid for it.

Do you have sex with your sugar dadies?

 

[WOODESITY]

i honestly try to distance myself from others, more attached i am to someone harder it becomes to let go, less i have the better i feel, just like responsibilities, job and taking care of myself plus bills are already more than enough

 

[xLosthopex]

Do you have sex with your sugar dadies?

Yes

 

[summers]

@xLosthopex what about people you find attractive? Not to date, but just hook up with. You're missing out on attractive people if you're only getting with people who have to pay for sex.

I mean, you have to treat yourself every now and then :)

 

[Lost Magic]

Nah, it is not worth the hassle. If I became attached to another person it might make me want to stay here longer. Saying that if it all goes up in the air it might make me ctb faster haha. Nah, I'm done with relationships.

 

[xLosthopex]

@xLosthopex what about people you find attractive? Not to date, but just hook up with. You're missing out on attractive people if you're only getting with people who have to pay for sex.

I mean, you have to treat yourself every now and then :)

I'm attracted to older men anyway, and I'm fussy about the sugar daddies I take on as clients, so many of them I am attracted to anyway

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

I don't date either, well I should say I don't 'normal date' or do relationships anymore. I only do sugar dating, I don't see any point in wasting my time 'normal dating' when I can do the same thing AND get paid for it.

You must have a good personality or be able to fake it. That's pretty impressive. I also remember you saying you have an eating disorder. You must eat enough to have energy for doing shit.


@Foreversad
I think you should go for it. It's a chance to get out of the house and get a free meal. Maybe try and brush up on current events or find something positive to talk about.

 

[xLosthopex]

You must have a good personality or be able to fake it. That's pretty impressive. I also remember you saying you have an eating disorder. You must eat enough to have energy for doing shit.


@Foreversad
I think you should go for it. It's a chance to get out of the house and get a free meal. Maybe try and brush up on current events or find something positive to talk about.

I don't fake it. I just be myself around my clients, for the most part
Yes, I have anorexia, and no, I don't eat enough to do what I do hence why I've almost died several times over the last while due to it

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

I don't fake it. I just be myself around my clients, for the most part
Yes, I have anorexia, and no, I don't eat enough to do what I do hence why I've almost died several times over the last while due to it

Just curious: how do you have a personality others are attracted to if you're really going through a lot of shit? I have fuckall to say.

 

[xLosthopex]

Just curious: how do you have a personality others are attracted to if you're really going through a lot of shit? I have fuckall to say.

Well I'm passionate about a lot of things which I still enjoy talking about/bringing up in conversation, such as politics, various social issues, current affairs etc. and I guess(so I'm told at least) I'm relatively 'intelligent' so even though I can be shy, I'm usually not stuck for things to say/discuss with clients
And also I am an extremely honest person, and tend to, perhaps(?) overshare too much personal information about myself to clients/people in general, like I'm very open about my mental health issues and suicidality and don't really feel uncomfortable talking to most people about it, and most of my clients seem to appreciate my genuineness and honesty

 

[motel rooms]

No dates. One-night stands, fuck buddies & one 27-year-old alcoholic bi hustler who doesn't charge me because I occasionally let him stay with me, feed him & hold him when he cries. He makes me feel almost human, which is quite scary.

 

[Pure]

If you have a guy whose legitimately interested in you, why don't you date him for a bit to see how things go on? Just be honest about how you're feeling mentally (minus ctb plans if you have any lol) and go on from there to see if things can work.

Personally I don't date because 1) I'm too introverted to make friends so I can't do friends to bf/gf pipeline like most people do and 2) I'm not particularly attractive so online dating has been a spectacular failure for me

 

[UnemployedMD]

Sort of given up on this too. I've become far too bitter and negative to make anyone want to spend any meaningful time with me. Even trying to hold it together for an hour for a date is exhausting at this point because I've become so depressed. Such a shame too, I really miss the physical/emotional intimacy that comes with a relationship and was just getting to the point where I could begin to fully commit to one when my life completely fell apart and I became suicidal.

It sucks because even though I want to be in a relationship again, I feel like I would have to lie and pretend everything is ok in my life to make any woman want to spend time with me. I would have to hide my suicidality, alcoholism, pessimism, and just about everything else I feel embarrassed of which is disingenuous. And then there is the big question of whether I will even be alive in a few months and having to wonder whether it is worth put anyone through that. Not that anyone would even truly care in the first place as no one ever really has about me.

Regardless, I feel like no matter what I do at this point, I've become too damaged, insecure, and untrustworthy of others to ever be in a relationship that lasts beyond a couple of months. I don't think I could ever open up to someone and be fully honest as I have been conditioned to have to lie and hide who I am. The only thing I can probably still get are short superficial relationships/sex which at this point don't even feel are worth the effort.

 

[orangepotato]

LOL like we (guys) have a choice. No one cares about depressed men. Society only cares about depressed/suicidal women, not men.