Discussion Where do gay people find their partners?

[MakinItHappen111]

Not including hookup sites, where do gay people meet to find relationships?

I live in a country with good lgbtq legal rights, but its socially taboo in a most places outside the city.

 

[LastNite]

Idk go to a gay bar? hangout with someone. Try to start chit chats with randoms.

 

[MakinItHappen111]

Idk go to a gay bar? hangout with someone. Try to start chit chats with randoms.

wouldnt the bars be full of drunk and violent people?

 

[slowlybreaking]

i've been using tinder since i was 18, met like 2-ish meaningful friendships and also my late boyfriend there, it's a 1/99 chance honestly. i'm too shy to initiate conversations with anyone in person, so i just take refuge in online spaces and try to make connections there whenever possible. i've met a loooot of people from my former best friend but given this is all near/in the city i guess it doesn't count

 

[LastNite]

wouldnt the bars be full of drunk and violent people?

Honestly I wouldnt know, Ive never been to a bar. I cant legally drink. You could simply go see how it is or instead of doing that. Maybe look into lgbtq+ events? I bet that would be more social and civil than a bar.

 

[iguazo falls]

wouldnt the bars be full of drunk and violent people?

drunk probably, violent not necessarily; but i think its good to scope it out and see if they advertise daytime/non alcohol events as well. i think digging around online a bit will help like are there any facebook groups/insta pages for events etc. and just talking to someone who is in a gay bar like likely know about the scene. heck if you ask someone online they may be happy to tell you anyway. another factor is are you near the city or not? if you aren't, then it is a bit harder if you don't already know people but i would use apps to find friendships first with other lgbt people. in the city then its more just a matter of knowing whats going on.

 

[kilowatt]

A little odd the first thing you associate with same sex relationships is hookup sites.
But as other people mentioned, gay clubs and bars are a great opportunity into meeting the people you desire. No, they aren't full of drunk, violent people. Most (respectable) places that sell alcohol have a strict zero tolerance policy regarding physical violence.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

wouldnt the bars be full of drunk and violent people?

That hasn't been my experience, I go to the bar as a special treat for myself every now and then and everyone there is usually friendly. While it may not be a gay bar that I go to it's still a fun experience to go there for a couple drinks and an appetizer.

 

[DeathJester]

Gay bars, but also bar culture in general, have been dying. There might be queer partys if you live in a bigger city. But if you can't stand the superficial and drugged culture yoi can only hope for great coincidences or the internet. Dating apps are usually awful.

 

[BradGuy123]

I'm going to keep this high level in case someone who knows me sees this and suspect the person who posted this is me. We met in real life in a place I never expected to meet someone. You can meet that special someone anywhere. I'm not saying go to the grocery store or the tire rotation place actively looking for a partner. I'm only saying always be open to saying hello to someone if the opportunity presents itself.

 

[BlackNugget]

Personally, we knew eachother as friends without actually "knowing" we were gay, bi, whatever. He liked me first and asked me out, and after some contemplation I said yes. Pretty normal