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TAW122

TAW122

Emissary of the right to die.
Aug 30, 2018
7,526
This is definitely not a new phrase and rather common phrase spewed by many pro-lifers alike. However, I've noticed a very important detail to why they say that. People who once claimed that they are miserable and wanted to CTB, but then the awful shitty phrase of "it gets better" (or any variation or similar phrase), often have circumstances (usually external) or special things that caused it to get better. That's generally why they believe and spew such statements. However, there is yet another catch to that as well. Sometimes it may get better (temporarily), only for even worse suffering and other ills to come at some point (sometimes sooner, sometimes later) in the future, but more on that later. Back on the topic though.

A redditor, by the name of Godz_Lavo posted:

It never gets better unless you get lucky.

The last part of that sentence in the quote is the key part. Basically, almost everyone who has gotten better (including those who then later became suicidal again), almost always had that minute, but very important factor that allows them to flourish, overcome whatever issue, problem, ailment that they are facing. Most of the time, in reality, it doesn't get better. It may sometimes improve, stay the same, or not uncommonly though, gets worse.

TAW122 while in college (over 15 years ago)
Also, here is another story when I was in college (as a freshman, more than 15 years ago), I had a roommate who I will refer to as 'J' and he was an intelligent person and always had success, lead a pretty busy productive life and at times, I wanted to emulate him and looked at him as a role model for a while, almost idolatrizing him (he was maybe a year or two older than me at the time), and whenever he had success, again this was in college, so I'm talking in the context of academia and such, he would often just say "It's just dumb luck." and to me, that was almost unfulfilling and troubling for me because I knew there HAD to have been things I could do to see change, see the results I wanted to see, and more (not just limited to academia, but other things I cared about at the time). Anyway, at the time being a bored and almost aimless college student who didn't know about the future other than get good grades (couldn't get perfect grades as I wanted sadly) and get a job upon graduation (which also didn't pan out well but that's a different story altogether), I made some fictional short stories (pretty dark and often involved some form of CTB – never shared with anyone but just kept to myself for myself only) and one of the stories was a character who worked his ass off while his childhood friend also did similarly but then only said "it was dumb luck", and ultimately the main character of my fictional story ended up CTB'ing. Keep in mind I first found the SaSu subreddit in late 2015 and hardly participated and only lurked, and when I wanted to get more involved, Reddit nuked the subreddits and therefore out present day SaSu platform was founded in 2018 (which many of the old guard and first few members of the community knows).

So anyways, this thread is mostly to vent as well as share a story that things don't get better [unless one gets lucky, which is usually external and not always within one's own control]. Back to the earlier point in the thread about those who got better at some point, but later got worse. In general, my philosophy and view on sentience is that things can get better temporarily, but are often fleeting and continued sentience itself is a gamble (could be better and never get worse, but no guarantee of either, more often than not, something else harmful be it health, circumstances, other things will come at some point), and therefore, just because it got better for some people (because they were lucky), it doesn't always stay that way. So in the end, no it doesn't always get better and even if it did, it's fleeting.
 
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_Gollum_

_Gollum_

Formerly Alexei_Kirillov
Mar 9, 2024
1,697
And if it truly does get better, then why are suicide rates highest among people in their 50s? (I know there are some other factors that go into this, like divorce, but it just goes to show that while yes, sometimes it does get better, it also gets worse).
 
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Dejected 55

Dejected 55

Visionary
May 7, 2025
2,853
All the "it will get better" people are hypocrites anyway. They say you can't predict your negative future based on the past because nobody knows what will happen... okay, so then why try and sell me on it gets better? You don't know it will get better any more than I know it will get worse. The KEY difference, though, is that I have history on my side with a pattern of it getting worse that tends to be more predictive (statistics and probabilities) than any made-up "it gets better" philosophy someone tries to sell you.
 
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pthnrdnojvsc

pthnrdnojvsc

Extreme Pain is much worse than people know
Aug 12, 2019
4,369
It can always get worse.

Very Horrible things can happen to any human any day

There is no guarantee of some nightmare not trapping some human

The only guarantee of never suffering so badly it's a trillion times worse than one can imagine is Non-existence forever

That's why only eternal Non-existence is the only perfection

I would like to ask a prolifer why do I have to live another day working so hard being a slave just to exist under threat of extreme torture in this evil world?

To be a slave from 0 to age 90, being Tortured by old age from 60 to 90 ? For what reason? There is none nothing matters , only me getting to the safety of permanent Non-existence soon matters
 
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TAW122

Emissary of the right to die.
Aug 30, 2018
7,526
@Alexei_Kirillov Very true, and usually people who are middle aged or even older already know what lies ahead of their lives (for the most part) and have a lot of experiences in life to know whether to continue on or not. Also, yes what you mentioned is true too, divorce, career failures, shortcomings, etc.

@Dejected 55 Good points and yes, they are hypocritical for pushing the toxic positivity spiel.

@pthnrdnojvsc True and yes, I too, aim for non-existence, however, to do so I must not only be 100% ready, but also ensure that I have the best odds and circumstances to succeed without unnecessary risks or hasty action, hence as of now, it's a long waiting game until the right moment into the future.
 
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thendtocome

thendtocome

Level up
Jun 10, 2025
22
Saying it gets better is just manipulative really, people trying to glorify themselves proclaiming prosperity but in reality they know fuck all and it's just a baseless hunch to minimize your problems and give false hope to alleviate their anxiety... Imo
 
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LadyPoulenc

LadyPoulenc

Pele with buckets
Jul 14, 2025
20
This is definitely not a new phrase and rather common phrase spewed by many pro-lifers alike. However, I've noticed a very important detail to why they say that. People who once claimed that they are miserable and wanted to CTB, but then the awful shitty phrase of "it gets better" (or any variation or similar phrase), often have circumstances (usually external) or special things that caused it to get better. That's generally why they believe and spew such statements. However, there is yet another catch to that as well. Sometimes it may get better (temporarily), only for even worse suffering and other ills to come at some point (sometimes sooner, sometimes later) in the future, but more on that later. Back on the topic though.

A redditor, by the name of Godz_Lavo posted:

It never gets better unless you get lucky.

The last part of that sentence in the quote is the key part. Basically, almost everyone who has gotten better (including those who then later became suicidal again), almost always had that minute, but very important factor that allows them to flourish, overcome whatever issue, problem, ailment that they are facing. Most of the time, in reality, it doesn't get better. It may sometimes improve, stay the same, or not uncommonly though, gets worse.

TAW122 while in college (over 15 years ago)
Also, here is another story when I was in college (as a freshman, more than 15 years ago), I had a roommate who I will refer to as 'J' and he was an intelligent person and always had success, lead a pretty busy productive life and at times, I wanted to emulate him and looked at him as a role model for a while, almost idolatrizing him (he was maybe a year or two older than me at the time), and whenever he had success, again this was in college, so I'm talking in the context of academia and such, he would often just say "It's just dumb luck." and to me, that was almost unfulfilling and troubling for me because I knew there HAD to have been things I could do to see change, see the results I wanted to see, and more (not just limited to academia, but other things I cared about at the time). Anyway, at the time being a bored and almost aimless college student who didn't know about the future other than get good grades (couldn't get perfect grades as I wanted sadly) and get a job upon graduation (which also didn't pan out well but that's a different story altogether), I made some fictional short stories (pretty dark and often involved some form of CTB – never shared with anyone but just kept to myself for myself only) and one of the stories was a character who worked his ass off while his childhood friend also did similarly but then only said "it was dumb luck", and ultimately the main character of my fictional story ended up CTB'ing. Keep in mind I first found the SaSu subreddit in late 2015 and hardly participated and only lurked, and when I wanted to get more involved, Reddit nuked the subreddits and therefore out present day SaSu platform was founded in 2018 (which many of the old guard and first few members of the community knows).

So anyways, this thread is mostly to vent as well as share a story that things don't get better [unless one gets lucky, which is usually external and not always within one's own control]. Back to the earlier point in the thread about those who got better at some point, but later got worse. In general, my philosophy and view on sentience is that things can get better temporarily, but are often fleeting and continued sentience itself is a gamble (could be better and never get worse, but no guarantee of either, more often than not, something else harmful be it health, circumstances, other things will come at some point), and therefore, just because it got better for some people (because they were lucky), it doesn't always stay that way. So in the end, no it doesn't always get better and even if it did, it's fleeting.
Yeah. "It gets better" is such an audacious statement. Especially in our day and age, when everything is going to shit so hard that CTB is the only real way to escape it all. All I want is to die in peace without anyone interrupting me.
 
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Pluto

Cat Extremist
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kopebaldy

Dovahkiin
Jul 5, 2025
420
It also gets worse, but nobody wants to admit that. I hate how the future is always bright to them.

Still, whether it gets better or worse. I'm me, and me being myself is why I'm on this site in the first place. That's something these "positive" people will never be able to understand.
 
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TAW122

Emissary of the right to die.
Aug 30, 2018
7,526
@thendtocome That's an interesting way to look at it, and yes, I think it's just an self-assuaging statement for others' to cope by projecting their own values and morals onto others to appear 'superior'.

@LadyPoulenc I feel similar sentiments as well. The dread of wage slaving and trying to cope day to day of the existential dread, nevermind some major problem that makes an already unbearable sentience state more arduous and tormenting.

@kopebaldy Yes, I feel like those toxic optimists just don't want to admit the truth (whether they really believe it or not) because it would shatter their illusion of things going well or that the world is beautiful (to them).
 
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LXR515

Member
Jun 12, 2024
40
I resonate with that heavily,
So much of life circumstances is COMPLETELY out of your control and based on factors you have 0 hand in, so a lot of the time for people who "it got better" they literally just lucked out and it can't be recreated by other people.
The world is cruel and unfair
 
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ginko0

ginko0

To be or not to be
May 8, 2025
203
Yup. something that I'd say often happens too is lowered expectations, which leads to a sense of "yeah, life's bearable". People who once dreamed of great things (such as true happiness) and realize those things are impossible to accomplish, in account of external and internal factors, choose to lower their expectations and accept something less.

But that doesn't mean they found happiness or that things got better, it only means they had to shut their minds and kill part of themselves in order to suffer less. Which leads to the obvious fact that all great minds agree on: life sucks, in itself and in society, from which we cannot run. Happiness is nothing but a state of unintentional obliviousness. Distraction, if I may. You either choose to participate in this fucked up world, philosophically killing yourself in the process, or choose not to, interrupting your biological functions. As to which one is the "easy way out", most people would disagree with me.
 
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jb.fletcher

jb.fletcher

The one that's all sixes and sevens?
May 21, 2025
35
I think the cliche is that it always gets worse before it gets better.
I don't consider myself lucky in a sense that things just happen for me. I wish! But I believe that maybe I'm just stubborn enough to have a can do attitude vs not? Truth of it for me is that I don't know what the future holds, it could be awful, could be great but I simply refuse to not do something about it. I don't believe there's any easy way to live or to not live honestly. But if I'm going to live, I'd rather do it on my own terms.
 
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JohnRys

JohnRys

Banned User
Jul 14, 2025
44
Life seems to come down mostly to luck. Meeting the right people at the right time in the right way. And of course the biggest thing being born to good parents who can provide and support you, with out that bit of luck you are more or less fucked.
 
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WrathfulGloom32

Enlightened
Oct 12, 2024
1,220
Can I give my honest opinion on this even it will be cheesy and feel goody and shitty? Yes, it will not get better, it is up to luck. But I won't stop talking about my pain, I won't stop spreading my essence, I hate many things, I was hated by many people, I was belittled , I was shunned, I was put down; I still believed in good , I still believed that even if they would laugh and trample on my body that I should pass this essence forward.

So I don't think it gets any better for us but I think we can make the next generations better. It's not fair, it's not fair for us to be like this, why us? but I wouldn't wish it on anyone so even if it doesn't get better for me; if in 10 years someone who would be suicidal today won't be because of progress , that would be good by me, they will get better for everyone who couldn't, live what we couldn't live, live what we didn't want to live.


This is why assisted suicide should be legal; give the suicidal people a way to pass peacefully, for their voices to be heard. The act of suicide shouldn't feel like even more isolation and the fact that for so many people it did and they died in fear and hopelessness thinking they will never be understood is unacceptable, even if it were one person it is already one person too many.
 
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Brokenanddeadinside

Brokenanddeadinside

Still Alive and still Suicidal
Aug 8, 2018
408
My life has gotten worse since being on here from 2018
 
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death_bed221

Student
Sep 23, 2024
191
For some people it does get better, but for most it gets much worse. Its just propaganda from Pro-lifers
 
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TAW122

Emissary of the right to die.
Aug 30, 2018
7,526
Excellent posts and yeah pretty much in agreeance with my thread, luck is a very major key factor in quality of life and whether one is able to have a enjoyable, or at the minimum a tolerable existence. Though with that said, even then sentience can often change on a dime and likely without warning, so even if one's sentient statement may be tolerable now, it could change in a day, a week, a month, a year, etc.

I also fully agree with @WhatCouldHaveBeen32 that assisted suicide should be legalized as that would minimize the amount of collateral damage and allow people to be able to be open about their intentions instead of dying in secrecy and misunderstandings.
 
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Cauliflour

Cauliflour

I'm the doodler, I make terrible doodles.
Mar 24, 2025
727
No it wont I would be pissed if someone tries to say that to me. You can't unlearn what has already been learned. Also they're not stuck with me 24/7 so they will never understand what it's like nor my fascination with dying young in a bloody, brutal, sicken on sight death. I think the only way things could genuinely get better for me is:
1. the woman in my head comes back
2. i can make super bloody cuts on my arms
3. i get sent to this state of limbo where i don't have to worry about the future
4. my sleep schedule magically fixes itself
5. lobotomy

And surprise surprise, they'll think I'm insane!

Besides, I've been like this for so long I think I've grown numb to an extent. Like I had my first filling done not to long ago and I didn't flinch at the drug injecting stage because I was thinking "eh, I've felt worse pain on my arms" and I would not have thought that even just a couple months ago.
 
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hippiedeath

hippiedeath

Dead on the inside
Jul 12, 2025
249
I hate people. I wish the human race would end.
 

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