When parents ignore your cries

[divinemistress36]

I just need to vent . Even though Im 37 years old it still hurts like Hell when your parents ignore you when you are crying and you tell them how much you want to die. Nobody really cares about your mental health, you are on your own

 

[fkyou]

I wish mine (my hypocritical family) ignored me they've been the cause of all my pain and pressure gaslighting and greedy expectations.if I was alone I wouldn't stress this much before dying it will be a sweet slow willful 'giving up'.the worse is when you suffer like a dog in a life that didn't mean shit and was nothing but mistreatment and disappointment for you then when you decide 'it ends here' they come and stand over your head like a god blaming you for being a victim to your own suffering like you did this to yourself.

 

[divinemistress36]

I wish mine (my hypocritical family) ignored me they've been the cause of all my pain and pressure gaslighting and greedy expectations.if I was alone I wouldn't stress this much before dying it will be a sweet slow willful 'giving up'.the worse is when you suffer like a dog in a life that didn't mean shit and was nothing but mistreatment and disappointment for you then when you decide 'it ends here' they come and stand over your head like a god blaming you for being a victim to your own suffering like you did this to yourself.

Family can cause so much suffering

 

[SomewhereAlongThe]

Your vent is definitely heard. My mother would probably tell me to shut up and get over it or say some religious crap. And nobody really cared about my cries for help and how I was feeling suicidal when I told them (psychiatrist & staff I live with). I stopped telling them after but they didn't seem to really give a crap.

 

[divinemistress36]

Your vent is definitely heard. My mother would probably tell me to shut up and get over it or say some religious crap. And nobody really cared about my cries for help and how I was feeling suicidal when I told them (psychiatrist & staff I live with). I stopped telling them after but they didn't seem to really give a crap.

Its so sad people have kids and dont care about their feelings.

 

[Andarna]

Oh, I feel you so much...

In my house, they always said that family comes first, that we have to stick together.

At the same time, I could cry, suffer, be in such a bad state that I wouldn't get out of bed or eat for days, and no one would care. Well, sometimes my mom would come over to check if I was still breathing, and that was it.
The worse I felt and the more I needed help, the further they would distance themselves from me ^_^

I guess it's easier that way.

Anyway, a flower for you <3

 

[divinemistress36]

Oh, I feel you so much...

In my house, they always said that family comes first, that we have to stick together.

At the same time, I could cry, suffer, be in such a bad state that I wouldn't get out of bed or eat for days, and no one would care. Well, sometimes my mom would come over to check if I was still breathing, and that was it.
The worse I felt and the more I needed help, the further they would distance themselves from me ^_^

I guess it's easier that way.

Anyway, a flower for you <3
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True less guilt if one decides to ctb

 

[CatLvr]

True less guilt if one decides to ctb

Right?? Honestly, I always felt like my mother pushed me towards ctb-ing so she could be yet again the long-suffering mother -- who gave her heart and soul and even life to her ungrateful bitch of a daughter who only ever cared for herself. When in actuality it was the exact opposite -- my mother never cared for a damned soul other than herself and certainly not for me -- that first-born child who "dared" not be a son, who dared to grow a backbone at 13 and tell her EXACTLY what would happen if she EVER hit me again and who FINALLY at 30 turned and walked away after the one-millionth time of being mistreated no matter how hard I tried to "do the right thing" and get along with my family -- but ESPECIALLY the woman I was cursed to have as a mother. I swear for most of my life the only reason I DIDN'T kill myself is because I knew that's what my mother wanted and I was just NOT gonna let her have what she wanted.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's strange when they seem to care so much more after a person dies but, I guess they aren't dealing with the practicality of them then.

I wonder just how many people are equiped to deal with long- term depression etc. My Dad has said before that people will listen to problems only so much, before they become bored of it all. He then tried to exclude himself from that but it's obvious it does apply to everyone or, perhaps many at least.

It is awful though really. I suppose for both sides. I've reached capacity in the past if I'm honest with someone venting to me. Each time it was the worst they'd ever felt. I suppose we reach a point where we can't be anymore sympathetic. I've also been that person too- so desperate for a friend to recognise the anguish I was in. It was such an awful feeling.

I tended to find though, that the more they gave in terms of support, the more I seemed to want and need it. It eventually just felt more stable to pull away all together. I think my need for it became insatiable the more I got- weirdly. I suppose because I depended on it.

It's so disappointing when it's family though. I feel like they owe more- especially when it's parents- they dumped us in this mess to begin with. It's a shame there aren't wedding type vows that parents should make to their children- for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health etc.

I'm not allowed to cry much either. But now, I just get irritated when they try to stop me. It's important to cry. It's a necessary release.

 

[F@#$]

Unfortunately you're right.

 

[divinemistress36]

It's strange when they seem to care so much more after a person dies but, I guess they aren't dealing with the practicality of them then.

I wonder just how many people are equiped to deal with long- term depression etc. My Dad has said before that people will listen to problems only so much, before they become bored of it all. He then tried to exclude himself from that but it's obvious it does apply to everyone or, perhaps many at least.

It is awful though really. I suppose for both sides. I've reached capacity in the past if I'm honest with someone venting to me. Each time it was the worst they'd ever felt. I suppose we reach a point where we can't be anymore sympathetic. I've also been that person too- so desperate for a friend to recognise the anguish I was in. It was such an awful feeling.

I tended to find though, that the more they gave in terms of support, the more I seemed to want and need it. It eventually just felt more stable to pull away all together. I think my need for it became insatiable the more I got- weirdly. I suppose because I depended on it.

It's so disappointing when it's family though. I feel like they owe more- especially when it's parents- they dumped us in this mess to begin with. It's a shame there aren't wedding type vows that parents should make to their children- for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health etc.

I'm not allowed to cry much either. But now, I just get irritated when they try to stop me. It's important to cry. It's a necessary release.

I agree. I dont blame other people they have their own problems but when its your parents they should listen, they brought us into this fucked up world

 

[qwert3948]

being shamed and ignored by my mom is still one of my most painful memories. hope everyone here stays well <3

 

[Eternal Disaster]

I was told that I am a liar when I told them about my crisis. I said I will die and they called me stupid and weak for talking like that.
I hope they stay happy in their lives. I will not say a single word to them now.

 

[rustcohle4life]

Why do people like this even have kids?

 

[davidtorez]

I just need to vent . Even though Im 37 years old it still hurts like Hell when your parents ignore you when you are crying and you tell them how much you want to die. Nobody really cares about your mental health, you are on your own

I understand completely. My old man doesnt even mental health is a real thing. So my problems to him are just a passing phase or some type of sadness you get over. Theres no point caring about people not caring about us. I'll 44 years old and it still sucks

 

[58Alice85]

I just need to vent . Even though Im 37 years old it still hurts like Hell when your parents ignore you when you are crying and you tell them how much you want to die. Nobody really cares about your mental health, you are on your own

as soon as i cut my parents out of my life i regretted not doing it earlier

 

[cowboypants]

I think parents should be held the most responsible one for suicides and attempts or atleast their behaviours be studied and measures taken to prevent it. They play a big role in our lives pretty much.

They are the only people we are exposed to for a majority of the time, in our modern nuclear family lifestyles.

Whether pushing their own dreams or having a conditional love, the damage is often irreparable. And eventually the kids pay the price.