Discussion What's your relationship with your parents?

[Endstati0n]

Alot of people on this site probably have good parents and they just want do ctb because of health reasons or something.

I'm 29 and i don't really talk to my parents. I went no contact for years, then we started talking again. I really don't want to talk to my mom especially. She's crazy. Both my parents should've never had kids.

I used to hate them really bad, but as i got older, i just accepted the fact that in this world, there are bad people who only think about themselves, they're just wired like that. After accepting that, i stopped living with this hatred, now i just don't want them in my life and that's ok.

 

[itsgone2]

My father died when I was 15. I'm estranged from my mom. Which is awful. I've done terrible things in life but this isn't one of them. She can be terrible too.
They should not have had children. Oddly I don't hate them. Perhaps it's hard too. But their legacy has been ruined. As has mine.

 

[dragonofenvy]

It's so weird for me. On one hand they were loving towards me. On the other hand there were times in early childhood where I was afraid of my mom killing me as I slept. It's hard for me to be close to them even though I want to be close to my dad. I guess it feels very distant.

 

[Minfilia]

zero contact with dad. i despise him with all of my heart. long story but tl;dr he refuses to look at my face and prefers his new child over me. he never communicates unless i initiate the conversation, only to be met with nothing. maybe i don't exist to him, that is for sure.

i'm conflicted about mom. constant contact, but i still see her as my abuser. her love can be suffocating and overbearing.

 

[seeyoulater26]

Sorry things had to be that way with your family, endstation.

Totally get you. I'm 29 too. I have my mom blocked on everything. Went no contact in 2022 but shit happened and had to reconnect in 2024.
Still, I don't want to talk to her. Mine's crazy too. The only chance she gets to talk to me now is when she hijacks my phone calls with my dad. They live together.
Aaaaand nothing changed. She still always ends up yelling at me and berating me over the smallest things like she did when I was a kid. Also, she only knows to discuss problematic things and turn the convo into her irrational rant session full of hate and bitterness.

Dad's cool but it's like he has Stockholm's syndrome or something and won't leave his crazy wife. Love him to death but I very often feel sad how he never had the backbone to protect us from his wife. He's so stuck up on the "whole family" illusion despite the blatant abuse. It's kinda still a big deal in this shithole of a country.

To be fair, together, they were good providers. We had almost everything we wanted and needed growing up. But my sisters and I never knew what it was like to feel safe in our own home and family and that's important too. That impact really started to make sense to me growing up because I could actually see how far behind I was compared to my peers when dealing with situations.

I talk to my dad on the phone often and make sure mom's not around when I do it, but I never call or text my mom.
I also already accepted that I will never have the family I wanted, not even close, and it's okay and even better to love people from a safe distance.

I wish they never met though. They never should've been together, much less had children.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

My mom already passed away several years ago so she's no longer in my life because of that. As for my dad, well, it's complicated. He was such an angry asshole all the time when I was growing up, and would flip the fuck out over the tiniest of things and sometimes I was afraid of him. Now he's a lot better than he used to be, but I still resent him and my mom for having kids in the first place. I live with my dad because I don't actually have anywhere better to live than here, so I'm just kinda stuck with it.

I just wish more people could be self aware enough to realize that they shouldn't be having children like I am. Regardless of my antinatalist views, I know that I could never be a father because I can barely take care of myself some days, and also I wouldn't have enough patience to deal with such a responsibility and I can't stand the thought of having kids who will resent me for the way they were raised and for bringing them into the world in the first place when it's such a horrible place.

 

[hvk]

After accepting that, i stopped living with this hatred, now i just don't want them in my life and that's ok.

super relatable, both my parents are alive but i barely willingly talk with them outside of necessity. kind of how things played out, plus after a while i just stopped trying.

my parents divorced when i was 5, probably the start of a lot of things for me. they tell me my dad cheated and wtv, but thats a long story. hell, im not even sure if its true tbh, i might just be gullible. now i stay with my mom and my little sister. used to not really like dad cause of the story but i mean hes chill i guess. my mom is honestly just a mom. kinda ashamed im not the kind of son to call her amazing and loving and etc etc etc, but its just how i see it. i couldnt tell you the last time she said or did anything truly affectionate outside of providing for us.

i can feel for the people who say they're worried about their family if they ctb, but i just think my circumstances and life have dulled my sense for that towards my family. who knows, maybe ill change though.