What’s worse for my children - divorce or me dying?

[sufferingalways]

If you stay in a relationship where you're miserable and you're being abused, they suffer in that. They're aware of what's going on to some degree. If you stay, they see that it's okay for him to abuse you, that one does not have power unless they are an abuser, that the only way to deal is to keep being abused or to end one's existence to stop it.

WOW, THIS SOUNDS LIKE MY BROTHER'S VIEW. MOTHER NEVER LEFT ABUSIVE FATHER.. YOU HELPED SOLVE A LONG HIDDEN MYSTERY. I APPRECIATE IT.


I would suggest getting out of the circle completely.
SOUNDS ABOUT RIGHT FOR MY SITUATION. Soon I hope.

I recently heard a Shao Lin perspective: there are two mistakes one can make on the journey of self-mastery -- not starting, and not committing to following through.

I hope something I've written here helps. Even if it doesn't, you have my compassion and empathy.

Added my replies in Caps above.

Thank you. I know you were referring to the OP but this helped me as well, to realise some things.