Discussion What's the worst anti-suicide thing you've read or watched on the internet?

[diazepam23]

Not from someone in real life but something someone has typed on a social media platform or a video released abqut suicide that repeats the same old stigma.

 

[nowhere123]

blame those who commit suicide for being cowardly—shouldn't it be considered brave instead?

 

[pickedmyctbdate]

Worst: "Suicides go to hell."
These types believe in a very different God than I do.

Most annoying (bet you can all say it with me): "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem."
Oh, fuck right off! Who said my problems are temporary?? I'm old. I first considered suicide in kindergarten. Don't give me your bullshit "temporary" head-canon just because that's YOUR reality. It's not mine. And maybe I WANT a permanent solution! Did they ever think of THAT???

 

[Lost in a Dream]

Worst: "Suicides go to hell."
These types believe in a very different God than I do.

That one bothers me the most too! I used to say things like that when I was a teenager, before I knew better.

 

[pickedmyctbdate]

I think part of being a teenager is saying shit we knew nothing about.

This is, or was, the formal position of many religions. It's a good way to weed them out at least!

 

[SweetSunflower]

you'll grow out of it, man up, you are just a kid, everyone goes through this are the ones that gave me the most ick

 

[Le temps perdu]

"people who die by suicide will go to hell and be punished and tortured", or "people who die by suicide will become earth-bound spirits"—and a whole bunch of people say this.

I can't understand why those anti-suicide posts don't call for changing the root causes of the situation, but instead make up a pile of stuff like that. I've argued against this in a comment section before, and they still "righteously" said: "No matter how many kind words you say to him, he's currently in a depressed, wanting-to-die state and won't take it in. You can only say hard, harsh words to scold him awake. Soft words he won't accept—you can only give him the hard ones."
wtf

please, people who die by suicide have already been through so much pain. I just can't understand why they have to endure so much suffering while they're alive, only to be judged and condemned like this by some people even after they're gone

 

[diazepam23]

I was watching a review on the horror "Smile" and i came across this comment that was stigmatising suicide. The horror movie actually isn't about suicide but many people misinterpreted the theme.

It was posted by the user @BHCADED

www.youtube.com/watch?v=nxtGFbvYTyY

There's also another video on suicide by the channel Jubilee on YouTube with terrible comments but I can't find it.

 

[sotomie]

This has become a trend in this country. Where people say something along the line of don't die because food still tastes good. It's diabolical. As if food will cure the depression.

 

[pickedmyctbdate]

Strange thing is, I love the movie "What Dreams May Come," which is possibly the worst offender in this regard.

I think it doesn't bother me in that movie because:

***MAJOR SPOILERS BELOW***

(a) It's a physically gorgeous film. In a cliched way, but still eye candy. I was so happy when I got a yard with a jacaranda tree. I didn't know purple trees really existed until I saw "What Dreams May Come."

(b) It's a high-concept film, very, very loosely based on a book (so loosely the author disliked the film), in which we design our own afterlives. You can be whoever you want, look however you want, look different to different people, have whatever superpowers you can imagine, create whatever worlds you desire, or....live in a rotting version of your own prison. (This scarcely acquits the film of its flaws. Annie only WANTS to be with her husband and children again---but because she Did The Naughy, she doesn't get that. By rights, I should hate this film for that alone.)

(c) It's a romantic setup for Chris to save Annie. If they were consistent about "designing your own afterlife," there wouldn't be a plot, let alone a romantic/adventure plot.

(d) One of the "tortured voices at the gates of Hell" is Mary Kay Bergman, whose death hit me hard (and whose widower struggled with the "suicides go to The Bad Place" thinking when she died), and it stars Robin Williams, who is the only celebrity I've ever activity missed for 12 years and expect I always will. I hope Robin is at peace, but, goddamn, I miss him so much!

(e) When Chris finally recognizes his son---gets me every time.

There are some seriously fucked-up messages in that film, but I can't help it, I love it anyway. I wish they had just left God out of it completely though, rather than making God this non-concept that would offend no one. When Chris asks about God, his guide (or...is he...?) replies something like, "Oh, he's up there somewhere, shouting down that he love us and wondering why we can't hear him."

At this point, almost all the major characters are already dead and in the afterlife. If they can't hear God by THEN, why bother mentioning God at all?? It also adds to the Unfortunate Implications of Annie's fate. She is supposedly "not being punished! It doesn't work like that!"

If you've got a DIY afterlife governed by a Divine Being, then it sure as shit LOOKS LIKE it works exactly that way in the universe of the film!

But I can't help it.....it's one of my junk-food comfort movies.... Robin Williams is welcome to save me from hell any day of the week and twice on Sundays!

 

[fadedghost]

probably the worst thing is any search for suicide or mention of suicide mentions 988.

I will never call 988. I don't need the government to try to locate me, lock me up, and inject me with drugs and keep injecting me with more and more drugs until I pretend to like life, then bill me 50K for having locked me up and inflicted all sorts of cruelty upon me.

So being told over and over "Call 988. Help is available" ends up being really insulting and demeaning. It's sort of like society telling me that they don't care, while pretending that they care. Like "Don't blame us if this asshole dies, we mentioned 988!" as though talking with someone with the power to find me, lock me up, and inject psychiatric drugs into me somehow solves my problems.

 

[pickedmyctbdate]

probably the worst thing is any search for suicide or mention of suicide mentions 988.

I will never call 988. I don't need the government to try to locate me, lock me up, and inject me with drugs and keep injecting me with more and more drugs until I pretend to like life, then bill me 50K for having locked me up and inflicted all sorts of cruelty upon me.

So being told over and over "Call 988. Help is available" ends up being really insulting and demeaning. It's sort of like society telling me that they don't care, while pretending that they care. Like "Don't blame us if this asshole dies, we mentioned 988!" as though talking with someone with the power to find me, lock me up, and inject psychiatric drugs into me somehow solves my problems.

I have heard THE WORST stories about 988!! OMFG!! None of them were tracked and locked up, but bassically told snap out of it, pull themselves up by their own bootstraps. What can you do right now? (Their go-to question.)
"Well, that's problem, literally, nothing, I have a half-brain full stroke at 40 and my life is over."
"Don't catastro[hize. There's something you can do!"
"I'm paralyzed at age 40!"

I'm sure there are some good stories, but I've never heard any! I would call a complete stranger first. They're poorly-trained. They seemingly hate their job. *I* could be a beter 988 operator, ad no one will hire me for anything!