Venting What's the point if i just don't want to work

[LossOfWill]

People will tell me that it takes hard work to better yourself and to beat depression but I just don't want to. Everything is so tiring and exhausting and we're expected tojust push harder. Some people have motivation but I just don't. I just want to sleep. Nothing can make me truly happy at this point and I can't wait for it to be over. I just want to rest.

 

[muffin222]

I'm so sorry you're suffering. I completely understand feeling too exhausted to push yourself to better yourself.

Perhaps you don't need to better yourself right now; perhaps all you need to do is to allow yourself to rest as much as you can and just do the absolute bare minimum to get by in your daily life for now.

Sometimes the bare minimum is hard work for us when we're depressed and struggling. "Hard work" is relative and highly dependent upon our capabilities at the moment in time. What's "hard work" one day may be a breeze on another day when we're in a different state of being.

There's no shame in doing just enough to survive when that's truly all we can do at the time. That in itself is an accomplishment. I hope things get easier for you soon

 

[BandAddict]

I'm in a similar boat. Basically living in bed most of the time. Anything I do is merely because I have to, or dive into it before I really have the chance to talk myself out of it.

I really like what Muffin said, sometimes the bare minimum is all we need to worry about to get by. If you're in a situation that allows for that, then rest is better than overwhelming yourself or putting yourself in crisis.

Maybe (when you're feeling up to it of course) challenge yourself to single tasks that can move you forward in some way. Don't tackle it all at once. It could be something like organizing a drawer, Idk. And that's all you have to do for that day, or that week, or whatever. Just throwing out ideas. In the meantime, don't beat yourself up for feeling exhausted. That's a common result of compromised mental health. Take care.

 

[JustLosingMyself]

Babysteps, 1 at a time.

 

[Arvinneedstodie]

I have faced these kinds of criticisms so many times, and I always get so triggered by them. Yeah I'm not trying enough, and sometimes I'm not trying at all, but at the end of the day only I am experiencing my own circumstances. If anyone can make an accurate judgement about any situation, then surely it's gotta be the person who's in that exact situation.

My therapist said that to me a few times, and next time I'll ask her if she's tring her best to help me. If so, then why am I still so lost and depressed, maybe try harder yourself?

 

[Tegan_sky]

I don't know what to say for a suggestion, but your post and feelings resonate with me because I feel the exact same way. I can't even clean my bathroom one fixture a week, now it looks like the bathroom in a crack house or slimy gas station.

Hang in there, I agree with others, if you need rest, rest. I wish you the best.

 

[Tired_Tired]

Except that you are rich; otherwise, you need money to buy food or clothes etc. at least as long as you are still alive.