Discussion What was your experience seeing your molester/rapist again???

[c.c]

I am going to see my molester soon and i can't avoid it any more nor telling my family is an option
and i am curious to know how it felt seeing your rapist/molester again in person??

 

[The Morningstar]

It can be an extremely difficult—but manageable—time. I know your situation, where you are going to be in his home, will be far different than my brief encounters with my abuser were after the fallout. But, since you asked, it was overwhelming. I had to muster all of my strength to keep calm and emotionless on the outside: this is called "going grey rock" and it is much like trying to wear an extended poker face. It can be very draining, so I hope you get to practice it before your encounter.

On the inside, I was scared, anxious, nauseous, and very, very angry. To the best of my knowledge, she saw none of this and even acted deflated toward the end of our last meeting, because I gave her no emotion to feed upon.

Please be safe, and do not feed your abuser any emotions at all: make the bastard starve.

 

[Dying Opportunity]

I hadn't seen him after he assaulted me in 2009 because he moved. I thought that he'd forgotten about me until I ran into him on some beach in 2015. He looked different but the way he looked and smiled at me didn't. I was scared shitless. Before he said a single word I ran until I couldn't see him behind me anymore. Haven't seen him irl since.

I was able to completely repress it until that point because I didn't know him all that well outside of school. I can't begin to imagine the pain that people who have to see those kind of monsters on a daily basis go through.

 

[limpimitation]

The few times since when I see them in public, I totally freeze up. It sucks

 

[imtiredasf]

I live next door to mine. She's my sister. I hid everything for 20 years, broke down, told my family, nothing changed. I see her every now and then, I try not to leave the house much. I worry for her kids. Seeing her makes me go numb throughout the interaction, followed by angry as soon as it's done, then comes the sadness.

 

[Raindancer]

I ran into mine totally unexpectedly. I had no idea he was going to the same cottage I was. I ran into him on my floor the very first day I got there as he was my RA. I froze and started hyperventilating. This was after my family had left after getting me organized and I really didn't know anyone. I didn't feel comfortable sharing. Luckily, seeing me must have freaked him out as much as seeing him did to me. He directly went and removed himself as RA in my building. Strangely, I never ran into him again.

 

[darkandtwisty]

I had a baby with my rapist. My parents maintain a good relationship with him. "For the sake of the child". Love my son with everything I have. But there's a special place in Hell for his father.

 

[suicideprepper]

Saw him twice after the fact.
Once after a traffic accident. He was crying and bleeding. I asked what had happened, and he tried to form some sentences, but couldn't do it properly. He was talking about the other people involved. Don't know the details.
The other time was at a supermarket. We just traded stares very quickly.
It was a case of child-on-child abuse, and I don't think he knew much better. Don't wish anything bad upon him. This is not to say I judge others who have been in this situation and want their molesters to suffer - everyone knows their case best, and whatever feelings you have in this situation are completely valid.