Discussion What makes depressed people isolate themselves?

[Sk1n1M1n]

Why for yourself through more shit when you are aredy dating with an illness and load of problems on me socialising in my loca community, is like shooting myself in the foot and walking on it again. At home I have my games chatrooms and Netflix wrichis a for more interesting that's spending a ten minutes at the socia group.

 

[Xocoyotziin]

I didn't want to be around people or get involved because it might trick me into getting reinvested, or I'd be noticed and forcibly become a part of something, I don't know what, could be anything, that I didn't want to be a part of. That and anhedonia. It just didn't feel worth it. Life felt disgusting. I guess that kind of fits under fear of being misunderstood, too. Relationships are so complicated and entrapping, maybe.

 

[Metalhead]

One of my biggest reasons for self isolating is embarrassment. I used to be the life and soul of the party (after a few drinks) I would have lots to talk about and was interested to hear other people etc. Depression has stripped this away and I have allowed it to do this without putting up any resistance. I spend a great deal of my time in online chat rooms where I feel zero pressure. I know that I will die a miserable person, I just don't understand why my survival instinct is so strong and it's such a struggle to overcome it. Like a lot of us here I dream that ctb will be relatively pain free and quick, but literally for every day that passes the desperation increases.

 

[Sk1n1M1n]

I think when you purposely sell isolate it starts off really bad you arena attention but then eventually you get used it so it doesn't aspect your mental health o for me now it feels peaceful a lot easier a sob well done missionaccomplished

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I literally check off all of the reasons. For me it's just easier to isolate myself. Few people in my life understand severe anxiety and depression and going out in public makes me feel 10x worse. I just prefer to hide...also I hate catching up with people because I'm such a failure in life and it's embarrassing.

 

[Panna]

Mainly my jealousy and my feelings of being isolated. You get a group of people in the room, and they all have fun with each other, talking, laughing, having a great time, and I always feel like the odd one out. Even if I'm talking with them, it always comes to a point where I feel like I don't belong and so leaving and going anywhere else will be far better for me or them. A different game, a stairway, the rooftop anywhere where I don't have to hear human voices or see people. It's always the same thing, them enjoying that good life that I can only ever have through death. Once gone, my hope is to relive it as something or anything else. It's that hope that keeps me going ironically.

 

[Sk1n1M1n]

Plus is you go to load high street is more depressing seeing loads of shops boarded up and the boring sods getting pissed because they can't go to work because of the Covid 19

 

[MrBlue]

For me it's abit of a catch 22. Even when I've not been depressed, I've never really been widely accepted by anyone outside my immediate family, and it takes a long time for people to warm to me. Then I get depressed because opening up to others failed to work, so I retreat into my own head, and so people understandably push me further away.

 

[Red]

Shit people are why I isolate!
People around me either getting in a cheap emotional shot or completely ignoring my increasing pain and disability rather than showing compassion and understanding when I need it most.
...So the burden thing weighs heavy...
Although if I'm honest I've always found social interaction exhausting, keeping up with all the small talk and bullshit and two faced crap that's not only apparently perfectly acceptable for them but also allegedly perpetrated by the actual victims of it, I.e: me, staunch fighter of injustice
I always thought that logic and reason would, should win out but guess what? Crazy people aren't logical OR reasonable
There wasn't the option for "somehow being a screen upon which people project their own faults and insecurities"; I think this is more common and little talked about than people think and perhaps the main reason for my wanting to ctb aside from my increasing physical discomfort. It's a common theme in my life and I'm baffled as to 1. how I manage to end up in this same position again and again and 2. how to escape it

 

[Meditation guide]

I say things I think are funny and start laughing and people get mad at me. I'm the most misunderstood person in the world. Why do I have to be such a jokester!

I can't be around people for tht reason.