Absolutely agree that as adults we should be able to talk to others (including psych professionals) without fear of a cop car pulling up to the front of our house. Each time that happened to me all the neighbors were outside and watched me get carted off. Nice. Thanks that helped. It finally sunk in that I can't ever share what's really in my head and hope to get support. My answer is always "fine". Mandated reporting absolves mental health professionals of actually doing their jobs. It's an excuse for them to keep their distance and not do the actual "real" work. Lucky us.
And everybody has cameras attached to their phones and doorbells now.
So our humiliation could easily be immortalized on top of it. Publicly.
As if the databases full of "professional's" biased interpretations of our words and feelings aren't bad enough.
There are so many scare tactics to keep us in line and shut us the fuck up..and then they wonder why we finally snap after our minds and bodies simply cannot handle the internalization and compartmentalizing of our woes, which we only ever implemented in order to avoid what they threatened us with.
These people actually foster insanity, which they then claim to "treat".
Does a cornered animal act calm and composed?
How do they expect us to react..
Everything about suicide has been made completely taboo in our current society, not only that but anything related to it is so stigmatized that not only is it illegal, but it automatically strips the person involved of any rights.
You cannot truthfully expect people to seek help or speak about their issues in an honest way, if the moment they do so you report them to the next x authority or system in which they are forcefully locked up and have no say in what happens to them, but its left to whatever their mental health "professional" dictates.
Or you finally decide to open up to a friend and they call the cops on you thinking they`re helping and you`ll be thankful for it later on. No, I wont. Thats betrayal ffs.
Let me emphasize that, cops are called on that person to forcefully lock them up against their will and they lose control of their own life which is in the hands someone else from that point forward.
How is this NOT considered extremely fucked up and barbaric by anyone else, except us? How can someone look at this situation and truly believe "yeah, we`re helping this person here, they`re so lucky we intervened"?
Yes, I agree.
Living under issues that are seen as taboo to speak about or even suffer with is just incredibly oppressive and defeating..maddening, surreal.
Most of my issues are just layered with a sense of 'taboo' and I cannot stand it.
Suicide is just the conclusion of them all.
I daydream of being able to at least trade my problems for ones that are permitted to be openly lamented about..and with a sense of community and sympathy and validation.
Some of the worst things in life are those that others deem too difficult to open their eyes and minds to..and it makes it so fucking god awful for those of us who have to live them.
Life becomes a fucked up chess game of slowly inching a piece across the board, only to have to surreptitiously or swiftly yank it back..testing the waters to see if we can even so much as vaguely allude to or allow inference of our troubles..some of which are ironically very, very obvious.
Every time i go to the physician ive been asked about my mental state. I always say im fine. I fear being committed to the psyche ward. My mom told horror stories of her times there. We need an outlet to talk about about suicide without fear of being locked up or the stigma that society places on us. Thats how i ended up here. I feel better knowing that there are people like me out there. Knowing i can talk and not be locked up. I've tried to talk to my wife and she threatened to call police, wtf. Suicide should not be a taboo subject. I feel places like this help us cope while we are still here. Just the fact i can talk without the fear of consequences. You cant help people that dont want help. If someone want to ctb society should have a way to help them do it painless and peacefully.
You mean every time you go to a regular non-psych physician?
This is quite bad..but I avoid going to almost any sort of medical doctor now, even though my issues require them, among the list of reasons why are because I'm just so sick of the egos, the dismissiveness (sometimes right alongside acknowledging that you're fucked..bizarre), the heinous bullying of patients that is grade school level cruel, the lack of respect for privacy laws, their constant concern for the state of their career/reputation/job far above their concern for you and what is clearly affecting you, and the absolutely invasive and abominable presence of the mental health narrative that has no business in the other fields of medicine/surgery or the offices their patients step into.
Doesn't matter what your issue is, if you seem "too" bothered by it, if you word things the wrong way, if you express things the wrong way, if they can't figure out how to help you, if they are unwilling to help you, if they find you tedious, if you tear up, if they consider your own concern for yourself and your well being a liability- if they don't trust themselves or have the skills to alleviate what has led to your concerns…all of that and more..they will opt to suggest or defer you to psych related 'professionals'..or they will merely add the subtext.
I have seen so many people experience this..with everything from all types of chronic or sudden pain, eye issues, cosmetic concerns, gynecological abnormalities, even bleeding out of your orifices..everything under the sun..the psych referral (or similar) can become the trump card and the conversation ender for a clueless, slighted or self-preserving physician.
Must be a relief for them.
Most don't seem ready to send you to the ward themselves or anything but you never know.
Still, it doesn't exactly invite patients to want to continue to try to find a solution to their physical problems. It just leads them to give up.
Plus it will even scare some people to avoid going to the ER for emergencies.
I won't go.
Then again, I have a death wish lol
But some medical emergencies won't kill you..they'll just make your situation worse when untreated.
Years and years ago I had an experience where I had to go to the ER for what they ended up thinking was possible pancreatitis or appendicitis (I honestly cannot remember which, they were preparing me for surgery but then it turned out to be something much less severe..although they did put me on morphine) and that somehow turned into an utter shit show with psychologists involved (who then cleared me to leave, only for nurses to then stick their nose in and try to make me stay..unreal..and what happened next was straight out of a movie. A wealthier person would have surely sued for what ended up occurring).
Yet that situation didn't even stop me from going to the doctor when need be, but eventually that too became a problem.
The authority of the mental health system and the public perception of it..those with hero complexes, etc..it's too much.
They have more power and reach than any other entity and the least amount of sound science/effectiveness/patient satisfaction to back it up.
Talk about crazy.
You don't even have to be another medical professional to call them up to lend you a favor.
Don't like someone?
Call the cops on them for a wellness check.
No questions asked. No proof needed.
Just make something up..tell them the person said they're going to kill themselves..good odds you will land that person in the ward.
Ain't life grand?