3spiral
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- Apr 22, 2026
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tell me how do you know when you love someone. no offense but I'm not looking for pessimistic answers saying that love is a lie or smth like that. I'm asking how would you describe personally your feelings of love towards another person and how can you tell when you love
I'm asking this because I've always been kind of unattached from people. some of my friends say they love me and I tell them back the same thing but I'm not sure if I feel this way
recently, and, of course these could simply be the symptoms of a little crush, I've been regularly talking with a girl and started feeling this kinda fuzzy feeling of really wanting to see her happy. I want to check on her, make sure she's doing okay every day. I want to remember her in the morning to know if she slept well. I want to be there for her if she needs to. I know I idealize her a lot too, these are feelings I've only felt on fantasies before so I wonder if they are even real or if I'm projecting something onto her. this makes me worried because I don't want to become an issue in her life. I have a lot of shifting feelings towards her too because I'm just unstable (I feel bad for her that she met me sometimes—). sometimes I feel weirded out by being close to another person and want to cut her off
anyways of course platonic love is different from romantic love which is different from a crush. but having these feelings made me realize I never felt so tender towards someone else before. in fact, until I was verbally advised not to I would directly tell my friends that I won't miss them when they are gone because it's natural for people to just come and go in life... I thought this was an alright thing to say. I was in my mid teens I know why this isn't okay now, even if I still feel this way sometimes. I definitely care about people, though. just in a different way and I also struggle to show it, or to even identify what I feel sometimes
so... what's your experiences with love?
edit: maybe I should've posted this in philosophy but.... the post has too much of my personal experiences so it's better here idk I didn't think of it before
I'm asking this because I've always been kind of unattached from people. some of my friends say they love me and I tell them back the same thing but I'm not sure if I feel this way
recently, and, of course these could simply be the symptoms of a little crush, I've been regularly talking with a girl and started feeling this kinda fuzzy feeling of really wanting to see her happy. I want to check on her, make sure she's doing okay every day. I want to remember her in the morning to know if she slept well. I want to be there for her if she needs to. I know I idealize her a lot too, these are feelings I've only felt on fantasies before so I wonder if they are even real or if I'm projecting something onto her. this makes me worried because I don't want to become an issue in her life. I have a lot of shifting feelings towards her too because I'm just unstable (I feel bad for her that she met me sometimes—). sometimes I feel weirded out by being close to another person and want to cut her off
anyways of course platonic love is different from romantic love which is different from a crush. but having these feelings made me realize I never felt so tender towards someone else before. in fact, until I was verbally advised not to I would directly tell my friends that I won't miss them when they are gone because it's natural for people to just come and go in life... I thought this was an alright thing to say. I was in my mid teens I know why this isn't okay now, even if I still feel this way sometimes. I definitely care about people, though. just in a different way and I also struggle to show it, or to even identify what I feel sometimes
so... what's your experiences with love?
edit: maybe I should've posted this in philosophy but.... the post has too much of my personal experiences so it's better here idk I didn't think of it before
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