DTA
Desperado
- May 3, 2025
- 98
So, I'm what I refer to as an old man now. Middle-aged, technically, but not a young buck anymore. I spent my late twenties and most of my thirties in prison and since getting out I've been shocked at attention I'm getting from women.
I'm going to lay out a bit of my past to illustrate where I'm coming from, but I'm really curious if any other middle-aged men have similar experiences.
When I was young I was cheated on by multiple girlfriends. In youthful naivete I reasoned that all women were just going to use me so I decided to use them first. I quit dating and started just chasing tail. I would hook up with as many women as possible. At my best (or worst, depending on how one looks at it) I had a different girl for every night of the week.
Eventually I fell in love with a long-time platonic female friend and we eventually got engaged. I swore off all other women and was loyal to her alone. And she cheated on me on Christmas Eve. With my sister.
Since then I've been voluntarily and comfortably single. The whole womanizing thing left me somewhat hollow and I'm unable to trust a partner. I was even able to ward off another young man from walking my path. What's more, the thought of being physically intimate with anyone is revolting to me now. I never had any difficulty in prison for lack of sex like so many other men did because of that fact. And now that I'm out I'm just focused on taking care of an elderly woman who needs my help. I don't want to have a partner.
But what I find bizarre now is the attention I'm receiving from women. I used to have to work to get female attention. I've always looked young and due to my Native blood I can't grow a beard, even now. I was reasonably good-looking, I think. Average height. Slim. Relatively fit. Fashionable. But females weren't exactly throwing themselves at me. Now I'm middle-aged. I've filled out a bit and have a bit of a beer belly. A dad bod, I guess. I look young for my age but I'm not a svelte young sex machine anymore. I'm certainly not wealthy.
But I come back into the world and I suddenly find much younger women throwing themselves at me! I used to love playfully flirting but I don't even do that anymore. I'm not interested!
Yesterday at the grocery store I was buying food for the old lady I help. There were three teenaged girls at the checkout: a clerk, a bag girl, and another employee who was just hanging out with them. They made a big fuss about the Asian food I was buying and started heavily flirting with me but I didn't respond to it. There was also a young woman I met recently in a different town who was hitting on me. I told her, "You know I'm old enough to be your father, right?" She sort of backed off but didn't seem to lose much interest. Those are just two cases that come to mind!
It reminded me of my childhood with my much older father. I was 10 at the time and he was 73. We were similarly at a checkout with a pretty cashier who couldn't have been over 18 or 19. She asked if I was shopping with my grandpa and I told her, no, that's my dad. She said, "Oh?" and then started hitting on him hardcore. He just laughed it off but I was shocked that she'd be after an old man like that. "Go Dad!" I thought.
And recently I was seeing videos on YouTube of young women going absolutely nuts over Leon Kennedy in the new Resident Evil game. Leon, who is supposed to be in his 50's.
So my question is, is that typical of women to chase older men like that? This is all new to me. In highschool girls my age were after college boys, but I never saw them chasing middle-aged men. Are there any other old men like me who've experienced this, or have I just had weird luck? Is it the fact that I'm NOT chasing these young women that draws them in? Or heck, maybe there's women here who could shed some insight into it!
I'm really curious about this. The psychology of it. I'd be grateful to anyone who could share insight.
I'm going to lay out a bit of my past to illustrate where I'm coming from, but I'm really curious if any other middle-aged men have similar experiences.
When I was young I was cheated on by multiple girlfriends. In youthful naivete I reasoned that all women were just going to use me so I decided to use them first. I quit dating and started just chasing tail. I would hook up with as many women as possible. At my best (or worst, depending on how one looks at it) I had a different girl for every night of the week.
Eventually I fell in love with a long-time platonic female friend and we eventually got engaged. I swore off all other women and was loyal to her alone. And she cheated on me on Christmas Eve. With my sister.
Since then I've been voluntarily and comfortably single. The whole womanizing thing left me somewhat hollow and I'm unable to trust a partner. I was even able to ward off another young man from walking my path. What's more, the thought of being physically intimate with anyone is revolting to me now. I never had any difficulty in prison for lack of sex like so many other men did because of that fact. And now that I'm out I'm just focused on taking care of an elderly woman who needs my help. I don't want to have a partner.
But what I find bizarre now is the attention I'm receiving from women. I used to have to work to get female attention. I've always looked young and due to my Native blood I can't grow a beard, even now. I was reasonably good-looking, I think. Average height. Slim. Relatively fit. Fashionable. But females weren't exactly throwing themselves at me. Now I'm middle-aged. I've filled out a bit and have a bit of a beer belly. A dad bod, I guess. I look young for my age but I'm not a svelte young sex machine anymore. I'm certainly not wealthy.
But I come back into the world and I suddenly find much younger women throwing themselves at me! I used to love playfully flirting but I don't even do that anymore. I'm not interested!
Yesterday at the grocery store I was buying food for the old lady I help. There were three teenaged girls at the checkout: a clerk, a bag girl, and another employee who was just hanging out with them. They made a big fuss about the Asian food I was buying and started heavily flirting with me but I didn't respond to it. There was also a young woman I met recently in a different town who was hitting on me. I told her, "You know I'm old enough to be your father, right?" She sort of backed off but didn't seem to lose much interest. Those are just two cases that come to mind!
It reminded me of my childhood with my much older father. I was 10 at the time and he was 73. We were similarly at a checkout with a pretty cashier who couldn't have been over 18 or 19. She asked if I was shopping with my grandpa and I told her, no, that's my dad. She said, "Oh?" and then started hitting on him hardcore. He just laughed it off but I was shocked that she'd be after an old man like that. "Go Dad!" I thought.
And recently I was seeing videos on YouTube of young women going absolutely nuts over Leon Kennedy in the new Resident Evil game. Leon, who is supposed to be in his 50's.
So my question is, is that typical of women to chase older men like that? This is all new to me. In highschool girls my age were after college boys, but I never saw them chasing middle-aged men. Are there any other old men like me who've experienced this, or have I just had weird luck? Is it the fact that I'm NOT chasing these young women that draws them in? Or heck, maybe there's women here who could shed some insight into it!
I'm really curious about this. The psychology of it. I'd be grateful to anyone who could share insight.
