Venting Upset GF

[toxicjester]

My gf wanted to feel pretty and productive so we pulled an all nighter because it takes her so long to get ready including showering and straightening her hair. But while she was in the shower large clumps of hair fell out to the point that apparently her hair has visibly thinned. It's now only a couple hours before I have to go work and she's upset because we didn't do anything and she feels even uglier and more of a man than before and I can't say or do anything to make her feel better cause I'm so horrible at comfort
I wish my life was better, or that I could just fall asleep and not wake up and worry about all of this. I just don't know how much longer I can do this.

 

[Neowise]

That doesn't sound healthy. Does she have a condition?

 

[nir]

Is there a reason why her hair is falling out?

 

[QteStimBnnuy]

she feels even uglier and more of a man than before

I wish my life was better, or that I could just fall asleep and not wake up and worry about all of this. I just don't know how much longer I can do this.

It seems your stress + her self image issues goes beyond just the recent hair loss. It's not for me to get into, but I'll just say communication is important. As for hair loss, that alone can greatly affect anybody and can take quite some time for someone to come to terms with

It may be recommended to have it checked out to see if there's anything going on that could be causing it. If nothing appears to be, it's not guaranteed but you have things such as minoxidil that may or may not help over a long period of time. Though I'd recommend looking into things before hand or extra things that *may help keep hair intact/come in better

 

[toxicjester]

It seems your stress + her self image issues goes beyond just the recent hair loss. It's not for me to get into, but I'll just say communication is important. As for hair loss, that alone can greatly affect anybody and can take quite some time for someone to come to terms with

It may be recommended to have it checked out to see if there's anything going on that could be causing it. If nothing appears to be, it's not guaranteed but you have things such as minoxidil that may or may not help over a long period of time. Though I'd recommend looking into things before hand or extra things that *may help keep hair intact/come in better

Yea our relationship has been on a decline for a long time and it's my fault and I try to change things but it feels like I can't think of a way out of it, we've talked about it so much that this repetition of events has been dubbed "the cycle"
And she already does a lot of maintenance as is (minoxidil, argon oil, etc) and I suggested going to the doctor but she got even more upset at that

That doesn't sound healthy. Does she have a condition?

Her hair is naturally curly and she doesn't like it so she straightens is + it's been bleached but that was a while ago so the sudden loss was understandably devastating

 

[QteStimBnnuy]

"the cycle"

Known this too well. Best of luck on whatever you decide to do, your mental health matters just as much as anothers

I suggested going to the doctor but she got even more upset at that

Big thonk

 

[soonatpeace777888]

Sounds like she has some kind of alopecia. If she gets it treated now she may be able to prevent more loss.

 

[toxicjester]

Sounds like she has some kind of alopecia. If she gets it treated now she may be able to prevent more loss.

Maybe, although I forgot to mention earlier we both just got over some sickness and I'm 80% it was COVID and I heard that COVID can do that kinda thing so