FireFox
Enlightened
- Apr 8, 2020
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I do recognise therapy can be a useful tool but we need to be honest not everyone needs therapy for every single problem. This year I have lost track of the amount of judgemental people in reddit advice support communities and discord server groups who have rudely told me to "go see a therapist" whenever I open up about my loss of confidence of getting fired from my first full time job since graduating and the heartbreak over the older man I fell deeply in love with.
Sometimes connecting with your fellow humans over difficulties can make a huge difference. Rescently I went on a course helping unemployed welfare claimants find work . In one group work activity I met a woman in her 30s and an Immigrant. During the 10 minutes we had together it was so shocking how we are so similar.She then opened up to me about the bullying and humiliation she received at work from her boss and colleagues for being a foreigner and a woman.
The woman and I we both lost our jobs around the same time each other. This year January she quit her job as she got tired of the daily bullying and weeks later after she quit I got fired from my job in mid February I was visibly horrified as she gave the details and I deeply sympathised with her. Then I told her my story. We both wished each other well. It was so comforting knowing in another workplace there was a woman like me who struggled at work just I did. She just like me fought everyday till the end.
We would be a much better society if we actually connected honestly with each other over our past and present struggles and helped people find a way to deal with their problems. Looking back now I realise I never needed therapy. It is normal that I was disappointed and lost confidence over getting fired from my first post university job, it is normal I am still heart-broken over a man I deeply loved who made me feel so special. I just needed comfort and knowing other women experienced what I am experiencing and overcome that especially over the heartbreak involving an older male.
Sometimes connecting with your fellow humans over difficulties can make a huge difference. Rescently I went on a course helping unemployed welfare claimants find work . In one group work activity I met a woman in her 30s and an Immigrant. During the 10 minutes we had together it was so shocking how we are so similar.She then opened up to me about the bullying and humiliation she received at work from her boss and colleagues for being a foreigner and a woman.
The woman and I we both lost our jobs around the same time each other. This year January she quit her job as she got tired of the daily bullying and weeks later after she quit I got fired from my job in mid February I was visibly horrified as she gave the details and I deeply sympathised with her. Then I told her my story. We both wished each other well. It was so comforting knowing in another workplace there was a woman like me who struggled at work just I did. She just like me fought everyday till the end.
We would be a much better society if we actually connected honestly with each other over our past and present struggles and helped people find a way to deal with their problems. Looking back now I realise I never needed therapy. It is normal that I was disappointed and lost confidence over getting fired from my first post university job, it is normal I am still heart-broken over a man I deeply loved who made me feel so special. I just needed comfort and knowing other women experienced what I am experiencing and overcome that especially over the heartbreak involving an older male.