Top Five Regrets Of The Dying Book

[A.A]

Has anyone read this book. I'm nearly done with it. It's about a carer who listed the most common regrets of her dying patients in a blog post that got so popular she released a book. It talks about her care work and patients but also her own life where she almost commits suicide. Although it can feel like it has a bit of toxic positivity in it I'm still finding it a valuable read, was wondering what other people at varying points in their ctb/recovery journey thought of the book.

 

[U. A.]

Looking it up, seems like pretty standard stuff. I've seen basically the same list elsewhere.
As you say, the "toxic" part is obvious. I imagine this person lives in the states and afaik not everyone has access to palliative; as she says this is also an older generation so there's almost certainly some class/race/generational inapplicability.
I'd like to know the regrets of people dying on the street cause of systemic gov't bullshit that put and kept them there.

Regrets of the Dying – Bronnie Ware

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For anyone who can't be assed to open a link:

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[A.A]

The author is from Australia and is homeless for most of the book there is some younger and I think middle age people that she cares for that she mentions. She also spends sometime in nursing homes. I think the underlying values some of the 'regrets' represent don't necessarily change based on background like having social connections and expressing oneself these are important whether you're street homeless or very wealthy. Sometimes I notice that in posts here people are down about things that they seem to have taken on from social expectations and I wondered if a book like this would be helpful to them.

On the other hand it is also a kind of self-help book and the self-help industry can be a menace, it often has no relevance to the reality of the average persons life and seems to exist as a money making self-congratulatory club. I think there are traces of this in the book like the toxic positivity I mentioned and I was skeptical at first however I am ultimately satisfied that I read it in the end.

If you're ever interested in books about dying outside of palliative care you might like How We Die Now by Sherwin Nuland a doctor, I haven't finished that one yet but it's definitely much more grim then this one is.

 

[Zeir Anpin 729]

Im a NEET but not by choice. Ive applied to thousands of jobs. The system is failing me and I am the one punished because of it. Ive stopped applying. I canceled the lease on my apartment. My future looks like being homeless and alone. Hopefully alone. The crackheads and violent losers on the street already know i am an easy target and have attacked me multiple times already. I need to get out of here. I dont know how much sense hanging onto the semblances of hope even make anymore. but as a male NEET i can tell you that I think i put WAYYYYYYYYY to much effort into school and my piles of straight A transcripts are not worth the paper they are written on. School only ever exhausted me and wasted all my time.

 

[Manfrotto99]

It would be interesting to see how many people on here actually relate to these regrets. I only very vaguely do, if at all. I feel that the system we have to live in, society rules, my narc parents, my appearance etc - things that were beyond my control, beyond my resources and beyond my knowledge at the time, pushed and shaped me into where I now. Id say that is the same with a lot if people in here. I really tried, but we dont live in a vacuum and sometimes we can only do so much with what we are given.

The author is from Australia and is homeless for most of the book there is some younger and I think middle age people that she cares for that she mentions. She also spends sometime in nursing homes. I think the underlying values some of the 'regrets' represent don't necessarily change based on background like having social connections and expressing oneself these are important whether you're street homeless or very wealthy. Sometimes I notice that in posts here people are down about things that they seem to have taken on from social expectations and I wondered if a book like this would be helpful to them.

On the other hand it is also a kind of self-help book and the self-help industry can be a menace, it often has no relevance to the reality of the average persons life and seems to exist as a money making self-congratulatory club. I think there are traces of this in the book like the toxic positivity I mentioned and I was skeptical at first however I am ultimately satisfied that I read it in the end.

If you're ever interested in books about dying outside of palliative care you might like How We Die Now by Sherwin Nuland a doctor, I haven't finished that one yet but it's definitely much more grim then this one is.

Yes positive self help, makes money through giving false hope by implying we are in charge of life and things will change if only we would wake up and change ourselves first before it is too late. Not implying we are always hopeless to change, perhaps we can change ourselves to some degree, but it is always within and often against the system we operate in, that is way bigger than us. There is much deception in it.