to leave a note or not?

[user39]

i'm conflicted with leaving a note. I think the unknown will truly give a chance to those that hurt me to reflect.

 

[MrbearX]

I plan to leave a video explaining my reasons but you're idea isn't bad specially if it's someone that hurt you why explain anything to them they'll know I'm sure just my thoughts

 

[Viranamari]

Leaving a note leaves a sense of assurance for your lived ones as they will know what happened, why you chose to CTB and that you willingly killed yourself.
I suggest leaving a note at the scene of the crime instead of handing it to them. If you didn't manage to carry out the plan or if they read it before you carried out the plan, then the situation for you is going to be adverse.
Of course, leaving a note is a personal opinion, you don't have to do it. But it's safe to do it so that you know your lived ones know the truth.

 

[dimstar]

I'm going to leave a general note, for those that find me just explaining the basics. Also instructions on who to give my smaller goodbyes. Just a final reassurances to those who've been great people in my life who I dont want to worry about my death. I really wish I could say goodbye but the consequences of doing that alive are to strong.

 

[Scacie]

I plan to write only a single note, to my best friend and the person I love the post. Others, especially those can hurt me won't get anything

 

[looking_for_peace]

maybe I'm in the minority but I'm not going to leave a goodbye note. I love my family, but I think a note (no matter how much I tried to explain) would only leave them with more questions and feelings of "how did I not notice?" etc. I'm interested to hear thoughts on this.

 

[ExistHarm]

maybe I'm in the minority but I'm not going to leave a goodbye note. I love my family, but I think a note (no matter how much I tried to explain) would only leave them with more questions and feelings of "how did I not notice?" etc. I'm interested to hear thoughts on this.

if im going to write/record a note it would include something along the lines of "there was nothing you could have done." i really dont want anyone to think it was a spur of the moment thing. no, this was always how it was going to end.

 

[the guilt i carry]

i plan to write a note, just to make clear to who give my things. and also i want some people to know was or wasn't it their fault. maybe it sounds bad, but i want some people to know that they are guilty.

 

[Sparr0w]

pros of writing a note: reassurance to family, will, funeral plans, vengence (if you're into that sorta thing), lets people know it was a suicide.
cons of writing a note: lets people know it was a suicide, people may draw incorrect conclusions from it, if a family member/friend finds you and you live, they will know whatever was in that note.

...so it's really whatever you prefer.

 

[WorthlessCoward]

I'm not leaving them anything screw them

Thought I don't think they really care and probably feel relieved, now they can waste more money on alcohol and besides it's not like I haven't told them I wish to die. I think there were a couple of studies about people who leave or not notes, may be worth checking it out if you're really interested.

 

[neemva]

I plan to leave one note to, just to make clear that it is not anyone's fault that I choose to cbt, and just saying some assurance words to my fam <3

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that it depends on the indivdual, it's a completely personal decision whether to leave a note or not, I would see it as being for the best as it would mean that other people would be less likely to be left with unanswered questions.

 

[tuyu]

When I ctb I'll probably leave a note telling whoever who may find me to let me rest in peace and please don't hold any funeral. I'm planning to cut contact with family before that as well as move out from the country I'm in. I definitely don't plan to ctb in the current country I'm in because it's too easy to find my body and… whoever who happens to find it + remaining friends and family will probably be shookth.

Hopefully friends / acquaintances I've known won't be too affected (I mean by this point I've probably ghosted them for a decade or more and was living somewhere else + no social media. doubt they'd care or know)

Basically I just wanna disappear from the world in silence.

Maybe my family might be "heartbroken" but i don't really care…..??? Death is a natural part of life.

 

[AnonYmous00]

i'm conflicted with leaving a note. I think the unknown will truly give a chance to those that hurt me to reflect.

I'm also torn. If I do it will be on my person. It will be a there was nothing anyone could have done kind of thing if I do.