There isn't anything inherently wrong with ctb-ing for attention.

[PeopleAreWeird]

Imagine being so starved for any attention that you feel like you have to attempt ctb to justify your existence, desperately shouting into the void that you exist and having it not care. Being ignored so much that you'd do practically anything for people to pay attention to you. It drains the life out of me and is definitely one of the reasons for my wanting to ctb.

I don't believe everyone who ctb-s does so for attention. I find that view quite ignorant. (How can someone be so completely oblivious to suffering as to think that the only reason for ctb is attention-seeking? Do they have no idea that abuse, mental illness, disease, awful parents, war, poverty, etc. exist?) I'm just saying that I personally think wanting attention is a valid reason for suicide.

 

[Weebster]

Interesting perspective.
I always find it interesting when people criticize someone for wanting attention. Everyone needs attention to function well. Wtf

 

[_Minsk]

I agree, i wish all people would think that way.

 

[FuneralCry]

I believe that we all have the right to exit this world at a time of our own choosing and nobody needs to justify their reasons for leaving. We have no obligations to stay alive as we did not ask to exist, so I agree with what you are saying.

 

[OldDrummer]

But isn't it a self-defeating act in that context?

If you successfully ctb for attention, how will you ever know you eventually got the attention that you craved?

 

[summers]

But isn't it a self-defeating act in that context?

If you successfully ctb for attention, how will you ever know you eventually got the attention that you craved?

This is the exact reason killing yourself for attention makes no sense, Instead of doing so, which is quite defeatist, perhaps put your energy into assimilating into a new group of friends who will give you attention. I never understood the thinking that someone's family or friends don't give them attention, so they kill or harm themselves. Fuck your family and friends then, there are almost 8 billion people in this world, find the ones you click with.

Or don't and kill yourself. Please don't be those people who attempt for attention. The concern anyone shows is shallow and fake. If they didn't give a fuck about you before, now you're the same person but just more of a burden since you need to be babysat.

 

[OldDrummer]

This is the exact reason killing yourself for attention makes no sense, Instead of doing so, which is quite defeatist, perhaps put your energy into assimilating into a new group of friends who will give you attention. I never understood the thinking that someone's family or friends don't give them attention, so they kill or harm themselves. Fuck your family and friends then, there are almost 8 billion people in this world, find the ones you click with.

Or don't and kill yourself. Please don't be those people who attempt for attention. The concern anyone shows is shallow and fake. If they didn't give a fuck about you before, now you're the same person but just more of a burden since you need to be babysat.

I empathise with everyone on here, it's an amazing support network.

But over the months, I'm starting to see two types of people here.

Firstly, those who are unconsciously viewing the act as a 'cry for help' and who also want to use it as a way to get back at those whom them feel have hurt them.

Secondly, those who are methodically planning out the act and who approach it more rashly and calmly.

Please don't think that I'm being judgemental either way, but as I've said before, my eventual act will be on me and no one else.

 

[summers]

I empathise with everyone on here, it's an amazing support network.

But over the months, I'm starting to see two types of people here.

Firstly, those who are unconsciously viewing the act as a 'cry for help' and who also want to use it as a way to get back at those whom them feel have hurt them.

Secondly, those who are methodically planning out the act and who approach it more rashly and calmly.

Please don't think that I'm being judgemental either way, but as I've said before, my eventual act will be on me and no one else.

Most people who attempt to ctb for revenge fail because they don't really want to die, they want to hurt someone else. There's a bid difference between ctb because no one pays attention to you, or treats you like shit, and someone who has a progressive illness or suffered trauma or loss they can no longer deal with.

 

[OldDrummer]

Most people who attempt to ctb for revenge fail because they don't really want to die, they want to hurt someone else. There's a bid difference between ctb because no one pays attention to you, or treats you like shit, and someone who has a progressive illness or suffered trauma or loss they can no longer deal with.

Bingo.

 

[watchingthewheels]

It's wrong if it's done for emotional manipulation...("If you leave me, I'll kill myself", or the like...)

 

[summers]

It's wrong if it's done for emotional manipulation...("If you leave me, I'll kill myself", or the like...)

Not only that, it could backfire and the threatened person says to kill yourself so they can finally be rid of you.

 

[watchingthewheels]

Not only that, it could backfire and the threatened person says to kill yourself so they can finally be rid of you.

Calling the bluff.

Joe Clark (Morgan Freeman) in LEAN ON ME:

"I say, if you want to kill yourself, don't !@#% around with it, go on and do it expiditiously! Now, go on and jump! JUMP!!!"

 

[Crazy4u]

if you want to ctb for attention, you can try different ways to get it without dying. For example, you can go to a bridge and pretend that you will jump. You can try hanging by using a very weak rope in a public place. A third example is to point an unloaded gun to your chest in public.

 

[Lost Magic]

In most cases, even doing it for attention, will probably not give you the kind of attention you want or need.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Most of the attention you'd get is fake and/or temporary though. If anything, being upfront about suicidality could push some people away who might not want to get attached to someone likely to die soon or just don't want to think about how depressing the situation is.

Although I can agree there's nothing wrong with the desire for attention even if many people resort to less noble means to acquire it.

 

[YourNeighbor]

This would be one of the most misguided reasons to suicide. Maybe people pay attention to those who died, but the dead certainly don't receive that attention.

Anything is a better method to get attention.

 

[summers]

if you want to ctb for attention, you can try different ways to get it without dying. For example, you can go to a bridge and pretend that you will jump. You can try hanging by using a very weak rope in a public place. A third example is to point an unloaded gun to your chest in public.

All three of those will get you in jail or the mental ward, and you'll never be able to buy a gun legally again.

Easier to just make new friends.

This would be one of the most misguided reasons to suicide. Maybe people pay attention to those who died, but the dead certainly don't receive that attention.

Not necessarily, if the people didn't care about you whilst you were alive, you'll be forgotten shortly after your funeral, and everyone will go on with their lives as though nothing has changed.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

if you want to ctb for attention, you can try different ways to get it without dying. For example, you can go to a bridge and pretend that you will jump. You can try hanging by using a very weak rope in a public place. A third example is to point an unloaded gun to your chest in public.

Imagine coming across someone with a gun to their chest in public, being freaked out, worried about being shot, getting the police involved. And it was all for attention. Maybe I'm insensitive, but I'd be kinda pissed.

 

[Crazy4u]

Imagine coming across someone with a gun to their chest in public, being freaked out, worried about being shot, getting the police involved. And it was all for attention. Maybe I'm insensitive, but I'd be kinda pissed.

You are not. I am the insensitive one. I was showing examples of negative attention and visualize the idea of killing oneself for attention.