Story Therapist advice: being active

[MrDarkness]

So I had a therapy appointment today, early in the morning, I was telling them how my life is essentially rotting away in my room alone playing games all day, he advice was getting more active going outside etc.

Sadly I feel I won't be able to do this, my anxiety is way too bad, I'm always tired and I don't have motivation to keep living, I would tell them how i honestly feel, but I'd get put into a pyschward. This Friday I get my allowance from my mom, 18 btw Fuck that's depressing to type. I'm gonna go buy a rope and a note book and start getting ready for my ctb, I'll just have to fake being happy

 

[DinoThopter]

Hate that advice. I used to run 30+ miles a week, go camping every month, and ate a pretty healthy diet. Did I feel better doing all that vs when i did none of it? Sure a little. But the thoughts of ending it and the depression never went away. And i did all that for a couple years.

What games do you play? Started playing Hades recently. So good.

 

[tearsad]

I do not know how you can be active in a deep depression, you just don't want to do anything. This feeling is so familiar. Even if you find the strength to do it, most likely it will end in complete disappointment.

 

[im already reading]

So I had a therapy appointment today, early in the morning, I was telling them how my life is essentially rotting away in my room alone playing games all day, he advice was getting more active going outside etc.

Sadly I feel I won't be able to do this, my anxiety is way too bad, I'm always tired and I don't have motivation to keep living, I would tell them how i honestly feel, but I'd get put into a pyschward. This Friday I get my allowance from my mom, 18 btw Fuck that's depressing to type. I'm gonna go buy a rope and a note book and start getting ready for my ctb, I'll just have to fake being happy

you shouldn't man
you dont have to leave the house to be active just do some pushups and squats at home and maybe by a treadmill
even doing like 10 push ups and 10 squats a day can make a huge difference
if you do ctb think of everyone whos gonna become depressed because of you, specifically your mom.
i dont know your circumstances so im not gonna say things get better
but living life is better than just void and nothing a
please atleast try doing some pushups and squats at home consistently and shower every day
if your still suicidal after that then theres nothing else to do
but you need to atleast try

 

[MrDarkness]

you shouldn't man
you dont have to leave the house to be active just do some pushups and squats at home and maybe by a treadmill
even doing like 10 push ups and 10 squats a day can make a huge difference
if you do ctb think of everyone whos gonna become depressed because of you, specifically your mom.
i dont know your circumstances so im not gonna say things get better
but living life is better than just void and nothing a
please atleast try doing some pushups and squats at home consistently and shower every day
if your still suicidal after that then theres nothing else to do
but you need to atleast try

I'll try I mean at least I shower every day, ik my family will miss me when I'm dead but it's a sad reality, I'm glad to see your positive on this hellscape, just be careful some aren't so respecting for your views


You should treat yourself now!!!

 

[UKscotty]

That's pretty much all the advice you will ever get from your £100/hr therapist.

Essentially it is man up, go out for a walk, be productive, get involved in society and do some pointless written work before our next session, thank you.

They are all just as useless in my experience.

 

[90starve]

So I had a therapy appointment today, early in the morning, I was telling them how my life is essentially rotting away in my room alone playing games all day, he advice was getting more active going outside etc.

Sadly I feel I won't be able to do this, my anxiety is way too bad, I'm always tired and I don't have motivation to keep living, I would tell them how i honestly feel, but I'd get put into a pyschward. This Friday I get my allowance from my mom, 18 btw Fuck that's depressing to type. I'm gonna go buy a rope and a note book and start getting ready for my ctb, I'll just have to fake being happy

during my experience with mental health professionals, i found that all of the advice i received was completely useless. i reported extreme feelings of loneliness and isolation, their solution was "go out and make some friends" - it gave me the opinion that they do not understand the root cause of the problem at all.

but anyway, wishing you the best with your plans <3

 

[MrDarkness]

That's pretty much all the advice you will ever get from your £100/hr therapist.

Essentially it is man up, go out for a walk, be productive, get involved in society and do some pointless written work before our next session, thank you.

They are all just as useless in my experience.

I'm happy my therapist is free ngl

during my experience with mental health professionals, i found that all of the advice i received was completely useless. i reported extreme feelings of loneliness and isolation, their solution was "go out and make some friends" - it gave me the opinion that they do not understand the root cause of the problem at all.

but anyway, wishing you the best with your plans <3

Yeah, I mean their is some truth behind it, everyone feels at peace when doing something. It's just I'm so tired and lonely, idc anymore

 

[notwavinbutdrowning]

I can sympathise a lot with your experience. One episode with the crisis team (UK) I was told to have a shave and do some DIY, this was literally the day after trying to kill myself (blood choke). Needless to say it did not help.

This was over a year ago. 2 attempts later, I found a private therapist about 8 months ago and it has been so helpful. I can say I'm in a better place now. I can tell him everything and he will not ring the police/hospital - I've told him about SN, this forum, what my suicide plans are and he doesn't pass judgement.

Please don't feel like you're the problem - most therapists are just terrible at their jobs. Keep looking for one that suits you.

Is there a way you can find friends within something you do enjoy, gaming perhaps? I am over 30 and found peace in picking up a hobby I did when I was a teenager (r/c cars) and through that I have found a little confidence.

I wish you all the best in whatever decision you chose to make, your life is yours and yours only.

 

[MrDarkness]

I can sympathise a lot with your experience. One episode with the crisis team (UK) I was told to have a shave and do some DIY, this was literally the day after trying to kill myself (blood choke). Needless to say it did not help.

This was over a year ago. 2 attempts later, I found a private therapist about 8 months ago and it has been so helpful. I can say I'm in a better place now. I can tell him everything and he will not ring the police/hospital - I've told him about SN, this forum, what my suicide plans are and he doesn't pass judgement.

Please don't feel like you're the problem - most therapists are just terrible at their jobs. Keep looking for one that suits you.

Is there a way you can find friends within something you do enjoy, gaming perhaps? I am over 30 and found peace in picking up a hobby I did when I was a teenager (r/c cars) and through that I have found a little confidence.

I wish you all the best in whatever decision you chose to make, your life is yours and yours only.

Sadly all my friends abandoned me well I think they did, I wish I had friends that wouldn't judge me

 

[Riu]

I think their advice isn't wrong, but they suck at giving advice. The problem with most people giving advice is they tell you something that would help, yes, but not how to get there.

 

[notwavinbutdrowning]

Sadly all my friends abandoned me well I think they did, I wish I had friends that wouldn't judge me

That sounds very painful. Although it can be easy to look inwards and blame yourself, that certainly isn't the case. You are enough as you are and your wolf pack is out there.

 

[chloramine]

I'm sorry, that's hard. Exercise is one of those things that can help, but it requires an initial investment of energy that isn't always feasible yeah. It doesn't help some people at all. If you want to try and follow that advice I'd focus more on the getting outside aspect. Even going to a front or backyard or a field to sit in the grass for 5 minutes. It's a lower initial energy investment and it still does stuff that can produce the good brain chemicals.

Again presuming you want to I'd also suggest asking your therapist how to make the solutions they suggest more accessible. If they're saying something to the effect of "just do it" then you might want to look into finding someone else.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

This advice is just BS it neither addesses the causes nor the sources of your actual problem, anxiety and probably other things. Really sorry that this is so awful what you have to go through. Do you have any idea what could be the trigger for your mental problems, that would be helpful and unless a doc/therapist can't find the actual causes and triggers it's unfortunately a waste of time in my opinion. Same applies to meds, if they suggested them, there could be terrible unwanted side effects but not cure. A few post above you mention you don't have friends they abandoned you, that's probably one the causes that triggers sth, loneliness is killing and causes so much suffering. I hope you can find a way and peace!

 

[MrDarkness]

This advice is just BS it neither addesses the causes nor the sources of your actual problem, anxiety and probably other things. Really sorry that this is so awful what you have to go through. Do you have any idea what could be the trigger for your mental problems, that would be helpful and unless a doc/therapist can't find the actual causes and triggers it's unfortunately a waste of time in my opinion. Same applies to meds, if they suggested them, there could be terrible unwanted side effects but not cure. A few post above you mention you don't have friends they abandoned you, that's probably one the causes that triggers sth, loneliness is killing and causes so much suffering. I hope you can find a way and peace!

I'm on meds Prozac and some anxiety med, I think they stopped working, the therapist said, they could change the meds, his words, if you get the most healthy man in the world and you make him stay inside and play games all day alone, he's going to feel like shit. I'll try, but I'm still going to buy a rope and a note book

 

[FuneralCry]

I understand feeling so tired of everything, I think it's such a dreadful world where people cannot be fully open about the subject of suicide without the fear of suffering even more in a psych ward. But anyway I wish you the best with your plans.

 

[yellowroses]

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you shouldn't man
you dont have to leave the house to be active just do some pushups and squats at home and maybe by a treadmill
even doing like 10 push ups and 10 squats a day can make a huge difference
if you do ctb think of everyone whos gonna become depressed because of you, specifically your mom.
i dont know your circumstances so im not gonna say things get better
but living life is better than just void and nothing a
please atleast try doing some pushups and squats at home consistently and shower every day
if your still suicidal after that then theres nothing else to do
but you need to atleast try

Appreciate the sentiment but the whole "think of how depressed you're going to make your mom" thing is fucked up. We don't need to be adding more guilt to someone who is already at the end of their rope.

So I had a therapy appointment today, early in the morning, I was telling them how my life is essentially rotting away in my room alone playing games all day, he advice was getting more active going outside etc.

Sadly I feel I won't be able to do this, my anxiety is way too bad, I'm always tired and I don't have motivation to keep living, I would tell them how i honestly feel, but I'd get put into a pyschward. This Friday I get my allowance from my mom, 18 btw Fuck that's depressing to type. I'm gonna go buy a rope and a note book and start getting ready for my ctb, I'll just have to fake being happy

Do you have a place outside you can sit and chill? I can't "get active" because of my physical health issues, but just sitting outside for a bit each day has helped me so, so much its really unbelievable. That is, until my landlord demolished my garden, now it's back to planning CTB

 

[MrDarkness]

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Appreciate the sentiment but the whole "think of how depressed you're going to make your mom" thing is fucked up. We don't need to be adding more guilt to someone who is already at the end of their rope.

Do you have a place outside you can sit and chill? I can't "get active" because of my physical health issues, but just sitting outside for a bit each day has helped me so, so much its really unbelievable. That is, until my landlord demolished my garden, now it's back to planning CTB

I'm sorry about your garden, nature is the one place I can find peace