Venting The urge to text if you hate me just say so to an unsuspecting friend

[grass]

I just had a wholesome interaction with my friend on discord but I still can't let go of the belief that my online friends hate me but just don't wanna say it and I genuinely felt the urge to suddenly text "if you hate me just say so" out of nowhere. Even though I was all joyful and whimsical with them moments earlier. Literally why am I like this ಥ⁠‿⁠ಥ

 

[Carrot]

There is no reason to be this blunt and hostile.

"if you have me just say so" is a terrible starting position, no matter what the reality of the situation is. It's self-sabotaging, less likely (but not impossible) to get a positive response, leaving you hating yourself with a "I knew it!" feeling.

"something has been bothering me for a while, [explain the issue]/[I'd like to discuss this]" preferably in person and not by texting.

Seems like an insane self-esteem issue, seeking validation. It's also not your friends job to handle this, but good friends will support you if you choose to work on certain issues or seek help.

 

[grass]

There is no reason to be this blunt and hostile.

"if you have me just say so" is a terrible starting position, no matter what the reality of the situation is. It's self-sabotaging, less likely (but not impossible) to get a positive response, leaving you hating yourself with a "I knew it!" feeling.

"something has been bothering me for a while, [explain the issue]/[I'd like to discuss this]" preferably in person and not by texting.

Seems like an insane self-esteem issue, seeking validation. It's also not your friends job to handle this, but good friends will support you if you choose to work on certain issues or seek help.

Yeah no it's entirely on me, like I said there was absolutely no reason for me to feel that way because it was a genuinely nice interaction. I will stop caring about it eventually tho so it's fine