Resource The practical 12 steps

[Life_and_Death]

Well I after a few hours (and a bowl or 2) I finally opened the book. Thought I'd share what I found on the first page :)

 

[Mm80]

Is this the conventional twelve steps? im sure it normally talks about giving in to a higher power ?

 

[Good4Nothing]

No mention of a higher power, that's good.
Number 11 makes me cringe a little, though.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Is this the conventional twelve steps? im sure it normally talks about giving in to a higher power ?

No. This would be the practical 12 steps. Personally for me, I read the 12 steps and it seemed more like a cult, saying you did wrong and God fixes everything. I didn't do wrong, I had a struggle, everyone does. And I don't believe in God so no way is he fixing anything for me.

No mention of a higher power, that's good.
Number 11 makes me cringe a little, though.

In the indroduction it basically says do what works for you. If you don't want to meditate then dont, find something else to do.

 

[Mm80]

No. This would be the practical 12 steps. Personally for me, I read the 12 steps and it seemed more like a cult, saying you did wrong and God fixes everything. I didn't do wrong, I had a struggle, everyone does. And I don't believe in God so no way is he fixing anything for me.

Yeah totally agree about the cult bit. AA (or something similar) helps many and thats good.
I found the meetings difficult as i wasnt comfortable talking about just myself for 10 mins, it felt too indulgent and i come to the conclusion that many people simply found a new addiction in AA (which is healthier of course)
Those steps look pretty reasonable and i hope they help you.

No mention of a higher power, that's good.
Number 11 makes me cringe a little, though.

Thats actually a typo its meant to say masturbating (sorry)

 

[Life_and_Death]

Thats actually a typo its meant to say masturbating (sorry)

OMG I LOVED THAT XD XD XD

 

[Mm80]

OMG I LOVED THAT XD XD XD

Oh brilliant i sometimes refrain with the jokes in case it offends x

 

[Life_and_Death]

Oh brilliant i sometimes refrain with the jokes in case it offends x

I'm typically sensitive to this kind of thing but that really made me laugh lol

 

[Mm80]

I'm typically sensitive to this kind of thing but that really made me laugh lol

Dont let my warped sense of humour influence you. Please try meditating first

 

[Life_and_Death]

Dont let my warped sense of humour influence you. Please try meditating first

Idk the latter doesn't seem like such a bad option XD

Seriously though it didnt. I like meditation and I don't much care what people think or say. Sometimes lol
i dont want to make this into a separate thread so ill see if i get some answers here before doing that.

do you guys think its wrong of me to hide my recovery from my husband?

its just i have a personality disorder and if i decide this isnt working out or something i dont want him not letting me i guess. back in school id have guys taking my blades and whatnot.....id really prefer if my husband wouldnt do that but i also cant blame him for caring either

 

[Mm80]

Idk the latter doesn't seem like such a bad option XD

Seriously though it didnt. I like meditation and I don't much care what people think or say. Sometimes lol
i dont want to make this into a separate thread so ill see if i get some answers here before doing that.

do you guys think its wrong of me to hide my recovery from my husband?

its just i have a personality disorder and if i decide this isnt working out or something i dont want him not letting me i guess. back in school id have guys taking my blades and whatnot.....id really prefer if my husband wouldnt do that but i also cant blame him for caring either

In an ideal world you would share an attempt at recovery with your partner as its healthy.
Do you mean you dont want to alert him that you are struggling because he will take control ? X

 

[Life_and_Death]

Do you mean you dont want to alert him that you are struggling because he will take control

that he might, yes

 

[Mm80]

Thats a pretty bad dilemna as your trying to recover but feel that you cannot be open and honest as it will compromise your autonomy. Maybe try to be more assertive about your autonomy?

 

[GravityUtilizer]

No more steps! There should just be no more steps!

 

[Life_and_Death]

Thats a pretty bad dilemna as your trying to recover but feel that you cannot be open and honest as it will compromise your autonomy. Maybe try to be more assertive about your autonomy?

i want to be a drunk. yeah, thatll work lol. if someone cares enough, it would be stupid of them to stand by and watch knowing that its wrong