BipolarGuy
Enlightened
- Aug 6, 2020
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Since I'm planning to bring an end to my life this coming weekend I thought I would state the obvious one final time.
I believe that this forum is needed.
Many depressed and suicidal people do not feel able to talk openly and honestly with people in their life (family, friends, medical professionals) through fear of being sectioned or their feelings being invalidated and not taken seriously.
Furthermore, most other depression forums are so heavily moderated that you cannot even talk about depression due to rules about 'triggering' others.
So a place to speak openly and honestly is required.
However, I along with others have legitimate concerns regarding how a minority of members of this site behave.
This forum is a pro-choice forum on which members can access peer support.
Advice can be sought regarding recovery pathways and yes, information is available.
But this is absolutely not supposed to be a pro-suicide forum, though a minority of members apparently think it is!
These members will not come straight out and tell people to kill themselves. Instead, it is done very subtly.
For instance, if you make a comment on a goodbye thread along the lines of
"I'm sorry life has made you feel like this, have you considered ALL options?"
or
"Remember if you decide not to go ahead today, you can postpone the decision and you'll be welcomes back on the site with open arms"
then these people will jump on you and say that you "shouldn't be saying stuff like that!".
A new member started a thread within the last few days and I made the first comment, offering to talk about their issues.
Immediately, one of these pro-suicide members jumped on my comment and said that I shouldn't be offering help!
They tried to make out that I was out of order for offering to talk.
You see, they won't come out and say "kill yourselves", but they attempt to silence the helpful voices that talk about solutions other than suicide.
This is despite the fact that whenever this website is criticised these same people will say "But we have a recovery section, so we're not pro-suicide"....and then attempt to silence voices that talk about anything other than suicide!
These people have totally redefined what 'pro-choice' means, so that there is essentially a specific meaning that they use within the small bubble of this website.
They have essentially redefined pro-choice to mean pro-suicide!
Don't believe me?
Then reply to threads in exactly the way described above, and one of these people will accuse you of being 'pro-life' (which they take as meaning 'anti-choice').
They're fanatics, pure and simple!
But I will say this for them:
They do taste nice.
It has become a bit of a hobby for me, chewing them up and spitting them out in front of the entire forum (just so others can see them for what they are, you know!).
I want to reassure the helpful and empathetic majority on this site that these people can do you no harm, and despite their pathetic attempts to harass (PMing you, arguing with you on threads, or saying they've looked through your post history), in reality they're just bitter souls who cannot contain their own hate.
Maybe they're not getting laid and they blame the world.
Perhaps they're so disappointed with how their life turned out that they want to drag everyone else down too.
Who knows.
But don't let the minority of fanatics on this website silence the innocent, helpful majority.
Being empathetic to members experiencing suicidal thoughts is not 'anti-choice'.
Offering to talk through problems so that suicide is the 'last option' is also not 'anti-choice'. In fact it's normal to do this!
I believe that this forum is needed.
Many depressed and suicidal people do not feel able to talk openly and honestly with people in their life (family, friends, medical professionals) through fear of being sectioned or their feelings being invalidated and not taken seriously.
Furthermore, most other depression forums are so heavily moderated that you cannot even talk about depression due to rules about 'triggering' others.
So a place to speak openly and honestly is required.
However, I along with others have legitimate concerns regarding how a minority of members of this site behave.
This forum is a pro-choice forum on which members can access peer support.
Advice can be sought regarding recovery pathways and yes, information is available.
But this is absolutely not supposed to be a pro-suicide forum, though a minority of members apparently think it is!
These members will not come straight out and tell people to kill themselves. Instead, it is done very subtly.
For instance, if you make a comment on a goodbye thread along the lines of
"I'm sorry life has made you feel like this, have you considered ALL options?"
or
"Remember if you decide not to go ahead today, you can postpone the decision and you'll be welcomes back on the site with open arms"
then these people will jump on you and say that you "shouldn't be saying stuff like that!".
A new member started a thread within the last few days and I made the first comment, offering to talk about their issues.
Immediately, one of these pro-suicide members jumped on my comment and said that I shouldn't be offering help!
They tried to make out that I was out of order for offering to talk.
You see, they won't come out and say "kill yourselves", but they attempt to silence the helpful voices that talk about solutions other than suicide.
This is despite the fact that whenever this website is criticised these same people will say "But we have a recovery section, so we're not pro-suicide"....and then attempt to silence voices that talk about anything other than suicide!
These people have totally redefined what 'pro-choice' means, so that there is essentially a specific meaning that they use within the small bubble of this website.
They have essentially redefined pro-choice to mean pro-suicide!
Don't believe me?
Then reply to threads in exactly the way described above, and one of these people will accuse you of being 'pro-life' (which they take as meaning 'anti-choice').
They're fanatics, pure and simple!
But I will say this for them:
They do taste nice.
It has become a bit of a hobby for me, chewing them up and spitting them out in front of the entire forum (just so others can see them for what they are, you know!).
I want to reassure the helpful and empathetic majority on this site that these people can do you no harm, and despite their pathetic attempts to harass (PMing you, arguing with you on threads, or saying they've looked through your post history), in reality they're just bitter souls who cannot contain their own hate.
Maybe they're not getting laid and they blame the world.
Perhaps they're so disappointed with how their life turned out that they want to drag everyone else down too.
Who knows.
But don't let the minority of fanatics on this website silence the innocent, helpful majority.
Being empathetic to members experiencing suicidal thoughts is not 'anti-choice'.
Offering to talk through problems so that suicide is the 'last option' is also not 'anti-choice'. In fact it's normal to do this!
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