Discussion The dilema of the explanation.

[narcluciddreams]

I've been treated like shit ever since I told my family about my disorders. They immediately marginalized and ignored it, told me to "get together", "stop being a whiny, immature bitch". I've been thinking about writing a goodbye letter, explaining all my motives and reasons for suicide, although I have a hard time thinking whether they do deserve it. What would you do if you were in my place?

 

[FuneralCry]

I believe that whether to write a note or not is a personal decision which is only something that you can decide, but I do believe that only those who deserve to have an explanation should get one. Those people really do sound so insensitive, it's awful how people can invalidate suffering which is why I see it as being best not to open up at all about what we are going through.

 

[Ineedtodie]

I agree with you. I think how I lived my life is an explination in itself. And most would unvalidate that, so a note personaly won't add anything. I' m expected to survive in any way possible and failing makes me a poor excuse of a human being. I don't think they care about emotional reasons or the mental bagage or what led me to this decision. That has never been validated being alive. I realized people can empathize with almost all kind of suffering but mental issues. Mentally ill people are either ignored, exploited or harrassed. This is just my personal pov. I think its definitely a personal descision. Everyone have a different story and different life situations and reasons to end their life. It's more like how I feel about it. I just find the unvalidation part awful.
Hope you find peace whatever descision you make.

 

[Pluto]

From what you say, I wonder if the family might have caused the disorders in the first place.

 

[Exact Change]

I've been treated like shit ever since I told my family about my disorders. They immediately marginalized and ignored it, told me to "get together", "stop being a whiny, immature bitch". I've been thinking about writing a goodbye letter, explaining all my motives and reasons for suicide, although I have a hard time thinking whether they do deserve it. What would you do if you were in my place?

I would write a note but also say the things that upset you. Say all that you want to say.