Read about the Hegelian dialectic, learn what Saul Alinsky and Cloward and Piven are famous for, and look at Edward Bernays to understand some of the concepts, and tactics.
To see destruction of the family, you can follow Alfred Kinseys' disgusting work up through the "sexual revolution" to the "intersectional feminist theory" and "queer theory" thought leaders of today.
It's about disassembling society, in order to rebuild... something.
It's all "divide and exploit"... thesis, antithesis- synthesis. A slow, plodding grind through generations to reach the point we're at today.
The black community in the USA has borne the brunt of an agenda you can trace back literally hundreds of years, if you truly want to understand... an agenda that is wearing down all of society, not just the black community, right now.
It's depressing. I fear for the youth in my family. Some say there's hope, but I've lived a long time and I'm not sure that's true. People like Yuval Harrari and Klaus Schwab think they know what's best for the future, and they have way more money than I do. Let's hope the black community stops listening to their underlings.
I hope you find peace, OP.