Venting Society hates autistic people

[LonelyCauseAutistic]

All my school years i was bullied. Also i was fired from multiple shitjobs due to my weirdness and luck of productivity. I have zero friends and my social life limits to my mother and grandparents.

 

[CatGoMeyow]

Have u ever thought or realized they're doing that because they're threatened by u?

 

[LonelyCauseAutistic]

Have u ever thought or realized they're doing that because they're threatened by u?

Maybe. But i was always kind and polite with people

 

[RottenSoul]

All my school years i was bullied. Also i was fired from multiple shitjobs due to my weirdness and luck of productivity. I have zero friends and my social life limits to my mother and grandparents.

Hi i am also autistic and have a set of other mental illnesses and i can relate in what you say. I recently sent an email to my elementary school to say how they treated me like shit when i was there. It was at this stupid catholic school which for some reason my parents took me while we are not even catholic and it was living hell. I was ostracized and punished and for some sick reason they wouldn't tell my parents anything about it, i was there for two fucking years. These people have been the start of the chain of events that led to my current shit mental health condition. This world wasn't meant for us sadly.

 

[Spite]

Are you me? Seriously, I relate to this so much. Bullied my entire life, no friends, almost nothing worth living for. And it's true - society does hate autistic/neurodivergent people. People will shun you and look down upon you all because you're "different". I've lived it, I've suffered, I know the relentless social ostracisation, the loneliness, drifting through life feeling like nobody understands or cares. It's brutal and makes me want to die. So many people treat autistic people as if they "choose" to be the way they are, when they had no choice in being this way at all. I was BORN with these mental debilitations I can't help it GODDAMMIT. When you're autistic you also become a target for the worst people in society (bullies), and I swear almost every autistic person I have ever known/read about has had to face relentless torment and harassment from others. Bullies are a fucking cancer to society. God I feel sick just thinking about how harsh, cruel and unfair it all is.

I wish it didn't have to be this way. Oh what I would give to just be accepted and liked amongst the broader society. Most of us autistics were doomed from the start. I'm so sorry life has been cruel to you, OP. I doubt it's much consolation at all and it will probably sound cliche as hell... but just know that there are others out there who feel your pain, and you're not alone. I'm one of them. Sending hugs.

 

[CatGoMeyow]

Maybe. But i was always kind and polite with people

i just mean when working with trauma it can be helpful to turn the tables. the powerful mean perfect bullies are actually the insecure ones who are lacking power. thats why they do it. it can help trauma to recognize you may have held secret powers or cards that others found unbearable because of their own insecurity.

 

[Macedonian1987]

Someone can be mean, ugly, and cruel, yet still be well-liked. But if you are autistic, you are often universally disliked. As an autistic person, I've never understood why the world directs so much hatred toward us, especially since we are generally peaceful people.

 

[MapleS]

Me too, you are not alone in this
Currently gathering evidence for euthanasia in Switzerland - my family would go crazy if I ctb QwQ
Every touch and sound hurts and I'm terrified of meltdowns at night.

 

[Autumn Blaze]

Find it hard to do much because of having autism so I'm here with you. It can be hard to get up and hard to cope with every little noise and thing and it all piles up at the end of the day into eventual meltdowns or near-meltdowns.
I never understood what's wrong about being autistic and why even at first glance people find us unnatural somehow and it's fucked me up my whole life in really weird ways honestly. I don't know if it gets better since the world was not built with us in mind but, OP and the rest of the people in this thread, at least we are not alone, right? That's pretty good I think.

 

[Sphinxi]

I have autism. It might be worth looking into the double empathy problem. Autism leads to social dysfunction due to autistic people having trouble understanding normal people, but the problem also runs the other way, as the way your mind functions is also alien to them.
The best relationships I have had in my life were with other people who had aspergic tendencies. I am pretty good with social interaction with normal people now, but it took a lot of effort (I had spreadsheets for social interaction that I made in high school, before realizing that interaction was much more fluid and couldn't really be captured in such a form). I think it would be helpful to seek out autistic people, there are places where they congregate like game stores or the like.

 

[girl_with_a_plan]

Thank you for this. Continually astounded at the hate autistic people get, and I think it's getting worse. I don't know how to navigate the world and see why CTB is the second leading cause of death. I am terrified of the future and just wish a lot of us could find a way to pool our resources somehow

 

[Acidic_Fries]

Me too, you are not alone in this
Currently gathering evidence for euthanasia in Switzerland - my family would go crazy if I ctb QwQ
Every touch and sound hurts and I'm terrified of meltdowns at night.

Hi, sorry for hijacking the thread. Is it possible to have euthanasia in Switzerland whilst having mental health issues on top of autism?

I remembered that when I checked, online websites told me that I'm not eligible for euthanasia because if I have a diagnosis of depression then I am not 'sound of mind'. And that only people who are 'sound of mind' can get euthanasia in Europe.

 

[Lamentice]

All my school years i was bullied. Also i was fired from multiple shitjobs due to my weirdness and luck of productivity. I have zero friends and my social life limits to my mother and grandparents.

All of human social relations are bologna bonkers. Humans are tribalistic, hierarchical, and competitively incentivized at their very core (which imo makes it wild to believe society at large is ever gonna change or human behavior will ever be more peaceful and altruistic; humans don't work that way, throughout all of history they never have & they never will). If you're wired different then fucking forget it, you'll get the brunt of the cruelty they're capable of--anyone vulnerable will. I hate it here too

 

[Spite]

All of human social relations are bologna bonkers. Humans are tribalistic, hierarchical, and competitively incentivized at their very core (which imo makes it wild to believe society at large is ever gonna change or human behavior will ever be more peaceful and altruistic; humans don't work that way, throughout all of history they never have & they never will). If you're wired different then fucking forget it, you'll get the brunt of the cruelty they're capable of--anyone vulnerable will. I hate it here too

All the more reason why I hate this life. Being wired different truly is a whole different level of hellish torment. I just want it to end. I want to get off this ride.

 

[waterselkie]

it is so difficult, i really wasn't built for this world. i'm so sensitive and have been picked on and bullied my whole life. i have put ungodly amounts of effort into trying to have a career and be a normie but it keeps crashing down around me right when things start to look up because people don't like me and think i'm weird. men don't seem to care but it's like other girls just hate me, to them i'm just fresh meat to bully for fun. i really wish I was never born in the first place, I will never be functional

 

[daemos]

Being neurodivergent is literally hell on earth, I have this feeling that I'm meant for more, my ego keeps nagging at me that I can do better, I can be the one, I am the chosen one, I can be whatever the fuck I want to be, I can do whatever the fuck I want to do. Except when push comes to shove, I stagnate, I procrastinate, I'm stuck, I just can't keep doing something. I've tried getting meds, but well getting diagnosed costs a lot of money here, and most psychologists don't even know what they're dealing with at all.

 

[ijustwannabeloved]

All my school years i was bullied. Also i was fired from multiple shitjobs due to my weirdness and luck of productivity. I have zero friends and my social life limits to my mother and grandparents.

Same bro, like people would purposely interrupt me when I speak, and it's like everyone can tell, when I speak in social settings, fuck my life lmfao

 

[insekurity]

autistic, adhd, and trans. what a shit hand of cards to be dealt at birth. even getting diagnosed barely helps, meds only do so much. even while medicated being neurodivergent in this fuckass society still makes me want to CTB simply because its the only thing left that makes sense to do given how i cant make friends, cant get a job, cant finish college, cant even do online courses. i hate how people keep diminishing ts to "oh look at this guy and that girl, theyre autistic/adhd/whatever too but they succeeded and graduated/got a job/built a business" and give you a stink eye when your fucking disability disables you.

 

[girl_with_a_plan]

What has hurt me a lot is even the neurodivergent people I know are also undependable and I find myself just shutting down around them because I don't feel safe. They're more acquaintances than anything. I have one who is also neurodivergent and takes 12+ hours to reply to a text. I've stopped reaching out. They're not a surgeon and are usually on their phone. They seem incapable of the basics of conversation and are proving they don't match my standards of reliability. There's no way I would trust them with anything personal, to support me if I had a medical issue, any of it. It makes me a little sad but also fills me with glee to stop interacting with people when I realize that they're someone I don't have in my life any more. I'm surrounded by a lot of flakes and simply let them fade off. My values around consistency, safety, warmth, empathy and good moral standards will not change. I'm not going to battle both neurotypical norms and flaky neurodivergent people at the same time. They can go have fun with each other. I will find my people when I move. <3

 

[bl33ding_heart]

Being neurodivergent made it impossible for me to make friends in school, and the already existing "friends" I had would constantly exclude me and treat me like shit. I would always wonder what my life would have been like if I was neurotypical, how many friends I would have had and how well liked I would have been. I never even desired popularity but I just wanted at least one real friend that actually cared.

 

[MapleS]

Hi, sorry for hijacking the thread. Is it possible to have euthanasia in Switzerland whilst having mental health issues on top of autism?

I remembered that when I checked, online websites told me that I'm not eligible for euthanasia because if I have a diagnosis of depression then I am not 'sound of mind'. And that only people who are 'sound of mind' can get euthanasia in Europe.

I thought that if you will prove that there is no cure for you and you tried everything that it is possible

 

[girl_with_a_plan]

https://neurodivergentinsights.substack.com/p/the-help-me-stay-plan-digital-download - not sure if this is useful to anyone but it's written by an AuDHD psychologist and I really like her writing. I haven't read the full guide but it feels really good to know there are other neurodivergent people trying to help us. She has a good burnout recovery workbook I highly recommend.

 

[thelostautistic]

I'm autistic too and it's awful. I can't understand why people hate us so much either. I often walk with my head down now when I go out because I constantly get dirty looks or laughed at for just existing. I wish the world was kinder to people like us. They have no idea how much we struggle.

 

[The Disqualified]

True

 

[LostHighway]

All my school years i was bullied. Also i was fired from multiple shitjobs due to my weirdness and luck of productivity. I have zero friends and my social life limits to my mother and grandparents.

Look at all the potential friends you've made here. You're not alone.

 

[Isolatedloner]

I'm here too.

 

[Sphinxi]

Did anyone else have experiences in school where a group of people pretended to be your friend? I found this happened to me a couple times, even when I knew what was happening I didn't really know what to do. I think people will often take advantage of you if they can

 

[maplesugar]

Research has found that autistic people trigger something akin to the "uncanny valley" effect in allistic people specifically (we don't trigger this in each other). People get hostile and project their discomfort towards things they don't understand as anger. Our society treats disabled people like shit. It is incredibly unfair. I've found having a therapist who also has autism was really eye opening for me in realizing that the autistics that seem to have their shit together are really often just being propped up by a lot of support. Their support needs are being met in a way not every autistic has the luxury of.

Do you have access to an autistic support organization/group near you? There are groups out there that set up low-pressure social events specifically for autistic adults. Things like monthly walks, virtual chats, special interest sharing, or potlucks, stuff like that. Good ones are incredibly accommodating of different communication styles. Sometimes they do workshops for different topics that autistic people might need explict direction with like relationships. If there isn't anything physical nearby, there are things that might be accessible online that are available in your entire country/province/state/territory/etc. I'm trying to build up the courage to attend one near me soon that I've been eyeballing for a long time. Anyway, if you do have access to something like that, it could be a place to build connections or a possible support avenue.

 

[red_cardinal]

Did anyone else have experiences in school where a group of people pretended to be your friend? I found this happened to me a couple times, even when I knew what was happening I didn't really know what to do. I think people will often take advantage of you if they can

This happened to me in middle school, and I'm still haunted by it. My only friend, or at least person who wasn't trying to belittle me or laugh at me and who was relatively nice, was my deskmate. One day, out of nowhere, the popular girls launched this attempt to separate us just for fun. I remember feeling confused, scared, but unable to say anything because I didn't really know what their intentions were, so I just went along with it. Thankfully it didn't last long, and things went back to normal in a few days. People are cruel in contexts like this, both children and adults. The difference is that adults are more sneaky and subtle about it.