should i try and convince my partner to kill theirselves with me

[touhoufan]

my partner is desperate, id say even more than me because hes constantly venting and sulking. he says hes only here because of me. he knows i am suicidal too but, i dont know. i guess he figures if i can keep going he can too. im planning my date to ctb to be around august. i have my source of F. we are long distance. i could fly him out and i imagine we could do it together. but it would make me feel guilty, at the same time. i still think he has hope, alot more than me. i would never want to drag him down or convince him to do anything he doesnt want to do. i dont know. im lost, and i need advice. thank you

 

[silentdude122]

No..

 

[StaticCryBabye]

Definitely not. He might not be serious enough about doing that, and it's a risky thing to do. It's better not to drag anyone into your own suicide attempts.

 

[touhoufan]

absolutely not, im just scared hed just take his own life because i took mine. the best for me would be able to leave and for him to move on but knowing him i know that wouldnt be the case :(

 

[pompompurin]

I don't think that convincing him is gonna do any good, personally I think that dragging someone with you to the grave is a selfish thing to do.

 

[strawberryjampan]

I don't think that convincing him is gonna do any good, personally I think that dragging someone with you to the grave is a selfish thing to do.

you aren't the real pompompurin, delete acc

 

[pompompurin]

you aren't the real pompompurin, delete acc

what do you mean by that? It's just a username.

 

[hellispink]

His life, his decisions. You should never manipulate or tell someone to do something with you that will cause them harm. It is their choice and body. You only take decisions for yourself. What this person does after it is his problem and decision to make. The least he needs is someone telling him oh hey i love you but come with me to end it, like thats so selfish.

 

[wanderer...]

Don't try to "convince" him of anything, but I think discussing the idea and just hearing each other's views is fine

 

[obnoxiouspika]

Plz no

 

[manta]

No.

 

[blazysuzan]

hell no

 

[jorheslen428]

I don't think trying to convince him would be ethical, but just talking about it with him and being honest would be better. It's his decision in the end

 

[CentreMid]

my partner is desperate, id say even more than me because hes constantly venting and sulking. he says hes only here because of me. he knows i am suicidal too but, i dont know. i guess he figures if i can keep going he can too. im planning my date to ctb to be around august. i have my source of F. we are long distance. i could fly him out and i imagine we could do it together. but it would make me feel guilty, at the same time. i still think he has hope, alot more than me. i would never want to drag him down or convince him to do anything he doesnt want to do. i dont know. im lost, and i need advice. thank you

I don't think encouraging him is a good idea. For one, I don't particularly agree with bringing other people into your own suicide attempts. Your attempt is your own and nobody else's. Secondly, and my apologies for being a tad harsh, but what he does after you ctb unfortunately won't matter, as you'd be dead. There's no guarantee that he'll move on after you leave. Best of luck

 

[anonaon]

No, that's not for you to decide.

 

[unnormal9]

Never. CTB is a personal choice, not a choice made for someone else.
Being told to CTB is one bad thing, convincing—absolutely not.

 

[thelookingontheway]

I don't think you can really change one's mind if he doesn't want to, so I think just talk about it is fine. Like, talk with him that what your planning is and see his reaction, but be careful if he comes up with some bad idea for you.

 

[SoftWorries]

No. Flying out a distance boyfriend with the purpose of encouraging him to die with you is awful. Don't.

 

[BlissCore]

No. Its one thing to know what you want for yourself, but a whole other to bring someone else into it. For a multitude of reasons its a bad idea.

 

[Valentino]

I don't think thats ethical

 

[FuneralCry]

This is a strange question for a pro choice suicide forum which accepts suicide as being a personal decision that only the individual can make for themselves.