Discussion Setting a date to CTB

[sweet_oblivion]

If you have all of the planning and prep done to CTB is there any point in setting a date that is over a month away? My life is crap anyway (mental illness and all), if it was good enough that I could actually enjoy a last month on this earth I wouldn't be committing.
So I guess I'm wondering what the point is in suffering any longer than I have to. I get that some people might do it to not make a rash decision but realistically I'm too far gone and not going to change my mind. Or do people set a date to familiarise themselves with the idea of their own death so that they fear it less? Are there any other reasons? I would appreciate it if anyone who has set a date that's quite far in the future could share why they chose to do so.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

If you have all of the planning and prep done to CTB is there any point in setting a date that is over a month away? My life is crap anyway (mental illness and all), if it was good enough that I could actually enjoy a last month on this earth I wouldn't be committing.
So I guess I'm wondering what the point is in suffering any longer than I have to. I get that some people might do it to not make a rash decision but realistically I'm too far gone and not going to change my mind. Or do people set a date to familiarise themselves with the idea of their own death so that they fear it less? Are there any other reasons? I would appreciate it if anyone who has set a date that's quite far in the future could share why they chose to do so.

To tie up loose ends.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that many people probably set a date far into the future as they are waiting for something or they have things to do here. I could personally never set a date, I think the SI would get in the way. I will likely ctb when I get desperate, although ctb is very difficult for me, I am trapped in this world as it is so hard to leave. Only you know when you should ctb. I'm sorry for all the suffering that has brought you to this point and I wish you the best in whatever happens.

 

[Bedrock48]

I think its all personal preference, it gives my SI (and me) time to come to terms with everything and bring closure to myself. That month or however long gives me a time frame to step back from life from the perspective of a person who might be not long for this world. Will this person handle it ok? Would doing x y or z improve my life? Is there anything I want to achieve? Is this a time I should reach out for help?

If I were to do something in the spur of the moment chances are it's because of a rapid shift in mood and its much more likely I'll regret it or back out.

 

[outrider567]

If you have all of the planning and prep done to CTB is there any point in setting a date that is over a month away? My life is crap anyway (mental illness and all), if it was good enough that I could actually enjoy a last month on this earth I wouldn't be committing.
So I guess I'm wondering what the point is in suffering any longer than I have to. I get that some people might do it to not make a rash decision but realistically I'm too far gone and not going to change my mind. Or do people set a date to familiarise themselves with the idea of their own death so that they fear it less? Are there any other reasons? I would appreciate it if anyone who has set a date that's quite far in the future could share why they chose to do

Mine will just happen, there will be no date --Perhaps quite soon after my brother's demise(doctors say he has 6 months),or maybe before that, depending on my mental state--All I know is, I'm not getting any better, not by a long shot

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I think I'll know when the time is right. When all of the "loose ends" that need doing, that I'm willing to do, are complete. I may, or may not, make an announcement on SS. Probably will. It will be pretty much at the same time I'm ready. Maybe like an hour or two before. Just a so-long, or something.

 

[lanahelp]

I am setting a date. I have 5 times prior yet have obviously never held to it. I was trying to make it between special occasions and important dates. Unless something dramatic changes, I am planning for the month of December. And my heart is broken for all lost and could have been reclaimed. But I'm too far gone with brain effects of Lyme disease. Have suffered too long.

 

[Sapphire]

I think some people set a date in the future because they need time to tie up loose ends like making a will or pre planning their funneral, etc. Other people set a date in the future because they are not completely at peace with their decision, and they are giving themselves more time hoping that their situation will improve, and they won't have to ctb.

I'm not going to set a fixed date too far in advance. I know that if I do, I will only get more and more anxious as the date approaches. I would only set a date 2 or 3 days before at the most. I have learned that dragging it out only increases my SI.