Self improvement is a complete scam.

[idelttoilfsadness21]

Can't really do any of that, for I have become, anhedonia incarnate lol

I honestly understand numbness... I think all we can do is take it slowly at a time and that's so hard for me usually :<

 

[Hollowman]

I don't have much of a sense of self either, it's ruined almost everything. Anhedonia's a bitch too, hopefully you'll figure it out. I don't think I ever will.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I don't have much of a sense of self either, it's ruined almost everything. Anhedonia's a bitch too, hopefully you'll figure it out. I don't think I ever will.

I have higher odds of going full joker than figuring any of their nonsense out lol

 

[Hollowman]

I have higher odds of going full joker than figuring any of their nonsense out lol

I meant figuring it out by yourself, fuck the "professionals"

 

[blackpillhopeless]

After years of self improvement I have also realised that it is a scam. For context I am a man and have always been rejected by the women I wanted my whole life and sought to improve my situation in this area.

For years I got brainwashed by self improvement books, Jordan Peterson, Hamza videos, 1stman videos etc. After years of self improvement, I have an amazing physique, improved my career situation massively by getting maths degree from a top university in my country, and worked hard to socialise and meet women.

All of this has done absolutely nothing to make me more attractive to women, and I now realise the black pill was right all along. My face is simply too ugly, and autism causes my personality to be too unattractive no matter how much I talk to women to try to improve my social skills. This whole life is just a genetic lottery, hard work and your personality (outside of neurotypicality which is genetic like the face) doesn't matter at all, at least when it comes to dating.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I guess they say all of that stuff to improve our odds of attracting someone. Sadly though, it's like anything in life I suppose. You can pay shit loads and study really hard to get yourself a very good degree from somewhere ruputable. Doesn't mean you'll land the job you always wanted. You may end up never working in the field you studied. I've known people with doctorate's doing retail work!

It's just that it ups your chances I suppose- in theory... I imagine the bigger issue is giving yourself enough chances to meet people. I'm assuming you are doing that?

Sometimes I wonder if it's because people haven't found the right type of people. Not that there's something massively wrong with them but that the people they tend to go for tend not to be interested in return.

I think people suggest hobbies/ clubs because a shared interest/ passion means you can connect strongly around that at least. Plus, meet them doing those things I guess.

Did it make you happier in yourself to lose weight, dress better, have interests? I went through the whole: trying to impress a guy via losing weight and working on my appearance. It gave me more confidence to just live in this world. People treat you very differently I found. My mental state was so messed up though! Obsessive, full of longing. I'm much happier to be rid of all that- if I'm honest. Finally by my mid 30's, I became pretty ok with being single. Even that it was probably better for me. That's not to say that happens for everyone though.

I'm sorry you've put so much effort in to not be successful. I can completely understand your frustration. Especially when it's worded such that you just need a few tweaks here and there and, you'll become irresistable. I hope you do get your wish though.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I guess they say all of that stuff to improve our odds of attracting someone. Sadly though, it's like anything in life I suppose. You can pay shit loads and study really hard to get yourself a very good degree from somewhere ruputable. Doesn't mean you'll land the job you always wanted. You may end up never working in the field you studied. I've known people with doctorate's doing retail work!

It's just that it ups your chances I suppose- in theory... I imagine the bigger issue is giving yourself enough chances to meet people. I'm assuming you are doing that?

Sometimes I wonder if it's because people haven't found the right type of people. Not that there's something massively wrong with them but that the people they tend to go for tend not to be interested in return.

I think people suggest hobbies/ clubs because a shared interest/ passion means you can connect strongly around that at least. Plus, meet them doing those things I guess.

Did it make you happier in yourself to lose weight, dress better, have interests? I went through the whole: trying to impress a guy via losing weight and working on my appearance. It gave me more confidence to just live in this world. People treat you very differently I found. My mental state was so messed up though! Obsessive, full of longing. I'm much happier to be rid of all that- if I'm honest. Finally by my mid 30's, I became pretty ok with being single. Even that it was probably better for me. That's not to say that happens for everyone though.

I'm sorry you've put so much effort in to not be successful. I can completely understand your frustration. Especially when it's worded such that you just need a few tweaks here and there and, you'll become irresistable. I hope you do get your wish though.

It only made my life infinitely worse since all it ended up teaching me is that nothing I do, no matter how hard I try, matters lol. Annnnnnnd also left me with some sort of OCD-Eating Disorder thing that's been a massive pain.