question for people with severe depression that makes them bedridden

[qewpie]

my parents like to think that I only have the feeling of illness/malaise because I spend 23.5 hours of every day horizontal in bed. but i really doubt that. if any of you have been majorly depressed and did not move from your bed for personal hygiene etc. for months at a time, did you feel ill? as if you were sick?

i think my malaise is because i'm chronically ill. i just need to prove something to them

 

[SunnySideSummer]

I had a phase like this , just everything's losed every interest sense and meaning and losed all importance , nothing did matter anymore

But this year its more i stay wake up the most possible afraid of the time left to take a revenge against life even if i dont know what to do

 

[Forever Sleep]

I imagine it's a vicious cycle. The more inactive we are, the harder it gets to do things. Plus obviously- bed sores- things like that.

I still work so- I have to get out of bed for that but, I've become so lazy. I'll sit down as much as I possibly can. If I don't have work on, I'll struggle even more to get out of bed. And then, likely lay down doom scrolling throughout the day.

But it means that just small amounts of time standing up. Going up and down the stairs etc. and, I'm exhausted. Because I've let my fitness drop so much. Plus, feeling shit makes us more miserable.

I just think it's one big feedback loop. The emotions affecting us physically then, the lack of movement affecting us physically even more which hurts us even more emotionally. Then, repeat.

I suppose I'm curious myself though. When people say they can't get out of bed- not even for the toilet? How about food? Does someone bring them food now and again?

But sure- I think it can go from finding it a monumental struggle emotionally to get out of bed to the point I imagine muscles get so wasted, joints become so stiff- that it's physically very hard.

 

[telekon]

tbh yes i did feel a hell of a lot better when i didn't work from home and spend all my hours in bed. you need the blood circulation.

 

[maketner]

I've been in this phase recently and it sucks. I do go to the restroom but mostly order food from DoorDash (which I shouldn't bc of cost). I have also had such a hard time leaving the house.

 

[qewpie]

I've been in this phase recently and it sucks. I do go to the restroom but mostly order food from DoorDash (which I shouldn't bc of cost). I have also had such a hard time leaving the house.

did you feel ill though? like you have a virus sickness?

 

[maketner]

I have been feeling ill but mostly just down :(

 

[itsgone2]

Not eating, no energy, stay in bed. Vicious cycle.

 

[RunDown]

My parents are the same way. I used to run 5 miles a day for funsies and then hit weights for a couple hours. I've been chronically ill for 15 years and have never had the ability to exert energy like that. In fact, exerting too much causes huge crashes. It's like my body is constantly telling me lay down and take it easy.

 

[broken serenity]

Mmm this reminds me of a recovery friendly video!



Edit: And to add my two cents, if I'm noticing myself hitting too many bullet points for depression I try to claw my way out of a few. Lately, it's been a downward spiral but I'm only human.

 

[dontwakemeup]

You can be severely depressed and functional! I work because I have no choice, I don't want to be homeless again. I have no family. If you met me you would never guess how much we are alike. The days I have to work, I try to shower, but I don't make hygiene a priority. I drag myself to work and play the role. I come home and cry, sometimes I cry the whole ride home. I barely eat anymore, just enough to shut my stomach up. I'm always in pain and physically sick. I don't know whats real anymore or if I'm even sick but I feel miserable.

I have no pleasures in life. On my off days, I just rest and do whatever I want. If I want to order a cake, then I will! If I can't shower for 4 days, I simply don't care. If my day is too painful then I abuse my sleeping pills and waste my day.

Do we eat? Yes, but I don't cook anymore. I eat a lot of snacks that taste good.
Do we shower? Barely. I'm lucky if I do 2 a week.
Do we hang out with friends, Absolutely not! We can talk on the phone but at no point I will commit to lunch or having fun.
I'm simply waiting to die.

I'm sorry your mother doesn't understand you. I'm sorry people don't understand us. Depression looks different for everyone.