sserafim
they say it's darkest of all before the dawn
- Sep 13, 2023
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Someone told me that they feel like I'm "putting some sort of shell around [myself]." What does this mean?
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Bruce
Wizard
- Sep 22, 2023
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sserafim
they say it's darkest of all before the dawn
- Sep 13, 2023
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Blurry_Buildings
Just Existing
- Sep 27, 2023
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I think it means that they think you are being emotionally distant. Like not sharing much information about yourself or how your day went or what is happening in your life with them.
They may want to be friends or have a closer relationship. They are probably saying this because they want you to "open up" or talk to them more.
DarkRange55
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- Oct 15, 2023
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sserafim
they say it's darkest of all before the dawn
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
I'd say there are two likely interpretations:
1. I believe you're autistic, correct? Well, if you're not familiar with it, masking is common for autistic people to engage in especially. It may refer to that. And that they feel that.
2. They just feel you don't let other people get emotionally close to you. You don't allow yourself to be emotional and vulnerable around them. Don't let yourself care about them, etc.
I'd say the second is the most likely.
DarkRange55
🎂
- Oct 15, 2023
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My mistake, I misread the post. I thought you meant them. I think @KafkaF is right. Putting up walls so you don't let people get close to you.
Bruce
Wizard
- Sep 22, 2023
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DarkRange55
🎂
- Oct 15, 2023
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sserafim
they say it's darkest of all before the dawn
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
I think that vulnerability is a sign of weakness lol. Also, I've never trusted anyone enough to confide in them
Why? What are normal/most people like?
What kind of closer relationship?Last edited:
sserafim
they say it's darkest of all before the dawn
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
Wdym? I guess I just don't feel comfortable with someone else fulling knowing me. I don't want to fully reveal myself to someone
I can understand that. The more you expose yourself, the more you leave yourself open to be hurt. Though in my mind there is never a risk of that. Nobody can ever truly know someone else fully, in my opinion. But to be known deeply I do think is an incredible experience. It is a high like no other I've ever experienced.
To be truly seen for who you are, and have someone love you not in spite of who you truly are but because of who you truly are. Because they know you and they truly see you. That is something special.
Guy Smiley
Just another lost soul
- Jan 4, 2024
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sserafim
they say it's darkest of all before the dawn
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
I think there are two kinds of people: Those who think they fully know themselves, and those who know better.
I don't think anyone fully knows themselves. We often can and do discover new things about ourselves. I know I do.Last edited:
Pluto
Cat Extremist
- Dec 27, 2020
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Blurry_Buildings
Just Existing
- Sep 27, 2023
- 546
A closer friendship or if they are a family member more conversations together.
Bruce
Wizard
- Sep 22, 2023
- 649
Yeah, you might be right, if it's one thing that people are known for it is honesty. /s
