Discussion Pros and Cons Of Partnering Up

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I can't recall ever seeing this topic discussed and a search didn't pull up any results, either, and I feel it should be. As with anything else in life, there have to be positives and negatives to partnering up for ctb. So for anyone who is contemplating partnering up, let's see if we can come up with a bunch of them so everyone can weigh them adequately and make a decision for themselves based on all the facts. I'll start with one pro and one con, although I have more.

One of the pros, obviously, is to not be alone at the time of ctb, which may reduce the amount of SI simply due to having someone else to help reduce anxiety and to not leave this world alone.

One of the cons may be that one or the other doesn't go through with it and may end up in some type of trouble with the law.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Personally, as an extreme introvert, I can't imagine anything more awkward than CTB with someone you barely know.

con- your partner could end up just being a sexual predator.

pro- they might murder you, so no pesky SI worries.

 

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pro- they might murder you, so no pesky SI worries.

Yeah, that solves the SI thing certainly, but, maybe, at the expense of peacefulness, if that was the plan. I guess no one gets it all, though, huh?

 

[boristafar]

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/partners-megathread.98140/

Also

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...e-1-before-posting.1253/page-137#post-1783134

 

[Rounded Agony]

Pro: you both change your minds but now each have a new person in your life who you can really commiserate with and it leads to a beautiful human connection that makes you both able to live happy lives? (really reachin' here).

Con: you realise in the moment that you absolutely don't want to do it, but they are insistent and violent and try to force you. SI kicks in and you try to defend yourself - either only partially succeeding and you now have an awful lifelong injury, or completely successfully but you had to kill them, for which you may be haunted forever and/or jailed.

 

[boristafar]

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...e-1-before-posting.1253/page-137#post-1783134

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Con: you realise in the moment that you absolutely don't want to do it, but they are insistent and violent and try to force you. SI kicks in and you try to defend yourself - either only partially succeeding and you now have an awful lifelong injury, or completely successfully but you had to kill them, for which you may be haunted forever and/or jailed.

That's really con. This never even entered my mind.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...e-1-before-posting.1253/page-137#post-1783134

What's up with the rules here? We know there are rules to posting in the Partners Thread. And, yes, there are some concerns laid bare in the rules, but certainly not all of them. This thread isn't about finding or advertising for a partner. The intent of this thread is to expose the cons not mentioned, along with some pros, so people can have all the facts and make better decisions. I'm not advocating for partnering or not. That's up to the individuals.

 

[Rounded Agony]

That's really con. This never even entered my mind.

Just noticed you'd posted in the partners megathread - sorry if this scared you off, but probably best to consider all possibilities! I can't imagine partnering with anyone who I couldn't take a good, long while getting to know as a human being first...even then I'd probably still be a bit apprehensive. Which is honestly really depressing.

 

[SamTam33]

I wish there was a way to gauge how serious people were about ctb'ing. I'd love a partner if only to have someone to hug at the end. I'm big on hugs, but I can't recall the last time I had a real one.

I daydream about meeting someone who is as serious about getting out as I am.

But how can you ever know people's true intent? You can't.

For people like us, some who've had a lifetime of being fooled and betrayed and lied to - parterning up with strangers is such a huge risk.

Sorry OP, I didn't follow the rules of the thread. But you pretty much summed up my thoughts with your post.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Just noticed you'd posted in the partners megathread - sorry if this scared you off, but probably best to consider all possibilities! I can't imagine partnering with anyone who I couldn't take a good, long while getting to know as a human being first...even then I'd probably still be a bit apprehensive. Which is honestly really depressing.

LOL.......no that didn't scare me off. Yeah, if anything does come from it, and that's a mighty big if, I plan on vetting any potential partner, as I'm sure they'll be vetting me, as well. I started this thread so that anything I did not think of, pros or cons, can come to light, not just for me, but for everyone.

 

[Side-By-Side]

LOL.......no that didn't scare me off. Yeah, if anything does come from it, and that's a mighty big if, I plan on vetting any potential partner, as I'm sure they'll be vetting me, as well. I started this thread so that anything I did not think of, pros or cons, can come to light, not just for me, but for everyone.

How would one vet a partner?

Are there any links/threads on any guidelines of vetting and protecting oneself when considering a partner?

 

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How would one vet a partner?

Are there any links/threads on any guidelines of vetting and protecting oneself when considering a partner?

Not that I know of. I think you need to vet the same way you would a potential life partner. You need to call upon your experience of reading people, gauge people's reactions in discussions you have, that sort of thing. Trust takes time to build. Even after building all the comfort one could with a potential partner, one really can never know how someone will react at the exact time of ctb. It's a gamble. It's all a gamble. Life is a gamble. In the end I guess it comes down to whether the reward is worth the risk.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Can't say it is something I would feel comfortable doing without an enormous amount of trust- but that's me...

Pro: Some people that believe in an afterlife seem to think you will go there together. Not convinced myself- judgement sounds a bit like a performance review to me- which are usually conducted one on one. Still, I guess you could meet up after- so long as you both end up in the same place.

Con: Whoever discovers you (if you were successful) now has two bodies to come across. I also wonder if authoriries become more curious when there is obviously a pact going on- as in- how did they meet? Did one person convince the other to do it? Which might mean even more focus on sites like this. I honestly don't know how much effort they put into investigating a suicide though.

 

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Con: Whoever discovers you (if you were successful) now has two bodies to come across. I also wonder if authoriries become more curious when there is obviously a pact going on- as in- how did they meet? Did one person convince the other to do it? Which might mean even more focus on sites like this. I honestly don't know how much effort they put into investigating a suicide though.

I'm pretty sure this site is a focus of just about everyone in an authority position. With the advent of phones and people's lives pretty much entirely contained within them, I'm sure, if they're able, they go through them and see if anything can be uncovered. You can be assured there are plenty of people keeping statistics on all of the suicides, so any information uncovered is valuable for them in putting the pieces of the collective suicide puzzle together.

Here's another con with partnering I would like people to think about.

If a couple people partner up and both have a successful ctb, it is not outside the realm of possibility that one or the other's families try to sue the estate of the other. If one of the parties has more assets than the other, and maybe had all of their affairs put in order, such as having a will drafted, if their estate is sued for wrongful death, or something like that, the estate of that party has the legal obligation to defend that lawsuit, which will quickly eat up any assets that person had intended to go to others in his/her family, or even to a charity, upon their death. They may even win a lawsuit and take the assets (after defense expenses) that way. We live in a very litigious society, at least here in the states, where everyone sues everyone, and it's a lot easier to sue (and win) in a civil lawsuit.

So, if your assets going to where you would like them to go is important to you, this should be a consideration in deciding if a partner is the right way to go for you. The problem need not necessarily be the partner you choose, but the family of the partner, after each of your demise. Just something to think about.