People say they want to help but do they really?

[TAW122]

From my experiences and my understanding, no, it's mostly virtue signaling, or basically they are trying to show that they are a good person and stroke their egos. Real help takes real investment, real effort, and the vast majority of people aren't willing nor are they equipped to do so. Of course, the only thing I wish (the majority of) people do is to be honest, but even that is too much to ask for...

 

[BabyYoda]

Their actions (other than words and saying that they want to help) can tell a lot more. But I guess most people aren't really equipped to help so they tend to go in all sorts of directions.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

People want to keep you alive. Then who is really the selfish ? Our lives, our choices.

 

[s1mplem3]

Don't trust anyone, follow your heart.

 

[Pupu]

I think most of the people want to help. 95% atleast. But the thing is that they might have not been in a situation like you are in at that moment so they can't come up with correct words. I bet even them who have expereinced something similar find it hard to tell the correct words. No one can force anyone to heal so helping is not easy thing to do, not for ordinary people and not for professionals either. Then there is people who think they want to help and they are so sure about their good intentions but after all they might be part of the problem why you feel bad. Like if they're showing up those ways of thinking that sickens you already and what are one reason among others why you want to ctb out of this society. If an ordinary person, who most likely wants to help, starts to think why a depressed person thinks the way he does it can shatter his own world view. That is the situation when things go too dark and this helper does just good thing for himself if he leaves so he won't be dragged down by this depressed person. Just an example.

I've had experienced people who tries to help me but instead just worsen my feelings because they exactly are the part of the problem. Once I knew one person who told me not to tell her my miseries because they are too exhausting. It made me cry but not because I got upset, it was genuinely the most beautiful thing someone has said to me. I knew she really had big heart but she was also fragile and I was too heavy company.

 

[Throwmyselfaway]

I believe some people want to help but most are to say hey I helped them and get praise