People on SaSu are weirdly competitive

[StrawberryRed]

SOME people on here are very competitive, it's strange. Firstly, people coming on her and talking about how easy suicide is and that everyone still here is just a pussy and should get it over with (????). Secondly, the constant posts dragging " fake" attempts, if u believed u were going to die I dont see why people keep making up new criteria. Trying to die is trying to die, no matter the method. People are really snobby about methods in general actually. I dont like reading method threads that aren't like SN, or hanging because alot of times it goes from advice to like mocking. Like the poster is too stupid to figure out how to kts- like they're supposed to have experience????? For a community thats main goal is openness and accepting, people on here can be AT TIMES very hostile. I guess this is a common symptom of a lot of mental disorders, so not surprising to see it here, but still annoying. I have fallen into those ways of thinking before so I get the need for people to know ur not joking, but atleast have the decency to keep it to yourself. Its just funny to me, you're trying to kill yourself not win a race man. Chill out, u dont have competition.

 

[Salting the wounds]

it's very funny, i noticed it too, look how the same pattern repeats itself in everything in life, whatever it is. simply a pattern of human behavior, a need to distinguish oneself above the rest. as if our brain was already programmed for competition.

 

[SilentSadness]

I think no one should be mocking anyone for not being able to ctb or not being sure, I think people should not be cruel to each other especially on here. But a lot of people just want to fit in, so they try to make themselves seem like experts. I think this world is exhausting.

 

[Jadeith]

I'd say that for some it's a method of venting or making themselves feel better. Most of us come from a world of constant judgement - friends, family, coworkers, social media. They all try to grade you, compare to others etc. No wonder some members are trying a tad too hard to get noticed one way or another. After all, SaSu is just another community that will judge them, one way or another so they try hard to be seen and to be "judges" too. And if some get too far in the process, you can always report unwanted behavior. Bullying and harassment is not accepted on this site.

 

[G000pie]

I'm new here so I can't really speak of any experiences I've had life, but man, some people are just awful... Like the world crushes us under its heel so much, is it too much to ask to reach out for someone to just listen for a moment, offer some empathy? Apparently for some people. To me, the idea of death is peaceful. Death is peace. There isn't any rush. People should go when they're good and ready, when they're certain they'll have no regrets in their last moments.

Similarly we're all going through unique struggles and what led us to this point is unique to the individual. There's no reason to want to die too little... the very urge to die speaks volumes about what someone's been through already. Nobody should add to that hurt that's already there.

I won't know the true peace I'm looking for till I'm dead, but I sometimes find a bit of it in others who lend an hour without judgement, and hope I can do the same for a few people in my life at least.

 

[whywere]

YES! 100% agree with you @StrawberryRed, as I have been on here going on 5 years and I get the aspect of mental health issues, heavens I got more than my share, HOWEVER to be nasty, zing folks, mock folks, the list goes on is so counterproductive and just damn mean.

I have faced more than my share of age discrimination on here, WHY? I have no idea, as we are ALL the same period. Age is a number that is it and I love helping folks out and doing my darndest to try and give them a smile and maybe just maybe some hope and a breather to think.

We are ALL family here and folks who find pleasure in zinging and giving others crap should rethink as they will also want love, help and the togetherness of SaSu and laughing at others is a short end of the stick and I wish with all my heart that they start looking long term and be kind and help others NOT find pleasure in the short term.

Walter

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I noticed this too and it really is so annoying. Idk why some people here out of all places act like suicide is easy to do and that those who actually want to be dead would have killed themselves already. It makes me hate this world so much more

 

[NonEssential]

Don't think there exists a public place on the internet where you're not going to find pricks.

 

[JesiBel]

Uhmm, I think it's "normal" behavior in virtual environments. I mean, we're practically anonymous here and maybe that's why some people might take the "courage" to act like that...

I know it's not appropriate or there is a comparison, but the same thing happens in fandoms.

I'm not defending them. I just don't find it strange anymore, I can just ignore them...

As I wrote in a previous topic, there is no rush to "leave this world", you have to be extremely determined, seek information and respect/take your time. Your decisions should not be influenced by others. It's even okay to doubt or change your mind, we are a community to support and help each other.

 

[goredpet]

i've noticed this too lol. "i can kill myself better than you can, buddy!!!"
…like, okay?
i'll also never understand the people calling us pussies because if they can sit up here and type that, they haven't killed themselves yet either

 

[Aurora Vanderlux]

i've noticed this too lol. "i can kill myself better than you can, buddy!!!"
…like, okay?
i'll also never understand the people calling us pussies because if they can sit up here and type that, they haven't killed themselves yet either

Anyone who comes here to make fun of suicidal people can get out of here.

 

[human909]

I also noticed it, i don't get why people just try and compete with one another. If you are trying to recover just try to figure out a way to do that on this site or anywhere else, if you want peace like me (ctb) then just find the stuff that you need or wait until you're ready. No need to compete with other people on here.

 

[whirlpool8012]

Anyone who comes here to make fun of suicidal people can get out of here.

Can you PM me? it doesnt let me PM you

 

[AliceTheGoon]

Nobody's less competitive than me, I challenge anyone who says different.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I challenge anyone who says different.

Different

 

[SchrodingerIsDed]

SOME people on here are very competitive, it's strange. Firstly, people coming on her and talking about how easy suicide is and that everyone still here is just a pussy and should get it over with (????). Secondly, the constant posts dragging " fake" attempts, if u believed u were going to die I dont see why people keep making up new criteria. Trying to die is trying to die, no matter the method. People are really snobby about methods in general actually. I dont like reading method threads that aren't like SN, or hanging because alot of times it goes from advice to like mocking. Like the poster is too stupid to figure out how to kts- like they're supposed to have experience????? For a community thats main goal is openness and accepting, people on here can be AT TIMES very hostile. I guess this is a common symptom of a lot of mental disorders, so not surprising to see it here, but still annoying. I have fallen into those ways of thinking before so I get the need for people to know ur not joking, but atleast have the decency to keep it to yourself. Its just funny to me, you're trying to kill yourself not win a race man. Chill out, u dont have competition.

CTB is not fucking easy. That's for sure. That's why most people end up getting drunk or high to do it. Our innate SI is powerful. We don't really want to die, none of us. It's just that a lot of us don't have much of a choice. It's pure torture or nothing, and nothing sounds a hell of a lot better.

But yeah. Humans are competitive sometimes. It's also just a personality type, and males especially with testosterone will have competition. It's good for growth, sometimes. If you have a rival, you can one-up each other. But it does depend on the personality type. Other personality types are more cooperative, and that's usually the feminine virtue style. Men on a football team will constantly be giving each other shit, while women tend to be more supportive and empathetic--as a standard, not absolute: my ex girlfriend was a real competitive asshole.

I also admit, as a man who holds to stoic and masculine ideology, ctb'ing without blood and gore and being able to just ultra-violence myself wounds my pride, too. Most men go out by gun. Of course, I'm also not most men. But, yeah. Can't deny that is a no if and or buts about it way. But I guess part of my issue is that I adopted the feminine virtues, which doesn't work too well as a man.

Anyway. Dead is dead. Method, as you say, really doesn't matter in the end. And getting there is pretty difficult.

But yeah. People is the way they is. We get emotional about it, they get emotional about it. Just how it is. I recently got into it on here for feeling like I was being misunderstood, and they were feeling like I was being rude to an OG OP. Those conflicts inevitably happen. But yeah, you also bring up a good point--people who are on this board aren't exactly in the most stable point in their lives, so we can get triggered a bit easier. Or a lot easier.

All that is to say I BET I CAN CTB WAY BETTER THAN YOU OP!

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

MY METHOD is better than anyone else's here.


lol...jk.

 

[sunsetting]

It's almost like there's elo and ranking for suicidal tendencies lol

 

[wiggy]

Being critical of methods which are known to be ineffective or are completely novel but have obvious flaws is one of the best things about a place like this. The last thing you want is for someone to try to CTB by lighting their head on fire, only to fail and survive with gruesome injury, confined to a hospital and unable to even carry out another attempt because they've been placed on suicide watch. The amount of people who will post about attempting to commit suicide by jumping from low heights is very concerning. I'm not suggesting these people are stupid, they're just new and it's not like the particulars of suicide are common sense knowledge if you haven't been hanging around suicide forums for a while. If you can dissuade anyone from fruitlessly hurting themselves I think that's a very good thing.

 

[Higurashi415]

Can't speak about others really, but the thing is... injury in general but brain damage specifically scares the hell out of me.
And besides that, after an attempt there is sometimes ER and almost always a psych ward of some kind, which for most is scary.
I struggle to see what competitiveness has to do with this

 

[Timelapse]

I like silly humour and I sometimes talk silly.. but i dont make fun of people... I do post useless method questions that could have been easily found in PPH (like if Ativan was enough but it turns out I need a heart medication aswell) so I havent tried since.. i dont feel like I'm competing with anyone... I'm just brutally honest and open so i speak my mind with restraints as to not ridicule anyone....

I am a narcissist and I loath myself. or I think I am.. I'm gonna take a narcissist test.

 

[theboy]

I don't know what SASU was like in the old days. Maybe the same thing happened

 

[genie]

I wouldn't mock but some methods (such as CTB by standing in front of a moving train) should be discouraged as it is making someone else technically kill you. And some methods would have such low success rate it could leave the poster in a worse state and suffer more. Still, there's no need to be mean about it, just give factual reasons why some methods may not work well.