KuriGohan&Kamehameha
想死不能 - 想活不能
- Nov 23, 2020
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In an internet group for disabled and chronically ill people that I follow, there'e person who keeps making motivational posts about attitude and funding joy in the little things, while also painting euthanasia and such out to be bad/wrong choices. Which I am so used to seeing this type of content online that I don't bother engaging with it.
However, I saw another user bring up an interesting point, because the OP had discussed how their relatives talked them out of euthanasia. This person has been taken care of by relatives the entire time they have been ill and not had to work, and even their adult child has provided for them. When this was pointed out as a potential reason for why they might be able to feel more positive compared to others who don't have those family ties, they doubled down and said they simply don't wallow in their illness like others.
But I would say that the amount of support given by their family is likely the reason why this internet stranger has such a positive attitude and tries to spread that view. Familial love gave them a reason to be positive. If they were not being bankrolled by relatives and provided with a safe, stable place to live, would they have the same attitude?
It is infinitely frustrating when these people try to push positivity on others in completely different circumstances, then have some cognitive dissonance about the things they do have to be thankful for in spite of other hardships. In that situation, I'm sure there are multiple factors eliciting a more positive, hopeful lifestyle, because you're literally being cared for and have financial freedom. There are so many sick and disabled people out there who are just forced to work or live in poverty and have 0 support, continually pushing their bodies past the limit in order to survive, and it feels disingenuous to tell others that we are wallowing in our illness when we simply don't have those reasons to be positive.
Though this is a problem I have always had with support groups in general, it's not the truly fucked people who are leading the conversations. I have never been in a group where I truly had lots in common with other people.
However, I saw another user bring up an interesting point, because the OP had discussed how their relatives talked them out of euthanasia. This person has been taken care of by relatives the entire time they have been ill and not had to work, and even their adult child has provided for them. When this was pointed out as a potential reason for why they might be able to feel more positive compared to others who don't have those family ties, they doubled down and said they simply don't wallow in their illness like others.
But I would say that the amount of support given by their family is likely the reason why this internet stranger has such a positive attitude and tries to spread that view. Familial love gave them a reason to be positive. If they were not being bankrolled by relatives and provided with a safe, stable place to live, would they have the same attitude?
It is infinitely frustrating when these people try to push positivity on others in completely different circumstances, then have some cognitive dissonance about the things they do have to be thankful for in spite of other hardships. In that situation, I'm sure there are multiple factors eliciting a more positive, hopeful lifestyle, because you're literally being cared for and have financial freedom. There are so many sick and disabled people out there who are just forced to work or live in poverty and have 0 support, continually pushing their bodies past the limit in order to survive, and it feels disingenuous to tell others that we are wallowing in our illness when we simply don't have those reasons to be positive.
Though this is a problem I have always had with support groups in general, it's not the truly fucked people who are leading the conversations. I have never been in a group where I truly had lots in common with other people.
