People deleting you from social media

[TheGoodGuy]

And no I am not young.

It makes me so sad and depressed when I see another childhood friend or acquaintance has deleted me from e.g. Facebook because it says they don´t care at all about me anymore and if I died it wouldn´t matter to them. I like still having past friends and acquaintances as friends to nostalgicly view some old pictures of them from time to time from back when we were friends and life was good.

To me who live in the past they´re still very much part of my life and my happy memories of us having fun and living life together but they apparently don´t feel the same way about me, they have new friends now and another life so the past doesn´t exist to them but it does to me it´s the only thing I have left is my memories. So yeah it hurts very much to see another old friend has deleted me because it´s also the last connection we have to each other so by deleting me they are cutting me completely out of their life and have decided that I don´t matter at all to them anymore. Does anyone else feel like this or is it just stupid nostalgic me?

 

[UKscotty]

Getting rid of social media is the best thing we can do for our mental health.

 

[unabletocope]

I feel this as well, feels like you've gone wrong and them moving on just reinforces it

 

[Silent Raindrops]

I got rid of FB in 2014, and haven't regretted it.

Sadly though, I've had people block me on their phone and never speak to me again for whatever reason.

Same method I guess.

 

[Meteora]

I feel it the same. But facebook brings people together who in real life wouldn't be friends. So it is more "followers" for a period of time, not friends.
I don't delete others. Sometimes I just unfollow their news-feed.

 

[theboy]

i have contacted people with whom i had a close relationship in the past but they don't respond or stop talking to me at the drop of a hat. it's sad and you feel rejected.

 

[divinemistress36]

Absolutely. It hurts like hell the older you get the more friends you loose they move on with their life . I always cry when I look at old pictures. Facebook is the worst

 

[Deleted member 65988]

That's just how the dice rolls, it's kinda like being dead in a way, your existence is nothing for these people to be concerned about anymore. Never used FB though or any other social media to keep up with people.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Absolutely. It hurts like hell the older you get the more friends you loose they move on with their life . I always cry when I look at old pictures. Facebook is the worst

I feel the same I get so sad looking at those old pictures because it was so long ago it was a completely different world a world I once thrived in where I had fun and was happy and that world no longer exists.

The problem is also as you said the older you get the more friends you loose and they move on with their lives where I simply don´t I am stuck in the past or maybe rather a limbo because the past world doesn´t exist anymore but I can´t move on "to the next stage in life" I haven´t even lived what supposed to be my last step in life my twenties where people party, experience the world and travel I just sat in my room basically.

 

[divinemistress36]

Hopefully you experience the world in your 30s then :)

 

[CTB Dream]

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[hadenough58]

I see it as they were never true friends and are no lost but rather just good time acquaintances.
We are born alone and I pretty much live alone and expect and indeed plan to die alone.

 

[Sivit]

Friends are people you talk to on a regular basis
What happens when you don't talk to for a while is that you 2 become more distant to each other
I guess its a bit more different IRL but I met so many strangers online its hard to refer to people as friends

 

[brokeandbroken]

And no I am not young.

It makes me so sad and depressed when I see another childhood friend or acquaintance has deleted me from e.g. Facebook because it says they don´t care at all about me anymore and if I died it wouldn´t matter to them. I like still having past friends and acquaintances as friends to nostalgicly view some old pictures of them from time to time from back when we were friends and life was good.

To me who live in the past they´re still very much part of my life and my happy memories of us having fun and living life together but they apparently don´t feel the same way about me, they have new friends now and another life so the past doesn´t exist to them but it does to me it´s the only thing I have left is my memories. So yeah it hurts very much to see another old friend has deleted me because it´s also the last connection we have to each other so by deleting me they are cutting me completely out of their life and have decided that I don´t matter at all to them anymore. Does anyone else feel like this or is it just stupid nostalgic me?

I had something like 500 or so "friends" in February of 2022. I deleted all of my classmates and people in the same university. As I didn't feel like I had any. I wanted to see if any of them would reach out or add me back. None did. I also did this again with everyone else on my friends list. Once again 0 did. I wanted to see if I truly had any friends. I got my answer.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I had something like 500 or so "friends" in February of 2022. I deleted all of my classmates and people in the same university. As I didn't feel like I had any. I wanted to see if any of them would reach out or add me back. None did. I also did this again with everyone else on my friends list. Once again 0 did. I wanted to see if I truly had any friends. I got my answer.

Feels like this one could go both ways I get what you were trying to do but what if they feel like me then they might think you deleted them because you don´t want them in your life anymore I doubt the 100 people who deleted me did so to test if I wanted to add them back and if so I feel like it´s a bad strategy because I am too anxious to try and add them back because if they ignore me or write something negative towards me it would hurt even more coming from a person who used to be my friend.

 

[brokeandbroken]

Feels like this one could go both ways I get what you were trying to do but what if they feel like me then they might think you deleted them because you don´t want them in your life anymore I doubt the 100 people who deleted me did so to test if I wanted to add them back and if so I feel like it´s a bad strategy because I am too anxious to try and add them back because if they ignore me or write something negative towards me it would hurt even more coming from a person who used to be my friend.

Does it have flaws absolutely. For instance it's easy to not notice. That said when you are incredibly isolated you don't have many options. Honest truth... If they didn't care to find out why. I'm not sure they are worth it. I mean how many facebook friends aren't really your friends? How many do you talk to? How many aren't even really your friends. How many care about you. I just kind of realized most I hadn't spoken to in years. I wanted to know how many were my friends. I got my answer. Yes you are correct Of course 100 didn't.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Does it have flaws absolutely. For instance it's easy to not notice. That said when you are incredibly isolated you don't have many options. Honest truth... If they didn't care to find out why. I'm not sure they are worth it. I mean how many facebook friends aren't really your friends? How many do you talk to? How many aren't even really your friends. How many care about you. I just kind of realized most I hadn't spoken to in years. I wanted to know how many were my friends. I got my answer. Yes you are correct Of course 100 didn't.

Yeah I actually very dislike how unnoticed it goes when people get deleted as friends they should send a notification both so I know who unfriended me (in my case over 100 in a short time) but also in general, it would kinda give people the second chance you´re looking for so people might write to you asking you why you deleted them or maybe say they still would like to stay in touch but this current way it´s ghosting people.

 

[roo]

especially when they only do it to u and not ur other friends, like why am i singled out and less important. i deleted social media n its sm more peaceful

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

I've realized how little I matter to people when you do see people unfriend or block you. I found out a friend died recently because their mother let me know. It's like sometimes social media is incredibly useful but also a reminder of how cruel people can be. That people are disposible to one another. I've always felt like i've lived at the wrong time - my values are so different than anyone else's but it reminds me I won't have to suffer for long

 

[grahf]

It makes me so sad and depressed when I see another childhood friend or acquaintance has deleted me from e.g. Facebook because it says they don´t care at all about me anymore and if I died it wouldn´t matter to them.

Sorry to hear about your situation
At least they tell you and not just hanging you with no answer
I tried chat my friends too and they never reply

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Sorry to hear about your situation
At least they tell you and not just hanging you with no answer
I tried chat my friends too and they never reply

Yeah that hurts even more which is also why if they delete me I am too afraid to send a friend request or write to them in case I get ignored or they write something back that would hurt my feelings, I tried that with an old friend where he had deleted me and I tried to write a few times but he didn´t reply and we used to be very good friends so that is how you know they wouldn´t care if you lived or died.

 

[mtoro998]

Sometimes I find out that they never really deleted you. They deleted thier Facebook or deactivated it temporarily. If they really just deleted you for no reason then that person isnt a true friend. Real friends will stay around.

 

[grahf]

Yeah that hurts even more which is also why if they delete me I am too afraid to send a friend request or write to them in case I get ignored or they write something back that would hurt my feelings, I tried that with an old friend where he had deleted me and I tried to write a few times but he didn´t reply and we used to be very good friends so that is how you know they wouldn´t care if you lived or died.

I'm afraid message them again even they are not block me
I afraid even know they never consider me their friend, when I message them I need meet them and they didn't reply it's break my heart

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I'm afraid message them again even they are not block me
I afraid even know they never consider me their friend, when I message them I need meet them and they didn't reply it's break my heart

Same it really breaks my heart that people you used to be so close with couldn´t care less about you now.

 

[grahf]

Same it really breaks my heart that people you used to be so close with couldn´t care less about you now.

I guess we never had our true friend, I hope we could find our true friend who stay with us and try to understand us

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I guess we never had our true friend, I hope we could find our true friend who stay with us and try to understand us

Forgot to answer this a while back. I took a little offense to this although you meant well I view my childhood friends and some friends from my teen years as a true friend as they could be I know they didn´t stuck around but there are many reasons for that and sometimes people just drift apart unfortunately but I get what you mean I would have loved to have a friend who would stand by me through everything and didn´t feel like getting new friends (which eventually would replace me)

 

[BoredAndAll]

I can relate to being nostalgic about the past. That why I've gotten rid of all of my "real" social media accounts. Deleting accounts with 10+ of activity on them was one of the most liberating acts I have done for myself. Going from being terminally online with ever looming FOMO to my current neanderthal state was a huge jump but it was for sure worth it. I've only kept my spam accounts for job-related lurking and messaging app accounts for my friend circle. It helped me filter out all the people who actually care about me somewhat. I still keep memories of past friendships in drives but I don't find myself looking back at them much now that I'm not bombarded by them every time I open my profile.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I can relate to being nostalgic about the past. That why I've gotten rid of all of my "real" social media accounts. Deleting accounts with 10+ of activity on them was one of the most liberating acts I have done for myself. Going from being terminally online with ever looming FOMO to my current neanderthal state was a huge jump but it was for sure worth it. I've only kept my spam accounts for job-related lurking and messaging app accounts for my friend circle. It helped me filter out all the people who actually care about me somewhat. I still keep memories of past friendships in drives but I don't find myself looking back at them much now that I'm not bombarded by them every time I open my profile.

I would never delete my Facebook though, it holds too much sentimental value to me even though it´s digital it´s still holds close to the same amount of sentimental value as physical things I am nostalgic about and I find it nostalgic sometimes and see the "Facebook memories" where I can a see a post I made 15 years ago and to think I wrote that all those years ago and the people who commented on it used to be in my social circle is nostalgic to me I also find FB practical to get in touch with people.

Also I don´t know if you fall into this category but for people who think I shouldn´t dwell in the past and just delete social media like FB I don´t see why. Nostalgia is all I have, sure for people who are able to live in the present and have hope and dreams for the future they could probably get rid of social media or nostalgic things because they have plenty to live for in the future but for people like me there is nothing in the future for me only more suffering and it has been that way for over 10+ years so it´s only natural that I want to go back to a time where life was good and since the only worse and worse for me for over a decade more precicely the last 16 years actually it is safe to assume it´s not going to change ever and in order for it to make sense to discard of the old a person has to enjoy or at least not despise their present life not just for a few month but is has to be their default state of mind because you can´t just get rid of all the old and have nothing to replace it with if I did that I would have nothing to replace it with so I don´t want to get rid of things that can bring me nostalgia (the closest thing I have to happiness) not even a Facebook page because nostalgia is all I have left and the only thing that brings me any sort of joy even if it is a bittersweet feeling of it.

 

[grahf]

Forgot to answer this a while back. I took a little offense to this although you meant well I view my childhood friends and some friends from my teen years as a true friend as they could be I know they didn´t stuck around but there are many reasons for that and sometimes people just drift apart unfortunately but I get what you mean I would have loved to have a friend who would stand by me through everything and didn´t feel like getting new friends (which eventually would replace me)

Sorry for my bad English, I'm sorry if I make you uncomfortable i didn't meant bad or anything, I guess you ever had true friends unlike me who never had true friends, thanks for letting me know if you took little offense from my reply

 

[DyingToDie123]

I saw how long this thread was and thought it'd be a bunch of people telling you your petty or something.

I feel the exact same way. I'm really sensitive to rejection so this is a really painful feeling for me.