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Absolutely. I'vE ignored all calls and messages from all my friends who love me for at least 4 months now. In my head I think I'm making it easier for them when I ctb so they can get used to not hearing from me when in reality all I'm doing is making them worry more. I can't even bring myself to lie to them and say "I'm okay" because i know that would be a fabrication to what I truly feel. I just hope they know I still think about them and miss them dearly
Exactly, it always feels there's no way out of people worrying and it's awful.
I'm considering doing the same, is it easy to ignore such things or not?
It really depends. Part of the fact I don't reply or keep in touch with them is because I feel ashamed of myself and also guilty that I haven't returned their calls or text. I've left it for so long now, 4 months is long time without seeing your friends so I've gotten used to it now. I'm debating on meeting up with them again before I CTB to hopefully give them a last memory of me before I go but I don't know. I've developed a strong social anxiety now since isolating myself so exposing myself to the world again seems scary to me. I feel like a shit friend definitely. Do you feel like you can ignore your friends?
definitely, the human nature makes it all too hard.
It would be good to do so, i plan to do the same before i ctb. I feel i could but it would be hard to get used to in a way.
Me too, i feel i must be awful to deal with.
To be honest I just don't believe people when they say it. I'm not sure if I ever will again believe someone does. When everyone you know... shows you how little they care. It becomes impossible to. Frankly even the people who do say they care.... The only way to really prove to me you care is to show me. People aren't willing/to lazy to do that.
If it makes you feel any better, I would care about you regardless of this. I don't think you can 'waste' care. Let me know if you want someone who you don't need to worry about hurting to care about you.
That's true, the main reason i struggle so much is because the people who care do show it at times. It makes disbelieving them harder.
Thank you, if you are willing to care about me i will care back for you.
I have a few circles of friends I have been ignoring like this for a year and a half now. It still hurts. I still want to reach out to them, but all I can think of to say is "im sorry, you dont deserve me, Im an asshole" and who wants to hear that? So I just don't respond to their attempts to reach me...one of these days I know I will reconnect, at least with some, I just feel like I need to feel good about myself first, like I have myself partially together enough to actually share something meaningful with them again...
The question is, what hurts more? The pain of being alive, or the pain of saying goodbye? For me, it is the latter, and this is why I am still alive. As a result, I am actually choosing to live, and this helps me move forward.
